dating sites a scam or can they work?

Yes, they are FOR MONEY.

I didn't even know folks still used paid dating sites. I've never used one, I met my girl at church. I know a lot who've used dating apps. I think they're free. Not just talking about Tinder either, there's a bunch.

If you stick to the free dating sites then you're definitely not being scammed out of money. As to whether they work, the point of those sites isn't actually to find you a relationship, but rather to bring you into contact with people who you wouldn't have otherwise met, and whether that turns into a relationship is up to the the individuals.

Perhaps even all the free sites are after something, so be careful at least -
information, trust, email/ phone/ local address/ shopping preferences/ commercial interests .... all part of what sites are phishing for , gathering from every source they can, and not for good purposes.....

sunshine100 said:

Do you see or believe that dating sites are just a scam for the people to make money?Or do you believe that they can work for a relationship?

Click to expand...

If you are having trouble, it's most likely the wings...never a good idea for first dates.

I've never used one but I suppose they could work. And that's not to say some aren't a scam, you'd just have to judge them for yourself.

There are several Christian forums on the net, that might be as good a place as any, or anywhere people might gather. Seems to me it would be all about the odds, the more you put yourself out there, however you choose to do that, the better the odds are.

sunshine100 said:

Do you see or believe that dating sites are just a scam for the people to make money?Or do you believe that they can work for a relationship?

Click to expand...

I tried several years ago before my wife and I met and got together, none of them amounted to anything. I think they're mostly used for "hooking up", and there are just too many people willing to lie and pretend to get what they're after. Many of them are scams in the fact they create "shill" profiles, that is fake profiles to attract more people. I wouldn't be surprised if certain sites re-use edited versions of former members profiles, at least the more underground less popular or known sites. Even messageboards use robots, so imagine what people running a dating site will do to drum up income.

met my former hubby in college...picture a young robert plant with soft blonde curls entering your classroom in a business suit...he was an A student, an undercover rock and roll god under his pin stripes..there is no ad for that...

yes, I think sites are scams or fronts....try a class somewhere or look around at the grocery store as guys often need help from a pretty young lass on what to cook for dinner

go where guys go...try the gym or the soccer field and watch a game or volunteer to ref or serve concessions or volunteer coach

guys often ask for help at the laundromat too...look cute as a button while you innocently wash your clothing

guys love to help too...ask for advice on what is the difference between a Phillips and a standard screwdriver or for a power drill lesson...

my new hubby and I fell deeper in love over putting together our new furniture set

we worked up a sweat putting together our home, learning how to use tools, paste up wall paper, etc..

when I was single, I dated a guy from a newspaper ad, and he was about 5 feet tall and as soft as a marshmallow, not the tall handsome stud he said he was...

he had no muscles all...he was made of pudding

I believe that favorable pheromones is an important factor in finding a good match. There are other even more important factors, but that one you can't gauge any other way, except in person. Some would call it chemistry. It is possible to like somebody's photo and be totally turned off by their pheromones, even if you still think that they are nice people.

Once you have met such a person IRL, email and texts are a great way to connect and learn more about each other.

sunshine100 said:

Do you see or believe that dating sites are just a scam for the people to make money?Or do you believe that they can work for a relationship?

Click to expand...

Research shows that 1/2 of marriages are due to meeting people online.
How Many People Who Meet On Dating Apps Get Married?

LovebirdsFlying said:

Well.... I happen to have met my husband on a free dating site. We lived thousands of miles away and would never have found each other without the internet.

But I'll grant that it rarely works out the way it did for us. Most of the dating-site men I had connected with before him were, I'll phrase it as delicately as possible, looking for something other than good old-fashioned love and marriage. They might *say* that's what they're looking for, but I think most of us can figure out what they were really after. One man openly admitted he was married and not planning to leave his wife. He just wanted a side chick. Even after I told him I wasn't interested, he still kept trying to contact me, until I blocked him.

I think for the lightning to have struck at exactly the right time and place, God must have been involved. I credit Him more than I do the dating site.

Click to expand...

That sounds just like me and my husband! We are very happy 8 years later. I would also say, that because there are many not genuine people on dating sites, protect yourself. Always meet in public places, have a mate watching until you signal them it's okay. Always have your phone handy, never rely on someone you just met for transport. Be up front about what you're looking for, and have fun meeting a range of people.

LovebirdsFlying said:

One of the first things that convinced me my husband was different from the others was this: When we started exchanging photos, in one of the pictures he sent me, he wasn't wearing a shirt. But before he scanned the photo in, he cut out a little paper "shirt" and taped it to the picture. I appreciated the modesty, and it helped show me his intentions were pure. We spent a lot of time exchanging e-mails, letters, and phone calls before we met face to face. Of course it had to be that way, since we lived so far apart that we couldn't actually meet face to face until one of us moved. Which one was it? Me. I flew thousands of miles to meet him. But he paid for the flight, so he was taking a chance too.

Click to expand...

Their nature does show, even online! For our first meeting after months of talking, I invited Rhino to the town annual barn dance which was something he'd never done before. Most of the small town was there including most of my church and all my Best friends, and my kids. He drove hundreds of miles to be there cos he suspected I might be The One, braved it, talked and danced with everyone, got scrutinised by everyone and passed! Eventually I moved to his town though. Better job opportunities! Nice to find someone else who took the plunge and can see how God can use internet opportunities to bring you together with the Best person for you.

Sabertooth said:

I believe that favorable pheromones is an important factor in finding a good match. There are other even more important factors, but that one you can't gauge any other way, except in person. Some would call it chemistry. It is possible to like somebody's photo and be totally turned off by their pheromones, even if you still think that they are nice people.

Once you have met such a person IRL, email and texts are a great way to connect and learn more about each other.

Click to expand...

Yup. I was engaged 12 days after meeting my wife, 18 years ago.
Supposedly relationships started online last longer.

SkyWriting said:

Yup.* I was engaged 12 days after meeting my wife, 18 years ago.
Supposedly relationships started online last longer.

Click to expand...

To be clear, I don't consider on-line dating to be bad, just deficient in that one area.

*I don't understand how your statement was in agreement with my post.

yeshuaslavejeff said:

Perhaps even all the free sites are after something, so be careful at least -
information, trust, email/ phone/ local address/ shopping preferences/ commercial interests .... all part of what sites are phishing for , gathering from every source they can, and not for good purposes.....

Click to expand...

But it's not just dating sites that do that. So if you're going to stay away from sites that could potentially use personal information then it's a lot more than dating sites that you'd need to avoid.

zono1 said:

met my former hubby in college...picture a young robert plant with soft blonde curls entering your classroom in a business suit...he was an A student, an undercover rock and roll god under his pin stripes..there is no ad for that...

yes, I think sites are scams or fronts....try a class somewhere or look around at the grocery store as guys often need help from a pretty young lass on what to cook for dinner

go where guys go...try the gym or the soccer field and watch a game or volunteer to ref or serve concessions or volunteer coach

guys often ask for help at the laundromat too...look cute as a button while you innocently wash your clothing

guys love to help too...ask for advice on what is the difference between a Phillips and a standard screwdriver or for a power drill lesson...

Click to expand...

While these are ways that might lead to meeting someone, there's go guarantee that they will work. So if the more traditional ways of meeting people aren't working for somebody then why shouldn't they try dating sites? That's a question I've asked before but I've never got a good answer.

Citanul said:

While these are ways that might lead to meeting someone, there's go guarantee that they will work. So if the more traditional ways of meeting people aren't working for somebody then why shouldn't they try dating sites? That's a question I've asked before but I've never got a good answer.

Click to expand...

This doesn't depend on what people think is okay, except for the ungodly.

There may be many reasons found in Yahweh's Word, Scripture, why they shouldn't even look at dating sites. A few potential examples follow:

Those who seek Yahweh's Kingdom, His Way, as written in His Word, following His Way of Life, His Instructions,
do not seek to learn the ways of the heathen nations/peoples,
nor to practice their ways (Psalm 1; Psalm 119; et al >>
Jeremiah 10:2 This is what the LORD says: "Do not learn the ways of ...

https://biblehub.com/jeremiah/10-2.htm
This is what the LORD says: "Do not learn the ways of the nations or be terrified by signs in the heavens, though the nations are terrified by them. New Living ...
Deuteronomy 18:9 When you enter the land the LORD your God is ...

https://biblehub.com/deuteronomy/18-9.htm
New International Version When you enter the land the LORD your God is giving you, do not learn to imitate the detestable ways of the nations there. New Living ...
Deuteronomy 12:30 be careful not to be ensnared by their ways after ...

https://biblehub.com/deuteronomy/12-30.htm
and after they have been destroyed before you, be careful not to be ensnared by inquiring about their gods, saying, "How do these nations serve their gods?
Do not learn the way of the nations | Set Apart People

www.setapartpeople.com/do-not-learn-the-way-of-the-nations-nor-do-what-they-do
Jan 1, 2015 - It matters to our Heavenly Father what we do. He warned us against learning and doing the practices of the nations and with good reason.

sunshine100 said:

Do you see or believe that dating sites are just a scam for the people to make money?Or do you believe that they can work for a relationship?

Click to expand...

i think they can work, and i know they do, at least here where i live. Here you can choose to be a paying member, and you can choose not to. If you are paying you will get more bennefits, you can apply to more people, receive more posts etc. There can possibly be scam sites out there, but i have not seen any yet. I would go for the unpaid membership first if that´s an option, to see what the site is about. If people here think it´s soooooo dangerous to be a paying member, then this site must be very dangerous too, because you can be a paying member here too. There is a time and place to be sceptical, but what´s most important is to be realistic, and see things the way they are. Anything on the internet can harm you, still people use the internet daily.