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I always forgive and offer to support him if he’ll just be honest about it.
Then continue to love, in Christ Jesus, and always do what is best for his salvation, and for your children (whom God hath given you to raise to the glory of God, and are as steward over them, they are talents given you).
He is a lover of "pleasure", more than a lover of God.
It is a very serious addiction, since it involves internal chemicals and hormones. It is "self"-perpetuating. [Staff edit].
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I’m not even sure how to approach this anymore as each time seems to escalate and him just finding better ways to hide it.
The wicked heart is deceitful above all things. It plans on how to sin in secrecy so as not to be disturbed. It can plan weeks in advance. It looks for opportunity to sin, to please itself, at every moment. It is a
deadly enemy in the home.
It is adultery at the heart of it and is grounds for separation, even divorce. If you are that concerned for your children, remove them (and even yourself) from the picture if necessary. Do not play around with them in the picture.
He needs to understand the choice he needs to make, and it is going to cost. However, be careful. Such persons may turn violent.
Do not take any of these to another 'man', and confide in them.
I wish we could afford counseling but can’t.
Better to sell some things and raise the funds if necessary. Better to beg friends for help if necessary. Better to go without somethings and to raise the money.
And I’ve asked him about going but he says no.
He is frightened/scared of being in the open. Afraid of admitting his addiction. Light must come to this one way or another. If he refuses to go, then you may have to turn such actions into the justice system so that he might receive help, and to proctect your and other children.
You can always take your computer to the police station and have them search the whole HD without him knowing. If they find anything incriminating, they can begin the process of 'arresting' the situation. It may be the best situation.
How should I handle this?
With caution, with tender loving care, with all seriousness of saving his soul from utter destruction, with all gravity of responsibility towards your God-given children (for if they are damaged, you will be responsible before God).
Fast and Pray (today) for wisdom and guidance and God will direct your path.
Contact a inappropriate content addiction center and ask for help.