These, of course, can mean different things to different people.
Yes, faith in Jesus, and how is the person helping me to please and obey God and learn how to be and how to love any and all people?
Yes, family is important, but how much is it wise to invest attention and efforts with a family?
"No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier." (2 Timothy 2:4)
So, there can be good ways to share with family, but we need to not let ourselves get tangled in a family worldly matter. But one can exploit a worldly situation, for God's purpose. But do not let wrong people get you under their power.
And Jesus has us loving others as ourselves; so yes He will have us doing good to others not in our own family . . . or church family. And our real family is the people of God who live His way and are helping us to get real correction and maturing. For our own good, we need to spend time with these people.
"I will not be brought under the power of any" (in 1 Corinthians 6:12).
Do not allow money matters to have power over you, to get you into complaining and arguing and bitterness. Even if the other does not do what is right with money, I am not excused from the basic rules of Christian relating > no arguing, no bitterness, no complaining. And not lording myself over another to make that person do what I dictate >
"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
4) Intimacy issues (sex, etc.)
It is good to discover how intimacy is deeper than physical involvement. The pleasure of physical involvement can fool us into supposing we are being intimate, since we are feeling nice. But God's love is better, nicer feeling, and deeper.
So, these four things, yes . . . need to be dealt with. But I suspect we can fool ourselves into setting up a shopping list of things we check off in evaluating a person. And a problem with this is how someone can mimic what we are looking for. They might not even be trying to, if they are enamored. And you're hearing what you want to hear, when you too are enamored. But the person could be making you feel good, so your system is producing oxycontin and you could be getting hooked on that oxycontin that you are feeling with this person.
And later on ones can blame the other for being dishonest or not serious about the relationship. The other does not do what you dictate. Point at the other, always.
So, why not first make sure with God? Then you are responsible for your choice, you can't later say the other tricked you or turned out different than he or she was showing, at first. You make sure with God who knows the present and the future of the person. And, this way, you are responsible for the choice you make, including are you capable of being honest in communication with God so you can obey how He guides you about a person.