- Oct 21, 2018
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Growing up, I've heard from Christians that God has "someone special" picked out and reserved for us all. My grandma frequently talks about finding "the one", and how she just knew when she met my grandpa that they were going to get married. My youth pastor when I was twelve told us that God has someone already appointed for us that we're supposed to be with.
My mom disagrees with this. She goes by the thinking that there are many people we will meet in our lives that we could be compatible with. But when you find the person who you decide to marry, you commit to them. That's it, all other choices are off the table. They weren't "the one" per say but they are the one you have picked.
Personally, I have developed a belief that is a bit of both worlds. I think that God doesn't specifically pick a person for everyone. Yes, he knows if we will get married and if so, who we will marry. But he doesn't set aside someone just for us. In the Bible it talks about how it's better NOT to be married in some cases. So I don't believe that everyone has someone God chooses for them to be with. However, I believe it's possible that some people do have a handpicked mate. An example is a man and woman who used to attend our church. He said that his wife was completely not who he had in mind to marry. She wasn't even his type. But God put it on his heart to marry her and together they have adopted and raised three beautiful children. In that case, I believe God did pick her for him.
What do you think? Do you think everyone has a specific partner they're meant to be with or it's just up to us? Do you think you can know when you meet "The one?"
My mom disagrees with this. She goes by the thinking that there are many people we will meet in our lives that we could be compatible with. But when you find the person who you decide to marry, you commit to them. That's it, all other choices are off the table. They weren't "the one" per say but they are the one you have picked.
Personally, I have developed a belief that is a bit of both worlds. I think that God doesn't specifically pick a person for everyone. Yes, he knows if we will get married and if so, who we will marry. But he doesn't set aside someone just for us. In the Bible it talks about how it's better NOT to be married in some cases. So I don't believe that everyone has someone God chooses for them to be with. However, I believe it's possible that some people do have a handpicked mate. An example is a man and woman who used to attend our church. He said that his wife was completely not who he had in mind to marry. She wasn't even his type. But God put it on his heart to marry her and together they have adopted and raised three beautiful children. In that case, I believe God did pick her for him.
What do you think? Do you think everyone has a specific partner they're meant to be with or it's just up to us? Do you think you can know when you meet "The one?"