But what if the churches near me all have women pastors?
Is it okay if I attended those churches just that I don't attend services preached by women pastors?
and would it be okay to hang out with believers who attend services preached by women pastors? or go for life groups led by female leaders (not pastors) from these churches?
Here are the Scriptures I promised you. I hope they help. They not only give the commandment that women not lead churches, but explain why this is so, and it has nothing to do with culture or the times, but everything to do with Adam and Eve. Also, I gave you some good Scriptures from what the Bible qualifies pastors or deacons. Today, many aren't married or have children.
God is not the author of confusion.
1 Corinthians 30-35 - 30 If
any thing be revealed to another that sitteth by, let the first hold his peace. 31 For ye may all prophesy one by one, that all may learn, and all may be comforted. 32 And the spirits of the prophets are subject to the prophets.
33 For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.
Women's behavior in the church.
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Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. 35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
1 Timothy 2:11-14 - 11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer (permit) not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Why would this commandment be given? Today, men and women keep silence in the church services. Why? Only the pastor speaks. Why? This is not what the Bible teaches churches to do. Open, organized discussion among the men in the church with the pastor maintaining order and answering questions, as well as getting involved in group conversations is more what the early churches did. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that our knowledge depends on what the pastor says. In fact,
1 John 2:26-27 - 26 These things have I written unto you concerning them that seduce you. 27 But the anointing which ye have received of him abideth in you, and ye need not that any man teach you: but as the same anointing teacheth you of all things, and is truth, and is no lie, and even as it hath taught you, ye shall abide in him. The Holy Spirit is to be our teacher through life and the Bible.
Ephesians 5:33 - 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife
see that she reverence
her husband.
Qualifications of church leaders.
1 Timothy 3:1-7 - 1 This
is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. 2 A bishop then must be blameless,
the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 3 Not given to wine, no striker,
not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; 4
One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) 6 Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil. 7 Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
Titus 1:6-11 -6 If any be blameless,
the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly. 7 For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not self-willed, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker,
not given to filthy lucre; 8 But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate; 9 Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by
sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers. 10 For there are many unruly and vain talkers and deceivers, specially they of the circumcision: 11 Whose mouths must be stopped, who subvert whole houses, teaching things which they ought not, for filthy lucre’s sake.
Qualifications of deacons.
1 Timothy 3:8-13 - 8 Likewise
must the deacons
be grave, not double tongued, not given to much wine,
not greedy of filthy lucre; 9 Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience. 10 And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being
found blameless. 11 Even so
must their wives
be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. 12
Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well. 13 For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.
