Marriage vs singleness

Being a good spouse or a good celibate single are both equally (or at least sufficiently) pleasing to God outside of a specific calling to either. If your personality and character are incompatible with one (and you're not malleable enough to change that), go for the other. (But don't divorce your spouse if you're already married.)

I believe it's better to stay single in reality, because like the apostle Paul says, There will be trouble.
But if you are really in love and cannot handle temptation's then it is better to marry than burn with lust and commit fornication.
I just have trust issues because of the past, So perhaps I am not the correct one to answer this lol

In the flesh NO MAN can please God. We would only be fooling ourselves to think we can gain extra favor through works of the flesh. "For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God."

"There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit."

That being said, If the Spirit tells you to marry or be single, it would be best to listen. Follow the Spirit......not the ways that seemeth right unto man.....

I don't mean to be flippant but I'm feeling my oats today so...

Marriage FTW.
Way better
I was headed for hell before I met my wife-to-be
Men, at least statistically speaking, are better off married

Kota said:

Which is better, marriage or life long celibacy and singleness? Are they both equal gifts from God, that he gives to certain people? Does he call some to marriage and others to celibacy? Which is more pleasing to God?

Click to expand...

Your question assumes a one size fits all answer. There are some God gives the supernatural gift of celibacy. Jesus and Paul both say that. God wants them to stay single. The rest God wants to marry.

Kota said:

Which is better, marriage or life long celibacy and singleness? Are they both equal gifts from God, that he gives to certain people? Does he call some to marriage and others to celibacy? Which is more pleasing to God?

Click to expand...

1Cor 7 seems to imply you have freedom of choice in the matter.

Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife.
28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
29 What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none;
30 those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep;
31 those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.
32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs— how he can please the Lord.
33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world— how he can please his wife—
34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world— how she can please her husband.
35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him…” So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” Genesis 2:18, 21–23

That said. things can happen in our lives that we are unable to control. My husband took another woman several years ago. His faith was shattered because the "mountains" didn't move in reality.
Anyway he lost faith in God. I am alone. I desire a partner in my life but I am coping well on my own. It is not good to be alone and I do want to find a Godlike partner. Someone who loves the Lord as much as I do. I am not sure I can call myself celibate because I still have sexual desires. Just because I cope alone doesn't mean that is where God wants me to be. I am coping because I have to and it's all I know right now. If God wanted man to be alone I am sure he would of created man only without the woman and found a way to recreate other men.

The best thing for you is to live God's will for your life--whether that involves staying single and celebrate or getting married. He will bless you if you're determined to stay in His will. If His will is for you to marry, I believe that He will direct you and show you the person you are to marry. He doesn't make His will a guessing game. Marriage is difficult even when it's God's will, but marrying outside His will can lead to a life of misery. My best advice is to seek Him and let Him make you the person that He wants you to be no matter what He has for you in the future.

Been divorced twice.

First one I had adjustment issues with coming back from war.

second time rushed it.

Third time God blessed me with who he prepared for me.

Sum of the story wait on God youngens wait on God.

Kota said:

Which is better, marriage or life long celibacy and singleness? Are they both equal gifts from God, that he gives to certain people? Does he call some to marriage and others to celibacy? Which is more pleasing to God?

Click to expand...

I think marriage would be preferable, not to God but to us, because life is for learning, and in my view we would learn more living with someone, than living alone. When we share our lives with someone, we learn that the world does not revolve around us, and that is healthy. It´s healthy to learn how to come to terms with others, compromise, not just think of ourselves. I don´t believe Marriage or celibacy is a gift from God, it´s somehow often a "selfish" choice that could either make our lives better or worse. I do not feel God calls us to either stay celibate or marry. In the big picture it´s irrelevant, it´s not what makes us worthy of anything.

My marriage was a great distraction. I focused more on my husband and his whereabouts more than I did with God. We have been separated just over 7 years now. I do not have to worry about him anymore or what he's up to. I can now focus on God because I am alone and I am able to give Him the attention that I was unable to give Him while I was married. That was my situation though. I'm relaxing in the Lord and if a man comes my way because of God intervening then I will know it is right for me. For me, my marriage destroyed my relationship with God. I can't let that happen again.

I feel weird being single. I feel embarrassed. Everyone else I know is married or in a relationship. I feel like people are talking behind my back, saying there's something wrong with me.