Judging someone who has divorced parents

No, it's not something that person had any control over and certainly was not his or her fault. I could not see where it would be a huge deal breaker unless the person kept dwelling on it and living in the past.

No. I will not judge the children for the sins of their parents. And truly, only the parents know the details behind their divorce. It's none of our business until they make it our business.

No, I wouldn't.

I would not.

If you judged someone because their parents were divorced then you do not believe in the Mercy of Our Lord.

Nope.

I also would judge the individual if they were divorced themselves simply on that fact alone. If they were the cause of the divorce, or didn't have biblical grounds, that would be difficult for me to overlook. If they had not healed from the divorce and had some growth since then, it would be concerning to me.

nick garai said:

Would you judge someone as unsuitable for a partner if you discovered that their parents were divorced?

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Lol. Most people now days have children by other last boyfriends. Many of their parents married, divorced, and remarried .You may never find someone that way.

Of course not. It would add to the need to carefully understand their take on marriage. You know, make sure they understand the significance of the vow. But that should be the case in any courtship.
Come to think of it, my wife was divorced, as were her parents. My parents were (are) still together and I was the one with the laxed view of marriage.

nick garai said:

Would you judge someone as unsuitable for a partner if you discovered that their parents were divorced?

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Depends on what they learned from the experience. Some very rich men are rich because they lived in abject poverty and vowed to never, EVER go there again. Some children of divorced parents feel the same way about divorce.

Goatee said:

If you judged someone because their parents were divorced then you do not believe in the Mercy of Our Lord.

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I don't know that I'd go that far. People learn from the things that happen to them. Some will learn that marriage is throw away, even though they don't admit it. Meanwhile others will be so against divorce that they are afraid to get married at all. And everything in between.

The important thing is to discuss with the individual to find out what camp they are in.

nick garai said:

Would you judge someone as unsuitable for a partner if you discovered that their parents were divorced?

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My nephews' parents are divorced. Why should the fact that their mother left my brother for another man (who she has been married to now for 10 years) be a reflection on them??? Their parents have made the point over the last 12 years of NEVER acting as anything other than a united parental front regardless of the divorce, and my nephews are all the better for that. Very successful student-athletes and scholars, both.

Definitely not. Well, 99.97% sure I would not. Not unless said person somehow got one of their parents to commit adultery or murdering a child, and therefore causing a divorce.... but that has a .03% chance of happening.
I try to think of all possibilities.
So, most likely no.

I definitely wouldn't. I myself am divorced. It's not something that I ever wanted. but it happened. I know God has forgiven me and my ex-husband for the divorce. We serve a forgiving God. Divorced parents should have no reflection on their children. That was a choice that they made.