Hey guys,
I'm dealing with someone who is extremely arrogant, stubborn, hypocritical and narcissistic and it's driving me up the wall to say the least. For those of you who have read my previous thread, I've mentioned dealing with this individual before, but this time I'd love to know what everyone thinks of this situation, how you'd deal with it, and what the Bible has to say about such people...
Long story short, this individual will never acknowledge his wrongdoing no matter what sort of evidence you throw at him. He will twist the facts, blame you or someone else for his mistake, and sometimes even try to talk over you just so you don't get the chance to alert him of his wrongdoing. He truly believes he shouldn't be sorry for anything.
For example, he has this habit of slamming doors wherever he goes, and about 3 weeks ago, I politely asked him to not slam the doors at night because it wakes people up, and instead of apologising for it, he immediately asked "Why are you complaining to me?" and then proceeded to boldly lie to my face that it was not him, even though he is always the first person to wake up and we've all seen him do it. This quickly escalated, in which he brought up previous issues that were not only irrelevant to the topic at hand, but they were issues that he had personally caused as well, and instead of apologising for those too, he blamed everyone else for them just as he tried to do during this one. He quickly bolted out of the house as the confrontation became heated because he didn't want to be told that he was wrong and have someone burst his egotistical bubble.
He hasn't spoken to me since then, and although that doesn't bother me because it saves me the headache, I'm getting sick and tired of his behaviour ruining everyone else's mood in this house, both family and guests.
You can't tell him he broke something, you can't tell him when he's being unhygienic around food, you can't tell him that he missed bills, you can't joke around him (but he apparently can and has no problem with it) he will force himself into conversations and personal moments when not needed, and if politely asked to leave, he will get offended, he can't go on for 5 minutes without attention, gets offended by the most minuscule issues and statements, and says he hates gossip, yet he gossips all the time. The list goes on and on and on. If you bring any of these issues up to him, he will get all defensive and will verbally attack you for claiming that he was *gasp* wrong for a moment. I mean, God forbid...
Someone recently asked me to start talking to him again because it's gone on for too long, and although I don't hold grudges and will quickly forgive someone if they apologise, I just don't want to be the first person to strike the conversation with him because I know for a fact that he will assume that he behaviour was acceptable, he will, in his ego and pride, think that whatever he did was okay and should feel no guilt for what he did because I approached him first. But then I am reminded of this verse - Luke 6:27-36
I've honestly had enough of his behaviour and I'm about ready to pack his bags and leave it at the front door because this is beyond disgusting. He has bothered both family and guests with his attitudes for a while now, and only a select few are willing to speak up, the rest remain quiet because they don't want to be involved with this inconsiderate and childish individual. Seeing as how he is, they know nothing will get through to him.
But, what do YOU think? Should I strike the conversation first and see what happens? Or should I remain quiet? I've prayed about this every night for 3 weeks, and although he stopped slamming the doors, nothing else about him as changed. He remains as arrogant and stubborn as ever, and if things continue as they are, I will have no hesitation in kicking him out. No one deserves this mental and verbal abuse from him because we're all trying to focus on our faith and daily life and don't have the time for extra drama.
Worst part of all, He claims to be a Christian...
Please keep in mind similar disputes have happened before, and I doubt we'll see the last of them.
What would Jesus do in this situation? Please pray for my sanity, and help me with any info you could provide.
Much appreciated.
I'm dealing with someone who is extremely arrogant, stubborn, hypocritical and narcissistic and it's driving me up the wall to say the least. For those of you who have read my previous thread, I've mentioned dealing with this individual before, but this time I'd love to know what everyone thinks of this situation, how you'd deal with it, and what the Bible has to say about such people...
Long story short, this individual will never acknowledge his wrongdoing no matter what sort of evidence you throw at him. He will twist the facts, blame you or someone else for his mistake, and sometimes even try to talk over you just so you don't get the chance to alert him of his wrongdoing. He truly believes he shouldn't be sorry for anything.
For example, he has this habit of slamming doors wherever he goes, and about 3 weeks ago, I politely asked him to not slam the doors at night because it wakes people up, and instead of apologising for it, he immediately asked "Why are you complaining to me?" and then proceeded to boldly lie to my face that it was not him, even though he is always the first person to wake up and we've all seen him do it. This quickly escalated, in which he brought up previous issues that were not only irrelevant to the topic at hand, but they were issues that he had personally caused as well, and instead of apologising for those too, he blamed everyone else for them just as he tried to do during this one. He quickly bolted out of the house as the confrontation became heated because he didn't want to be told that he was wrong and have someone burst his egotistical bubble.
He hasn't spoken to me since then, and although that doesn't bother me because it saves me the headache, I'm getting sick and tired of his behaviour ruining everyone else's mood in this house, both family and guests.
You can't tell him he broke something, you can't tell him when he's being unhygienic around food, you can't tell him that he missed bills, you can't joke around him (but he apparently can and has no problem with it) he will force himself into conversations and personal moments when not needed, and if politely asked to leave, he will get offended, he can't go on for 5 minutes without attention, gets offended by the most minuscule issues and statements, and says he hates gossip, yet he gossips all the time. The list goes on and on and on. If you bring any of these issues up to him, he will get all defensive and will verbally attack you for claiming that he was *gasp* wrong for a moment. I mean, God forbid...
Someone recently asked me to start talking to him again because it's gone on for too long, and although I don't hold grudges and will quickly forgive someone if they apologise, I just don't want to be the first person to strike the conversation with him because I know for a fact that he will assume that he behaviour was acceptable, he will, in his ego and pride, think that whatever he did was okay and should feel no guilt for what he did because I approached him first. But then I am reminded of this verse - Luke 6:27-36
I've honestly had enough of his behaviour and I'm about ready to pack his bags and leave it at the front door because this is beyond disgusting. He has bothered both family and guests with his attitudes for a while now, and only a select few are willing to speak up, the rest remain quiet because they don't want to be involved with this inconsiderate and childish individual. Seeing as how he is, they know nothing will get through to him.
But, what do YOU think? Should I strike the conversation first and see what happens? Or should I remain quiet? I've prayed about this every night for 3 weeks, and although he stopped slamming the doors, nothing else about him as changed. He remains as arrogant and stubborn as ever, and if things continue as they are, I will have no hesitation in kicking him out. No one deserves this mental and verbal abuse from him because we're all trying to focus on our faith and daily life and don't have the time for extra drama.
Worst part of all, He claims to be a Christian...
Please keep in mind similar disputes have happened before, and I doubt we'll see the last of them.
What would Jesus do in this situation? Please pray for my sanity, and help me with any info you could provide.
Much appreciated.
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