I am not sure how to best describe this, but I am struggling with feelings of longing for a guy I have started a "long distance" relationship with. We've been texting each other for almost four months and we've come really close. We "met" on Reddit and we're both INFP and I think he may be HSP as well. Anyways, I really like him and at first we were constantly messaging each other for hours almost everyday. He had made it clear he liked me in the early weeks of us getting to know each other but I kept my guard up for a while because I don't open up to just anybody. He would message me first almost everyday and tell me about his day, what happened at work etc. and I somewhat enjoyed it even if it seemed a little too much at first. We talked about everything, and exchanged childhood photos. It was a really emotionally freeing online friendship.
Last month we realized we both really, really like each other. We took to texting and soon would text for four hours some nights on his days off and it was awesome. I found great comfort in our conversations and felt increasingly close to him, and it made me very happy.
Well as the weeks went on I noticed he wasn't texting me as much as he used to and our conversations shortened. I asked in an indirect way why this was and he said something like we've had our "honeymoon phase" and that in the beginning when people get to know each other they are excited and somehow that was why our conversations used to be longer. I didn't like that and I was left kind of confused. Now on his days off he doesn't like texting for hours and prefers to have his days to himself to play his video games. I understand that and I leave him alone on those days. But I feel like we are drifting and it makes me wonder if he secretly doesn't want me anymore and is trying to get rid of me but but is too scared to tell me. He used to be so eager to get to know me and now it's like he doesn't care much anymore.
I don't want to be co-dependent and I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I can't help but feel intense longing when we don't talk. I even cry sometimes because I just want him to talk to me like we used to. I just want to be close to him. I go crazy when I go almost a day without talking to him. I feel a deep connection to him and I just want to know him more.. Then my mind wonders if he is trying to inch away from me and my heart hurts more. Then he will text me and say things that make me think this isn't the truth. Like "goodnight, love you" or etc. so I just don't know.
Last month we realized we both really, really like each other. We took to texting and soon would text for four hours some nights on his days off and it was awesome. I found great comfort in our conversations and felt increasingly close to him, and it made me very happy.
Well as the weeks went on I noticed he wasn't texting me as much as he used to and our conversations shortened. I asked in an indirect way why this was and he said something like we've had our "honeymoon phase" and that in the beginning when people get to know each other they are excited and somehow that was why our conversations used to be longer. I didn't like that and I was left kind of confused. Now on his days off he doesn't like texting for hours and prefers to have his days to himself to play his video games. I understand that and I leave him alone on those days. But I feel like we are drifting and it makes me wonder if he secretly doesn't want me anymore and is trying to get rid of me but but is too scared to tell me. He used to be so eager to get to know me and now it's like he doesn't care much anymore.
I don't want to be co-dependent and I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I can't help but feel intense longing when we don't talk. I even cry sometimes because I just want him to talk to me like we used to. I just want to be close to him. I go crazy when I go almost a day without talking to him. I feel a deep connection to him and I just want to know him more.. Then my mind wonders if he is trying to inch away from me and my heart hurts more. Then he will text me and say things that make me think this isn't the truth. Like "goodnight, love you" or etc. so I just don't know.