Why am I suffering so much racism

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Why am I suffering so much racism as a black woman. People constantly treat me bad first for being modest and treating me horrible for not wearing makeup. I deal with older and younger racist people treating me like trash. Being called ugly for being modest and being treated like dirt. Having people making fun of my my appearance and males calling me ugly. I have suffered nothing but complete torture moving to California. The people here are extremely judgemental to the extreme and I’m losing my mind. And because my hair is damaged and I always wear it in a bun and the fact that I cut is very short people have the nerve to make fun of how I look. Saying I look masculine and ugly. Making fun of my acne scars. Saying I have a masculine face. I’m sick of life and I am ready to die. I can’t go through trying to live like this. Why do I have to suffer for my appearance. I didn’t choose to have acne and damaged hair. I didn’t choose to have a flat bony body. I didn’t choose to look so much like a boy.
 

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People are cruel. Try to surround yourself with Kind Legit Christian people. You might have to move out of California to find them :(

I can’t move because I’m only 18 working on my ged. Plus If I always ran from everything then I don’t know how my life would be. Just this part of California has some really evil secular people. Most of teens are making fun of my modest dressing and my skin color. I also want to only wear my hair natural and they always have to find something wrong with me.
 
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I know it's difficult, but when I feel judged or doubtful I always turn to God. Specifically reminding myself it's what God thinks and feels about me, not them. Then I remind myself of what's important, in the past it only made things worse to not let go of things; when I learned to change my focus on things that actually mattered it helped.

I'm sorry people have made you feel negative about yourself. Sadly people tend to be judgmental and most of the time unfairly. I agree with finding people who you enjoy to be around, also going to God when needed. Both Him and friends would help to take your mind off certain things, I know fellowship here and prayers as well as recently memorizing a psalm to sing are helpful.

If I remember correctly it's Psalm 100:
"Make a loud shout to the Lord, all you lands!
Serve the Lord with gladness, come before His presence with singing.
Know that the Lord, He is God; it is He who made us, and not we ourselves; we are His people and the sheep of His pasture.
Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, and into is courts with praise, be thankful to him, and bless his name.
For the Lord is good, His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures to all generations.
 
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Why am I suffering so much racism as a black woman. People constantly treat me bad first for being modest and treating me horrible for not wearing makeup. I deal with older and younger racist people treating me like trash. Being called ugly for being modest and being treated like dirt. Having people making fun of my my appearance and males calling me ugly. I have suffered nothing but complete torture moving to California. The people here are extremely judgemental to the extreme and I’m losing my mind. And because my hair is damaged and I always wear it in a bun and the fact that I cut is very short people have the nerve to make fun of how I look. Saying I look masculine and ugly. Making fun of my acne scars. Saying I have a masculine face. I’m sick of life and I am ready to die. I can’t go through trying to live like this. Why do I have to suffer for my appearance. I didn’t choose to have acne and damaged hair. I didn’t choose to have a flat bony body. I didn’t choose to look so much like a boy.
APriLN, Welcome to Christian Forums. "Blessed are those who suffer for the cause of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven." Share the Gospel of Jesus Christ with them. God looks at our heart. Glory to God. :heart:
 
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Why am I suffering so much racism as a black woman. People constantly treat me bad first for being modest and treating me horrible for not wearing makeup. I deal with older and younger racist people treating me like trash. Being called ugly for being modest and being treated like dirt. Having people making fun of my my appearance and males calling me ugly. I have suffered nothing but complete torture moving to California. The people here are extremely judgemental to the extreme and I’m losing my mind. And because my hair is damaged and I always wear it in a bun and the fact that I cut is very short people have the nerve to make fun of how I look. Saying I look masculine and ugly. Making fun of my acne scars. Saying I have a masculine face. I’m sick of life and I am ready to die. I can’t go through trying to live like this. Why do I have to suffer for my appearance. I didn’t choose to have acne and damaged hair. I didn’t choose to have a flat bony body. I didn’t choose to look so much like a boy.

Come to Texas, we are for the most part very polite and considerate, we have jerks but they are not the majority. I pray that things improve in your life. God Bless.
 
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Jesus doesn't care about the colour of your skin, or your appearance. He looks on your heart. Read through the book of Psalms and you can see God's attitude to those whose hearts are with Him, and how He defends them against those who speak against you. What those people are doing to you they are doing to Jesus Himself, and they will suffer the consequences of it. I had a guy at my work tell me that I need to see a shrink because I was a Christian and was sharing the gospel with people. Three weeks later, he collapsed and died. At another workplace there was a guy in his 30s who made fun of an old Christian man every day, and suddenly he was dead. We don't know what happened to him, but I felt that he suffered the consequence of persecuting a good man who just wanted to warn people that there is a day of judgment coming. The Lord says, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay." Us modern "PC" Christians don't always like that, but God's Word is always true. People who mock, criticise, ridicule and persecute good believers tend to get sick and die prematurely. We don't always link the two, but I think that we might be surprised at how often that happens.

Job's three friends accused Job of sin because he had lost everything and was going through physical suffering. If Job had not obeyed God and prayed for his three friends, they would have definitely gone down the tubes as the consequence of their actions.

You owe nothing to those who put you down and criticise you for the colour of your skin and your modest appearance. If they don't accept you, turn your back on them, wipe the dust off your shoes against them and walk away. Defriend and block them from your Facebook page, and then find friends who will love, accept, and respect you for who you are in Christ.
 
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Your going to have to see yourself as God sees you. Psalm 139:14 (KJV) 14 : I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well."
God has a plan for your life, put that first, store his word in your heart, and shut out the worldly garbage as it is just the devil, working in people, that wants to bring you down. Make the difficult choice to rejoice and wash that negativity out by giving it to God. His burden is light and you are trying to carry to much heaviness. Isaiah 61:3 (KJV) 3 To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified. I pray you find some loving Christians and church that can further your walk in God
 
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New International Version John 15:18
"If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first."

Very sorry for what you are experiencing. Pray to the Lord, ask him to help you through this. Ask God to end the suffering, and to stop evil people coming your way. Get close with God, seek him out things will get better.

I will be honest I used to get bullied badly too, I seeked out God since God was my only hope. It went away after I prayed for it to stop and built my relationship with God. Join a friendly Church, you can make plenty of friends from Church who will support and love you, you just need to find it.

Where ever I go evil will flee. Let the Holy Spirit enter your heart. Remember that God loves you, he is always going to be there for you.

Other than that, this is a matter of opinion but I would consider moving out of California when you have the chance. I understand its not a friendly state as it claims it is. I wouldn't even want to go there for vacation, there are much more beautiful places like Colorado, Arizona, etc.
 
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Dear @APriLN I am so sorry that you are having such a horrible time. Have you been able to find a local group of believers? TRUE believers should not be like that. Acts 17v26 tells us we are all of one blood anyway, so rejecting someone because of their ethnic background is not only wrong because it's unkind, but it's also pretty stupid because we are all one big family!

I find it helpful when I am facing a situation where people are likely to be unkind, to have in mind a Bible passage that reminds me of my identity in Christ.

Please keep 'talking' to us here if it helps.

Love and cyber-hugs from your sister in Christ
 
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