I have been socially isolated since i was 14 - is it a sin?

WorshipArtViolin said:

I for one understand your depression and separation. As much as I never went through most of the things you went through, like bullying I did end up sinking into depression after my dad's death when I was 9 and went in and out of it for years. My family still thinks I dealt well with his death but I still have my episodes. I generally am not sociable and keep a very small number of people around.
Psalm 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
God is the one you should run to for He will always be there for you when the world has turned it's back on you.
And Psalm 16 is a Prayer of confidence that would really help you see what you could have if you just let go and let God.
We're constantly urged to cast our burdens to Jesus for He cares for us and for sure He loves and cares for you.
People will never be pleased and you need to realise that it is not your job to make others happy.. .if they don't like you then that is their problem but you need to rise up and go out there, try to come out of the literal darkness and into the light. There are so many people out there who would embrace you if you only gave them a chance.
Don't let the darkness of depression consume you. The fact that you're here alone shows that you can come out of isolation.. .seek the Lord's face and He will shine His light on your path.
You are destined for greater things!!

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WorshipArtViolin said:

Embrace you, accept you as you are.
It doesn't matter how high or low your IQ is, what you look like or what social status you belong to, you weren't made to be liked by everyone ...no one was.
You'll have to accept your situation and stop victimising yourself ,it only gives others the opportunity to put you down even more.
Getting a husband or wife and children is a good thing but without them life still continues.
Perhaps you have something that you're good at doing? It doesn't have to be anything huge.

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dude99 said:

IQ does not measure wisdom. Also, there are flaws in the IQ tests. It also has a cultural bias as well.

If you believe the therapist is not working then look into finding a different therapist.

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WorshipArtViolin said:

As much as no man is an island, for now your best move is to seek God earnestly ,ask HIM to get you out of this whole situation. To help you come out of your social anxiety .I know how hard social anxiety is and the extent to which it can cripple someone's interaction with the outside world but you can get better.
If being anonymous helps you interact with more people as you are doing here then find something to do that doesn't necessarily need direct contact with other people ...with time you may just find yourself coming out of your shell.
I do have many questions but I will not pry....

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dude99 said:

I know enough of IQ tests as I been to university and studied on it to see that there are flaws in that. Even the teachers there saw there were flaws in IQ tests and I been to several universities and the teachers there saw that as well. IQ tests for an individual don’t really indicate much, they only value happens with large datasets where in theory biases, preparation and other factors potentially cancel out to a degree. Usually resulting in a casual relationship and spotting trends. It’s good for statistics but I wouldn’t take much stock in a particular result.

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dude99 said:

You can communicate as after all your English typing skills here are really good. There are many people out there that are unable to have the English skills you have, even native English speakers. Also, 70% of all communication we interact with people is through non-verbal communication.

If you want to make friends how about volunteering, even visiting elderly people that are lonely and isolated. Or visiting people that can't talk or barely talk and helping them out?

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Lybrah said:

You are not a 1 on a scale of 1-10. I think you should try group therapy with people near or around your age. I did it and found it helpful.

Pray for the removal of the demons of: self-rejection, self-hatred, social awkwardness, and any other mental illnesses you think you may have. Pray for strength and for God to put people in your life. You will have to pray about this every day. Rebuke the demons in the name of Jesus and forbid them to return!

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Christfan said:

First of all, if you don't love yourself you will never be able to love someone else. I've achieved this after hating myself.

If that's you in your avatar, your upper/middle/lower third are equal, your philtrum is half the size of your bottom lip to chin, your teeth are straight/white, your midface is ~1:1 ratio, your interpupillary distance is one eye length

With all these equal proportions and to claim your a 1 out of 10 makes you completely delusional. The wallowing in self pity doesn't help either even though it's feels good, I've been there.

I have AVPD/severe social anxiety as well with no friends or girlfriend because my mind goes blank from the thousand worries in my head so I can't help you there. Were you raised by a single mother too?

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Lybrah said:

I was commenting based on your picture. Trust me, I've seen 1's. In addition, it sounds like you do hate yourself. You need to see a therapist and get some Prozac, and find another young adults group with better people in it.

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