I've been reading through former threads on lying, but those situations always seem life or death, like 'if I'm hiding fugitives is it okay to lie to the bad guys' kind of scenarios.
I've read some scripture that says to either tell the truth or be silent- but I had a situation recently where it was difficult to do either.
So say in a hypothetical situation, someone gets you a Christmas present that you already bought for yourself a few weeks ago. After Christmas, you haven't touched it and they ask you if you've used it yet- but you've used yours.
According to the scripture, you can either stay silent, which would be awkward and confusing, or you can tell the truth- no, and you won't use it because you bought it yourself.
The third option is a half-lie half-truth; you've used the item, but not the one they got for you.
Both biblical options have the potential to hurt the other person's feelings, which is why I'm struggling to come up with an answer for this.
Any opinions on this? I know the situation is small and somewhat silly, but that's when a lot of 'white lies' come around. I know white lies are still lying, but what would the correct option be when the truth can come off as hurtful?
There is a principle form Christ that is so much better to gain than even the best personal practice answer someone else may give.
Here's the way to know for any situation seemingly complex what is the right or wrong of it --
"So in everything, do to others as you would have them do to you, for this sums up the law and the prophets."
--Christ Jesus our Lord in Matthew 7:12
You merely have to imagine yourself in their situation. Reverse the roles.
That's all.
So for your situation in question, merely put yourself in their shoes -- with the reverse role, we imagine you gave them the redundant gift, and now imagine the answer you'd most want them to say to you.
For me, reversing the roles and asking myself 'what would I want from them', then I know instantly what I want the most is for them to be warm and friendly.
Therefore, myself I want them to
tell me whatever part of the real information they want, but the crucial thing is that they are warm and friendly and loving.
Shoot, I'd be delighted even for them to say
"That gift was crap!" and laugh,
as long as I can feel they love me, and we are smiling, laughing together! See?
(Also, loving others is itself the 2nd greatest commandment, Christ said.)
Real lies break the rule Christ said in Matthew 7:12.
If you merely give someone an overly positive comment about whatever, we all know that not what people call a "lie" (except humorously, as a joke).
An actual "lie" (the real thing) is when a person says what they know is false in order to
put someone else at a disadvantage or put oneself at an advantage relative to them, even just in terms of information. Of course some things people call "white lies" can indeed be real lies, by this measure. And some of them not. A real lie is somewhat like theft -- stealing what isn't ours. The rule for all situations is consistently Mat 7:12. Christ knew we would need this principle.