Men, do you feel comfortable in the role of leader?

There have been a lot of posts about women submitting to their husbands. My question is how many single men feel comfortable in the role as leader. This means stepping up when there is conflict and taking an active role in finding a fair solution instead of just avoiding conflict. Do you practice leading in your daily life...at your job (within the scope of your role), your family (as in parental & sibling family), and in your church? What kind of things are you doing to increase your experience leading?

Do women see you as a leader who will protect them and their someday children?

Noxot said:

I prefer to be a team. each should look to God rather than fallible humans. someone is only an authority or example as much as they are with God. therefore leadership is not based on what sex you happen to have.

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But even in a team, there is a team leader. The one who makes the decision when there is not a consensus. Are you comfortable being the team leader if asked?

I think when a Christian woman describes a man as being "too nice", they are really saying that they see them as being someone who avoids conflict at all cost and someone they don't trust to be a leader of their someday family.

Noxot said:

being the leader of what? I will do anything she says.

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That makes submitting impossible.

And in a team, there are many times on a team that all parties don't agree. Someone has to make the ultimate decision and that could make people mad at him/her. In a marriage, there are plenty of times where both parties don't agree...probably more than most teams.

Sam91 said:

I have a sneaky feeling the best leaders are those who are not power hungry. So those who talk it being about a partnership are the ones that even feminist women will submit to having the final say. (Because she'll respect his opinion, rather than seeing 'sexism' and efforts to control and demean)

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Depends if "partnership" means the man will not stand up for his family when hard decisions need to be made. Women submit to men that are leaders because they respect them...even feminists. Real leaders don't have to force people to follow them like a dictator, but rather they exude confidence and are easy to follow.

I went to a mothering class at a church and when submitting came up, the number one complaint was that their husband's didn't take the leadership role and forced them to do it because someone had to in the end.

justaconfusedgirl said:

Just to add a different perspective from the other side, I think that personality style counts for a lot more. I prefer the idea of being equal in decision making but only if that'd suit the style of my future husband. If he was a leader and preferred a woman who would submit to him then it would be better for me to submit and for him to stick with his natural style rather than pretending he'd rather an equal partnership. I think a lot of women prefer a man to simply be confident in his style rather than whether hes a leader or not

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What if his natural style is to avoid conflict at all cost which means he seldom makes a decision or takes a stand? ... even when he has a preference.

When thinking about women who date "bad boys", could it be that women tend to see them as independent thinkers, leaders, and willing to stand up against the normal flow even if they aren't liked for it? Even if the women are mistaken about the quality of these men, it shows what they consider important in a relationship.

God made me a strong woman and a good leader. I need to know my man is at least as strong as I am and will have the guts to stand up to me if he thinks I am wrong.