I have been socially isolated since i was 14 - is it a sin?

Serbian_W0lf · Jul 7, 2018

No school. no job, no friends since i was 14. Never been with a women. Never talk to anyone. No internet friends. I only go out when its dark. I cant go out without hiding my body and face with a hoodie and cap.

I have therapists but its not helping.

The reason to why i am doing this is because i am 1 of 10 on the look scale and is very weird. I am too ashamed over myself to be part of the society. And people bully me all the time/make fun of me, in internet and also irl, so why should i even bother talking to people, get a job etc when i will be bullied even more? I have 0 % to be in a relationship with a women or getting a friend so its pointless for me.

I tried to fix my flaws, i have 100+ flaws, but nothing worked to fix my flaws.

I feel very bad, i have been depressed for 12 years. but i will not end my social isolation, i will keep living like this until i die.

So my question is how i deal with this sadness, i want to be happy with my life.

Is it a sin to want to keep being socially isolated? I have nothing to gain to have a social life.

dreadnought · Jul 7, 2018

Serbian_W0lf said:
No school. no job, no friends since i was 14. Never been with a women. Never talk to anyone. No internet friends. I only go out when its dark. I cant go out without hiding my body and face with a hoodie and cap.

I have therapists but its not helping.

The reason to why i am doing this is because i am 1 of 10 on the look scale and is very weird. I am too ashamed over myself to be part of the society. And people bully me all the time/make fun of me, in internet and also irl, so why should i even bother talking to people, get a job etc when i will be bullied even more? I have 0 % to be in a relationship with a women or getting a friend so its pointless for me.

I tried to fix my flaws, i have 100+ flaws, but nothing worked to fix my flaws.

I feel very bad, i have been depressed for 12 years. but i will not end my social isolation, i will keep living like this until i die.

So my question is how i deal with this sadness, i want to be happy with my life.

Is it a sin to want to keep being socially isolated? I have nothing to gain to have a social life.

I hope you're not separating yourself from the Lord, because he is the life giver.

SkyWriting · Jul 7, 2018

Serbian_W0lf said:
No school. no job, no friends since i was 14. Never been with a women. Never talk to anyone. No internet friends. I only go out when its dark. I cant go out without hiding my body and face with a hoodie and cap.

I have therapists but its not helping.

The reason to why i am doing this is because i am 1 of 10 on the look scale and is very weird. I am too ashamed over myself to be part of the society. And people bully me all the time/make fun of me, in internet and also irl, so why should i even bother talking to people, get a job etc when i will be bullied even more? I have 0 % to be in a relationship with a women or getting a friend so its pointless for me.

I tried to fix my flaws, i have 100+ flaws, but nothing worked to fix my flaws.

I feel very bad, i have been depressed for 12 years. but i will not end my social isolation, i will keep living like this until i die.

So my question is how i deal with this sadness, i want to be happy with my life.

Is it a sin to want to keep being socially isolated? I have nothing to gain to have a social life.

When you focus on others, this solves all your problems.
The more focus, the better the results.
My first wife had rheumatoid arthritis at age 9 which deformed her joints
and she never walked again. Steroids puffed up her face like a balloon.
Her hands are gnarled in knots and hardly usable.

Focus on helping other people and they stop making fun of you and hug you instead.
They welcome you to their house even if the have to carry you in.
I've been there and seen it.

Apologetic_Warrior · Jul 7, 2018

Serbian_W0lf said:
No school. no job, no friends since i was 14. Never been with a women. Never talk to anyone. No internet friends. I only go out when its dark. I cant go out without hiding my body and face with a hoodie and cap.

I have therapists but its not helping.

The reason to why i am doing this is because i am 1 of 10 on the look scale and is very weird. I am too ashamed over myself to be part of the society. And people bully me all the time/make fun of me, in internet and also irl, so why should i even bother talking to people, get a job etc when i will be bullied even more? I have 0 % to be in a relationship with a women or getting a friend so its pointless for me.

I tried to fix my flaws, i have 100+ flaws, but nothing worked to fix my flaws.

I feel very bad, i have been depressed for 12 years. but i will not end my social isolation, i will keep living like this until i die.

So my question is how i deal with this sadness, i want to be happy with my life.

Is it a sin to want to keep being socially isolated? I have nothing to gain to have a social life.

Friend we all have flaws, and many of us are far from perfect looking. I've struggled socially for a long time, I used to have issues with accepting how I looked. We are what we are, and it is best to accept ourselves for who we are, for how God intended, He is most wise and we should trust Him. I would encourage you to make efforts to get out and socialize, take small steps and who knows, you might be surprised. I am so sorry for your loneliness, I can relate more than you'll ever know. Through Christ we can be more than conquerors and the Holy Spirit can help you overcome these problems, yes God can do what we cannot, trust Him my friend, He is greater than our hearts.

Kevin Snow · Jul 7, 2018

You won't be happy by yourself, trust me. Other people let you forget about yourself and be comforted for a while.

OldWiseGuy · Jul 7, 2018

Are you unable to find a job? In my life work was (and is) the foundation that kept me grounded and moving ahead, better than family, friends, or even church. A man is what he does, so be about doing. Good luck.

Douggg · Jul 7, 2018

Serbian_W0lf said:
No school. no job, no friends since i was 14. Never been with a women. Never talk to anyone. No internet friends. I only go out when its dark. I cant go out without hiding my body and face with a hoodie and cap.

I have therapists but its not helping.

The reason to why i am doing this is because i am 1 of 10 on the look scale and is very weird. I am too ashamed over myself to be part of the society. And people bully me all the time/make fun of me, in internet and also irl, so why should i even bother talking to people, get a job etc when i will be bullied even more? I have 0 % to be in a relationship with a women or getting a friend so its pointless for me.

I tried to fix my flaws, i have 100+ flaws, but nothing worked to fix my flaws.

I feel very bad, i have been depressed for 12 years. but i will not end my social isolation, i will keep living like this until i die.

So my question is how i deal with this sadness, i want to be happy with my life.

Is it a sin to want to keep being socially isolated? I have nothing to gain to have a social life.

Sounds like you are not totally satisfied with the ways things are going. The good news is there is a silver lining in your cloud. Jesus said...

John 12:25 He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.

With that in mind, my suggestion to you would be to make Enoch in the old testament your role model.

Genesis 5:24 And Enoch walked with God: and he was not; for God took him

The great thing is that you are living at a time in history when the rapture of the believers will take place, to replicate the same thing, only better. Your situation is not permanent. While you are here God can use you, let him be your best friend, he knows you well. He can carry you through.

Good looks are temporary; not so good looks are temporary. Eternal life with perfect look is eternal. Eternal life is the goal, and the kingdom of God. You can do it.

Saint Steven · Jul 7, 2018

SkyWriting said:
When you focus on others, this solves all your problems.
The more focus, the better the results.
My first wife had rheumatoid arthritis at age 9 which deformed her joints
and she never walked again. Steroids puffed up her face like a balloon.
Her hands are gnarled in knots and hardly usable.

Focus on helping other people and they stop making fun of you and hug you instead.
They welcome you to their house even if the have to carry you in.
I've been there and seen it.

This is some great advice from Skywriting. Thanks.

Serbian,
You could rule that world with that smile of yours.
Look at that guy. Are you kidding me? Seriously...

Make a conscious effort to look for people who need help.
Help them and then smile. Take a visual snapshot of the approving looks you will get.
Don't expect anything more than that.
Just walk away and know that you made a difference in someone's life.

Keep doing that until you feel comfortable connecting with someone.
Work on your self-confidence. Know that you can make the world a better place.

Here's a tip. Two of the biggest attraction qualities that women want in men are:
1) A nice smile (you got that covered)
2) Self-confidence.

Basically, you are halfway there already.
Go get 'em tiger. Grrr…

- Steve

PS --- You will need to get a job if you are going to support a family though.

Kenny'sID · Jul 7, 2018

The reason to why i am doing this is because i am 1 of 10 on the look scale and is very weird.

That holds no water at all...all in your mind.

But I've seen some very good looking people with the same concern and I won't pretend to understand why that happens.

Jenniferdiana · Jul 7, 2018

heyyyyyyyyyyy mutual understanding..i totally get it...trust me i DO get it dude...i mean i understand what you mean...i go through the same thing

Kenny'sID · Jul 7, 2018

Serbian_W0lf said:
No school. no job, no friends since i was 14. Never been with a women. Never talk to anyone. No internet friends. I only go out when its dark. I cant go out without hiding my body and face with a hoodie and cap.

Jenniferdiana said:
heyyyyyyyyyyy mutual understanding..i totally get it...trust me i DO get it dude...i mean i understand what you mean...i go through the same thing

Then I guess the next step is exchanging PM's, no matter how tough that may be for the shy.

I'm waiting......

Jenniferdiana · Jul 7, 2018

Kenny'sID said:
Then I guess the next step is exchanging PM's, no matter how tough that may be for the shy.

I'm waiting......

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wellll from that photo he doesnt look too bad , actually he doesnt look bad at all but i'm already in love with someone else..lol so

Jenniferdiana · Jul 7, 2018

too be honest we're all flawed little people dude...we are never satisfied with anything, perfect or not...

Far Side Of the Moon · Jul 7, 2018

Jenniferdiana said:
wellll from that photo he doesnt look too bad , actually he doesnt look bad at all but i'm already in love with someone else..lol so

Oooooooooo lol seems like love is brewing

But to the OP trust in God. I was socially awkward and had social anxiety...I didn't think I'd get any better but God has definitely let my bubbly personality shine through...and now it's just on display for all.

God will definitely help you if you let him.

Jenniferdiana · Jul 7, 2018

im sorry nobody is ever going to be perfect, i know i'm not, only the lord can change us...besides youre already loving in his eyes, so just shake if off and try to let God help you...he can and will help... *Snap

Jenniferdiana · Jul 7, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
Oooooooooo lol seems like love is brewing

But to the OP trust in God. I was socially awkward and had social anxiety...I didn't think I'd get any better but God has definitely let my bubbly personality shine through...and now it's just on display for all.

God will definitely help you if you let him.

i dont know, still a little complicated but anyways..lol

Kenny'sID · Jul 7, 2018

Jenniferdiana said:
wellll from that photo he doesnt look too bad , actually he doesnt look bad at all but i'm already in love with someone else..lol so

Thanks for clearing that up...oh well.

Saint Steven · Jul 7, 2018

Oh, no. Jennifer is already in love?????
We are crushed. Thought we had something here. Rats!

Jenniferdiana · Jul 7, 2018

yeah and i dont want to brag but he is very very dear to me...lol so no way.. imma have to past on this one ...

dude99 · Jul 7, 2018

That must be a real struggle what you are going through. We are all meant to be in community and that the way the Lord has planned it. You have a great gift in life even though you are not aware of it. You can make a real positive difference in others. Have you thought about volunteer work? After all, it does not have to be in an organisation with many people. I don't understand you are unable to attract women as if the picture is your profile picture, you are an attractive guy. Also, you have a great smile. I don't believe that no women out there are interested in you. (Trust me in that). I wish you well and pray for you.

God bless

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