My granny passed away last night

I am so sorry Brother and if you need to talk, message me. I am praying for peace for you and your family

Ya know, I was just praying on this and you should go to this funeral. It may be that the person you are speaking of will be changed by the christian actions you will produce. If you have to bite your tongue, Bite it. I often do too, but I haven't bitten it off yet, But most importantly pray for and love this person. There is power in love.

Joining in prayer for you and your family.

Hugs to you, I'm sorry for your loss and the family stress.

Neostarwcc said:

So my granny's suffering is finally over. She passed away last night at the age of 88. We're okay with the loss but I'm a little hesitant to go to the funeral due to family issues. My aunt did something really horrible to my granny. It was granny's dying wish that the whole family forgive her and move on but I don't really know how to do that. I know I will bring it up if I go to the funeral. I know my mom will bring it up too despite Germany's wishes. I just don't know what to do and how to move on. She isn't even sorry for what she did and she's acting like she did nothing... Its infuriating! Maybe now that her mom is gone she will feel remorse but I doubt it. Its so ridiculous!

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Go to the funeral. I don't know how old you are, but you might be sorry later on in life.
Two wrongs never made a right...
You could forgive your aunt in your will, even if not in your heart. In time, it will go from your will to your heart.
Pray for her too. It sounds like she needs it badly.

Go for your grandmother and ignore your aunt for now.
I've done this,,,it's OK. Tell your mother you don't wish to discuss this at this sad time.

God will bless you for it.

Neostarwcc said:

So my granny's suffering is finally over. She passed away last night at the age of 88. We're okay with the loss but I'm a little hesitant to go to the funeral due to family issues. My aunt did something really horrible to my granny. It was granny's dying wish that the whole family forgive her and move on but I don't really know how to do that. I know I will bring it up if I go to the funeral. I know my mom will bring it up too despite Germany's wishes. I just don't know what to do and how to move on. She isn't even sorry for what she did and she's acting like she did nothing... Its infuriating! Maybe now that her mom is gone she will feel remorse but I doubt it. Its so ridiculous!

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We are the ones that benefit when we forgive others. Even forgiving others is a part of our forgiveness from God. There are times when in the flesh we are JUST not able to forgive. We do not have the ability to forgive. This is when God can do a work in us and through us. HE puts HIS forgiveness in our hearts. The people we forgive goes right on being idiots, only now we do not care anymore. They can go on to do whatever we want because God puts His love, mercy, grace and forgives in us as we become new creations in Christ.

I agree with GodsGrace101: A funeral can be an emotionally important way to say goodbye to the departed, so I recommend that you go. Set the family conflicts aside for the day, so that you can do the grieving that you all need to do. Don't talk to your aunt at all, if you can help it. There will be later times to work on confrontation and reconciliation and forgiveness; let all that wait until after the funeral and the grieving are done.

My prayers will be with you and your family. I am very sorry for your loss.

I would favor going to the funeral, but importantly, with the motivation to honor your grandmother. It may be hard, I very well understand. But also in order to honor her, you would refrain from making a scene in any way. And if there's no repentance, that may be the last time you have to have anything to do with your aunt. But at least you've honor your granny and will have that memory to strengthen you, and you will have zero qualms of conscience. Very often, when we make the decision to turn the other cheek (and I think that decision has to be made on a case basis), there is a reward for doing so, quite independent of what the other person does in response. May the Lord's peace accompany you.

Father, I trust that You have already provided the guidance through the comments above as to whether to attend the funeral or not. In the attending, I pray Your supply of grace, and possibly reconciliation as well. Comfort the grieving, and may this Granny be honored through the attendance of those present, and how they relate to one another in this time of grief and honor. Amen.

May she rest in peace. May you all find comfort in Gods loving arms.

Neostarwcc said:

So my granny's suffering is finally over. She passed away last night at the age of 88. We're okay with the loss but I'm a little hesitant to go to the funeral due to family issues. My aunt did something really horrible to my granny. It was granny's dying wish that the whole family forgive her and move on but I don't really know how to do that. I know I will bring it up if I go to the funeral. I know my mom will bring it up too despite Germany's wishes. I just don't know what to do and how to move on. She isn't even sorry for what she did and she's acting like she did nothing... Its infuriating! Maybe now that her mom is gone she will feel remorse but I doubt it. Its so ridiculous!

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My deepest sympathies on the passing of your grandma. Praying the Lord will comfort you and family with His Grace and Peace during this time of mourning.

Do your level best to meet her departing wishes for family peace. My dear Aunt charged me with reuniting my brother with my parents. My brother did make amends with my father but don't know for sure if he did with my mom. Pray on it. Do your best.

I agree with others that you should go to the funeral. You will only ever have this one chance to say a last good bye and celebrate publicly the life your grandmother lived and what she meant to you.

Funerals have a way of helping to set people on the path of grieving in a healthy way and lead to closure. They aid in the acceptance that someone has passed on.

I lost my most of my grandparents already. As I age, I find that I miss them more now than I did when the wound and trauma of losing them was fresh. My mind and emotions are calm about their death, but the achy void has become enormous. I think if you don't attend the funeral, you will later regret not having "one last" word, look, praise (fill in the blank).

Don't make it about your aunt or what she did. This is an opportunity to show respect, to support and comfort each other, and to celebrate your granny. This is about her and what she meant to you, and has absolutely nothing to do with your aunt.

Don't worry about the forgiveness right now. For me that is something that has often come after prayer and seems to be a process, rather than a one and done deal. I've had to ask the Lord for help with it, and He does. The important thing is to be open to the Lord about it and seek after Him regarding it.

I’m sorry to hear about your granny’s death and this complicated situation in your family. I’m praying that God will surround each one of you with His love, comfort and give you wisdom according to His perfect will. Grace and peace to you!