Being aware of the other ,and caring about their welfare etc. You say Could not , fine , but if he Would not, that is an other thing ,non ?
And women today should work too if they are in a position to do so .
If he WILL NOT work, or try to work, then perhaps he is not a
husband.
I am not talking about being unable to find work in a recession - after sending 100s of resumes each week. I am not talking about someone who is blacklisted (especially for standing for the truth). Unfortunately (because most humans do not know what love is,) we penalize people who do not fit the status quo qualification and image of what we romanticize as a "husband/wife/mother/father/etc."
As you said, for example, a
wife would also try to work
while the husband is
looking for work, or even paralyzed by a hurt ego and rejection. She would support the household while the husband gets his groove back, and the opposite case is true (husband should support the wife.) I have also seen relationships in which the male cheats on the female who has a miscarriage. On one hand, this is an understandable response from a male (in terms of "procreation fever,") but
love would prevent this carnal response. These are trials all relationships go through; it isn't unique to a husband/wife. My own
former best friends have failed the qualifications for real loving relationships (and/or, I have failed them.) That is why love - as it is today - is confusion.
Love is patient, and love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not easily angered, it does not keep records, and it is not self-seeking. It does not return to you
void, but instead protects, trusts, hopes and preserves. Knowledge, prophecies and paradigms will pass away, but love never fails. It is deep on purpose, because it satisfies all of these qualities (and more.) So, it is important people are truly committed to these things before they claim love (and, not some other abstraction.)