God has abandoned me.

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I don't have any faith anymore. Call me what you like, but I have given up. I hear stories of God speaking to people, taking their pain away. Yet I have spent so many nights sobbing alone in my bed, begging for help, pleading for God to take away the pain or at least let me know that he's there. I've spent so many nights reaching up, desperate for him. But I'm just talking to my ceiling. I don't have it in me to try anymore. He has abandoned me or he never loved me in the first place. I'm not sure what to do. I believe he exists still but I don't believe he cares. He wasn't there when I needed him most and I don't know if he ever was.

Not sure what else to say. I just don't think there's a point in calling myself a Christian anymore. I don't know what I believe.

Hi there. No the Lord has not abandoned you. Yes it feels like it, you may feel awful, forgotten rejected, hurt, emotionally hurt etc. I have felt like this in the past when I was single and seeing everyone getting partners even when i had been waiting 26 years. I learnt that God was most loving and faithful. I made a video about this subject on my singles encouragement channel. I hope it helps you in some way.

Blessings on you. John

 
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Considering that faith is not volitional, that requirement is an impossible demand. You can't force yourself to believe something no matter how much you try.

No, but you can tell God that you want to believe and are willing to be willing.
You (not you personally) can act according to what the Bible says is real, irrespective of how you feel - for example, thanking him for always being there, because the Bible says that he is; even if it doesn't feel like it.
 
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Malachi 3:2-4
"But who can endure the day of His coming? And who can stand when He appears? For He is like a refiner's fire and like fullers' soap. "He will sit as a smelter and purifier of silver, and He will purify the sons of Levi and refine them like gold and silver, so that they may present to the LORD offerings in righteousness. "Then the offering of Judah and Jerusalem will be pleasing to the LORD as in the days of old and as in former years.

Zechariah 13:8-9
"It will come about in all the land," Declares the LORD, "That two parts in it will be cut off and perish; But the third will be left in it. "And I will bring the third part through the fire, Refine them as silver is refined, And test them as gold is tested They will call on My name, And I will answer them; I will say, 'They are My people,' And they will say, 'The LORD is my God.'"

Isaiah 48:10-11
Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver;
I have trieda you in the furnace of affliction.
11For my own sake, for my own sake, I do it,
for how should my nameb be profaned?
My glory I will not give to another.

1 Peter 1:6-9
6In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, 7so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 8Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, 9obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls.



Sometimes God allows suffering for the sake of refining people's souls. In the furnace of affliction, sometimes it leads to purification with silver and gold as a result.
 
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I don't have any faith anymore. Call me what you like, but I have given up. I hear stories of God speaking to people, taking their pain away. Yet I have spent so many nights sobbing alone in my bed, begging for help, pleading for God to take away the pain or at least let me know that he's there. I've spent so many nights reaching up, desperate for him. But I'm just talking to my ceiling. I don't have it in me to try anymore. He has abandoned me or he never loved me in the first place. I'm not sure what to do. I believe he exists still but I don't believe he cares. He wasn't there when I needed him most and I don't know if he ever was.

Not sure what else to say. I just don't think there's a point in calling myself a Christian anymore. I don't know what I believe.

I'm praying for you Megan! I have one question to ask you. Have you given your whole life to Jesus? I mean really turned away from the old life of sins and worldly pleasure, to serve and follow him?
 
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I don't have any faith anymore. Call me what you like, but I have given up. I hear stories of God speaking to people, taking their pain away. Yet I have spent so many nights sobbing alone in my bed, begging for help, pleading for God to take away the pain or at least let me know that he's there. I've spent so many nights reaching up, desperate for him. But I'm just talking to my ceiling. I don't have it in me to try anymore. He has abandoned me or he never loved me in the first place. I'm not sure what to do. I believe he exists still but I don't believe he cares. He wasn't there when I needed him most and I don't know if he ever was.

Not sure what else to say. I just don't think there's a point in calling myself a Christian anymore. I don't know what I believe.
Let me share with you what is comforting me to move ahead in His plan.
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1 Peter 5:10
After you have suffered for a little while, the GOD of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.

When GOD discipline us it will be painful, but the result is fruitful. The sword is placed in the hot furnace and then hammered to make it strong shape. The gold dust is melted and refined to get the pure one. So, we are melted, refined, and hammered to get in the right mould. The Children of GOD will remain in His love and discipline, but the dirty mud or the illegitimate one like won't remain in GOD's love and disciplinship. So, dear sister be patient to GOD in Christ Jesus.

James 1:3
"because you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance".

John 15:2
" ..every branch that bears fruit [in Christ Jesus], to that [GOD] prunes it in order that it may bear more fruit".

Remain in Faith, and remain in His love when He discipline you in Christ as like pruning the branch.

GOD will make you more strong in faith as like Apostle Peter, who touched rock bottom in his faith. GOD bless you.
 
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Hi Megan,

Have you tried to share your problems and feelings with others? Let others help you? Maybe you need someone to be there for you, to comfort you, listen to you, and maybe could help your problem. Somebody you trust, and he may help your problem.
Our God never leaves us. He cares for us. There always be somebody cares for you, and maybe it is you that need to open your heart to see that is unseen.


God bless.
 
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