It is good to be able to be independent, but also it is good to be able to share as family with other people. If you stay with Mom, you can possibly get to know her more, and discover some surprises. And you can learn how to relate with someone while there may be some difficulty.
I would say do not be all built up to defend yourself against being controlled. This can have you ready to react badly and lash out and criticize. Instead, be about submitting to God in His peace, and evaluating your own self . . . about how you yourself can control yourself in a bad way. We need how You, O God our Father, evaluate and correct us and bring us to maturity. Thank You, in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior
I have lived outside homeless in city areas and I have walked interstate with the clothes on my back, at times. And I have lived in hot and below-zero wind chill conditions, using only trash items to get food and shelter materials. So, yes I was a bit independent. But I was not personally sharing with my Jesus family people like I should, and I was not reaching to people in need of Jesus the way we should. And I might stay with my mother until we had a sharp disagreement, then I would decide she didn't want me and I would take off on foot.
But then it came to me that God did not want me to take off, even though I could be much more blessed than I might be with her and visiting certain churches near her. It was time for me to be strong so she could not get to me, and become more kind and caring.
However, then even though I stayed and did not quit on her by leaving, I could be too quick to just criticize her and not take a personal interest in her. I was not a good example of being personally loving and relating sensitively with various people she knew and who were in the churches I visited. I was too much about showing how I was a great Bible teacher and Jesus person not like her and others. But I did change to do better, but I would like to see how she would react to me now that I think I'm more personally caring and I have a lady friend who has kept wanting me for over five or so years, to now.
But thank You, God, for as much as You did correct and change me while I was with her.
So, Angel Eyes, how well can your eyes have you seeing her in angelic love?
lolololol . . . the way God's love has us seeing people and things? In case God means for you to stay with her for a while, make good use of this > invest in how God can correct us and mature us to share with Him and submit to how He rules us in His peace, in our relating with various people.
Independence can be isolation. Real independence makes us able to stay stable while we are sharing with people who have been able to get to us, in the past. With Jesus we can grow stronger and more sensitive and creative with difficult and impossible people . . . like we have been, ourselves, right?