I have really been struggling with intense, painful feelings of isolation and loneliness in my heart a lot this year. I am 24 years old and feel like I cannot have or develop good relationships with the people in my life and so I end up feeling really alone. I do sometimes get into sweet places with God where He makes me feel whole inside and I can forget about the lonely feelings but, I have been getting triggered more than usual now that He has been opening up some things inside of me that need to be addressed.
I have my small immediate family with my dad, brother, sister and her family, but I still feel like I can't connect with them or feel "heard" by them the way I'd like--but then again I think maybe I put too much expectation on them? My brother and I are very close, and he probably knows me more than anyone ever will--and I'm thankful. But he is moving soon and I will not be around him as much. And I see my sister and her family almost everyday and I go to their house to babysit her kids and eat dinner but that's pretty much all I do over there, I just play with her toddler and eat and go home it seems. I feel like I never get to really talk to my sister or have any heart-to-heart conversations about what is bothering me. I refrain from trying because my sister has her hands full and has health issues and I don't want to bother her. So I am left with not many people around.
I really wish I had a boyfriend. I have tried to overcome the desire by telling myself God is all I need and pray asking Him to take the desire away but something always happens that makes it come back. I get into mental ruts where it is all I can think about, and I start looking at my life and wondering if I will ever get to experience a relationship with a man or if God wants me to be single. I think the latter is true, and there are periods in my life where I can say I am content with it, but seeing almost everyone around me have somebody in their life, I can't help but be jealous and wish I had my own. I know that is sinful and pathetic, but I can't snap out of it. I think when I get older it will slowly fade once the fascination dies down and everyone starts getting older and more unattractive.
I just want to feel validated and wanted. I want to feel heard and understood. I want to feel secure and comforted. I want someone to talk to me and let me get all of my feelings out and just hold me and tell me it is okay. I want that more than anything. I feel a deep, aching need to be heard. I suppose I can get this through the Lord but I have been struggling to believe He really wants to be around me after all the sin I have done in recent weeks. I still feel guilty, and it makes me want to hide away from Him. I just want Him to wrap me up and let me cry on Him.
Gosh, I don't know what is going on inside of me. But it is making me feel depressed and it is scaring me.
These things I feel I am dying for, can God provide them for me?
I have my small immediate family with my dad, brother, sister and her family, but I still feel like I can't connect with them or feel "heard" by them the way I'd like--but then again I think maybe I put too much expectation on them? My brother and I are very close, and he probably knows me more than anyone ever will--and I'm thankful. But he is moving soon and I will not be around him as much. And I see my sister and her family almost everyday and I go to their house to babysit her kids and eat dinner but that's pretty much all I do over there, I just play with her toddler and eat and go home it seems. I feel like I never get to really talk to my sister or have any heart-to-heart conversations about what is bothering me. I refrain from trying because my sister has her hands full and has health issues and I don't want to bother her. So I am left with not many people around.
I really wish I had a boyfriend. I have tried to overcome the desire by telling myself God is all I need and pray asking Him to take the desire away but something always happens that makes it come back. I get into mental ruts where it is all I can think about, and I start looking at my life and wondering if I will ever get to experience a relationship with a man or if God wants me to be single. I think the latter is true, and there are periods in my life where I can say I am content with it, but seeing almost everyone around me have somebody in their life, I can't help but be jealous and wish I had my own. I know that is sinful and pathetic, but I can't snap out of it. I think when I get older it will slowly fade once the fascination dies down and everyone starts getting older and more unattractive.
I just want to feel validated and wanted. I want to feel heard and understood. I want to feel secure and comforted. I want someone to talk to me and let me get all of my feelings out and just hold me and tell me it is okay. I want that more than anything. I feel a deep, aching need to be heard. I suppose I can get this through the Lord but I have been struggling to believe He really wants to be around me after all the sin I have done in recent weeks. I still feel guilty, and it makes me want to hide away from Him. I just want Him to wrap me up and let me cry on Him.
Gosh, I don't know what is going on inside of me. But it is making me feel depressed and it is scaring me.
These things I feel I am dying for, can God provide them for me?