Consider these verses:
Ezra 10:10-11
10 Then Ezra the priest stood up and said to them, "You have been unfaithful and have married foreign wives adding to the guilt of Israel. Now therefore, make confession to the LORD God of your fathers and do His will; and separate yourselves from the peoples of the land and from the foreign wives."
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Don't be so quick to judge those who cannot remain married. The real justification for divorce is hardness of heart, but one is not supposed to have that level of hardness of heart. How many hard hearts does it take? One is enough.
Firstly, this passage is not biblical justification for divorce. This was something the children of Israel did because they had broken a commandment that the Lord told them, which was in Deuteronomy 7:1-3, which says, "When the Lord thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Caananites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou; and when the Lord thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor shew mercy unto them:
neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son."
So you see here that the people were never even supposed to marry foreign women anyway as commanded by the Lord; so, in order to return to the Lord's will, Ezra commanded the people to put them away from them. That is the only reason why the people divorced their wives: because they were commanded not to be married in the first place.
Secondly, the passage in Matthew 19:7-9 says, "They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives:
but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
We know that simply divorcing without remarrying is adultery based on a similar passage that Jesus taught in Matthew 5:31 which says, "It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you,
That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
You cannot and will not find justification for divorce in the Bible that allows for one to remain blameless before the Lord, unless it's for the cause of the other committing fornication (which must have happened prior to marriage). The Lord simply hates divorce, period.
And by the way, it's not me judging her - I'm not saying that the situation she's in isn't difficult, or that I wouldn't want out either. However, I am only giving her the truth based upon scripture as to what the most godly thing to do is - and that is to stay married. But if she cannot, that is up to her and she alone will answer to God for it. That's not me judging her, that's me simply telling her the truth
BASED upon the judgements of God through scripture.
~jusayin!
with them." Col 3:19
