Is it a sin for a single Christian to have sexual dreams?

Andrew77 · Apr 26, 2018

frenchbread101 said:
This is so embarrassing but I have no christian mentor to talk to about this. first, I'm female. I had a dream I "made love" with the person I "married". I'm single, never been in a relationship so I don't know why I had this dream. Normally when I have dreams like that I wake up feeling dirty and guilty so I beg God for forgiveness until I feel clean. This time I woke up feeling different. I didn't feel like it was dirty. It was beautiful. It was different than a "perverted" dream. I've been healing from avoidant attachment issues and I wonder if this was some part of it. I grew up with a skewed view of sex and sexuality and always felt dirty by it.

What I want to know is, did I sin by enjoying this dream? Is God angry at me? Do I need to pray forgiveness? I'm worried about God punishing me for enjoying this dream because I'm not married.

Why would making love to someone you are married to, be evil or dirty?

Ready the book Song of Solomon. Some of that book is clearly dream like. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Find your husband, and get married, and make love. Nothing wrong with this.

Read Song of Solomon. Sex is not evil, bad, or dirty. It's a good thing. You realize who made our bodies right? It wasn't the Devil, it was G-d. Pretty sure G-d didn't get drunk when he added the final touches, and was shocked at what happened....

"Oh myself! How did that get there on him? What are those things on her?"

Pretty sure that didn't happen..... could be wrong... could be.... doubt it.

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Divide · Apr 29, 2018

What color was his hair? Blond, brunette, or red head?

SolomonVII · Apr 29, 2018

frenchbread101 said:
This is so embarrassing but I have no christian mentor to talk to about this. first, I'm female. I had a dream I "made love" with the person I "married". I'm single, never been in a relationship so I don't know why I had this dream. Normally when I have dreams like that I wake up feeling dirty and guilty so I beg God for forgiveness until I feel clean. This time I woke up feeling different. I didn't feel like it was dirty. It was beautiful. It was different than a "perverted" dream. I've been healing from avoidant attachment issues and I wonder if this was some part of it. I grew up with a skewed view of sex and sexuality and always felt dirty by it.

What I want to know is, did I sin by enjoying this dream? Is God angry at me? Do I need to pray forgiveness? I'm worried about God punishing me for enjoying this dream because I'm not married.

Marriage is a sacrament from God. God has made the marriage bed clean and pure

Acts10:15
The voice spoke to him a second time, "Do not call anything impure that God has made clean."

In that verse God helps Peter in his struggle to accept Gentiles, and Gentile dietary concerns, as being godly. Like you (in terms of sexual love, that is), he was of the belief that engaging with the Gentiles, especially at their tables, was dirty stuff.

It is apparent in this verse that God thirsts for you. He is encouraging you to venture forth and to live your life more fully that you are now.

Through the redemption of Jesus, God has created a new heaven and a new earth, and in this new earth, the marriage bed is sacramental. It is a sacred place too.

Valor&virtue · Jan 29, 2019

Dave-W said:
You may not believe this, but it would be ok if you did. As a single adult, you were created with a hunger for sex. If it is ok to get hungry and think about your favorite meal, it is just as ok to feel a need and think about sexual fulfillment of that need.

That incorrectly assumes you need forgiveness for something that is not a sin.

IMO the devil has duped you into believing stuff to be sinful when it is not, and then beating you over the head with it in condemnation.

Sir, be careful of what you are telling this young lady. It is absolutely NOT okay to indulge in sexual fantasies. Especially if we are unmarried and not thinking about our spouse. To even look on someone and think lustlful thoughts is to commit adultery in your heart.

Valor&virtue · Jan 29, 2019

I’m dealing with the same thing chronically. Dreaming I was having sex with my “husband”. It even told me we were married. Sex dreams aren’t from God. They aren’t always a cause for concern but sometime they are. There are certain spirits called Imcubus and succumbus who believe they are married to you. Not saying that this is a spirit but be vigilant to the devices of satan

Dave-W · Jan 29, 2019

Valor&virtue said:
I’m dealing with the same thing chronically. Dreaming I was having sex with my “husband”. It even told me we were married. Sex dreams aren’t from God. They aren’t always a cause for concern but sometime they are. There are certain spirits called Imcubus and succumbus who believe they are married to you. Not saying that this is a spirit but be vigilant to the devices of satan

Those dreams come from our own hormonal desires and are completely organic. Just like dreaming of eating your favorite meal when you are hungry.

Read Song of Solomon chapter 5 verses 2-5. And wade thru the poetic imagery to get to the actual story. Shulamite was having either a sexual dream or fantasy of what was going on in a previous chapter:

Song of Solomon 2:6 (NET)
His left hand caresses my head, and his right hand stimulates me.

BTW, she is called "undefiled" in the chapter 5 section.

ETA: the supposed sex demons incubus (male) and succubus (female) are from pagan mythology and have nothing to do with Christianity. Being concerned about them is the same as being scared of the boogy man.

Valor&virtue · Jan 29, 2019

Dave-W said:
Read Song of Solomon chapter 5 verses 2-5. And wade thru the poetic imagery to get to the actual story. Shulamite was having either a sexual dream or fantasy of what was going on in a previous chapter:

Song of Solomon 2:6 (NET)
His left hand caresses my head, and his right hand stimulates me.

BTW, she is called "undefiled" in the chapter 5 section.

It’s important to remember they have been wed or are to be wed. And dreams cannot be controlled anyhow. That’s not what I’m speaking of. But DAYTIME waking fantasies should never be indulged, especially if they aren’t about your spouse. Be careful not to lead someone to sin. You told her that the hunger for food and sex are really the same thing and the Bible quotes the exact opposite. 1 Corinthians 6:13. Be careful and vigilant to tell someone biblical truth. Not opinions.

Dave-W · Jan 29, 2019

Valor&virtue said:
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V&V, welcome to the forums. (just realized these were your first 2 posts)

Please give us a brief intro to yourself in the "Introduce yourself" folder.

Valor&virtue · Jan 29, 2019

Dave-W said:
V&V, welcome to the forums. (just realized these were your first 2 posts)

Please give us a brief intro to yourself in the "Introduce yourself" folder.

Thank you for welcoming me

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