Does christianity have "forbidden haircolours"?

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Since I see a lot of hairart as a form of art and not as a form of seduction I do ask this question. I do understand that the bible says no braided hairs. Actually I am ok with braids too, but that is a different matter. Maybe that means no braids whatsoever, not even two straight braids. Todays world is different. "Proper" ladies nowadays too use haicolour and different hairdoes and braids and so does many christians and not so many use a bun on the top of their head and pins as was formerly religious fashion, besides that was braids too so that was probably also a sin in the book of books. So what do You do if You get tired of Your haircolour. Do You stick with it or Do You dye it, properly tamely or is artistic rose gold and purple red and turcoise blue also allowed? Or is that blasphemy? What about grey? Youngsters go grey nowadays. What You say? Not lightashblonde but oldagegrey. Well I did try wearing my own darkblonde for about 6 years thinking atleast my husband loved me, but then I realised my husband was watching other women much more frequently when I had no hairdye. So I went ahead one day and coloured it the way I wanted. I reasoned I can not dye or not dye my hair for His sake. He will not stay true to me no matter how faithful I would be, I would only be boring to Him without any colour. Today it is a proper blonde and I am ok with that. Well I am faithful in the sence of being faithful but I do colour my hair. But actually I do very little to my hair, it falls right every morning. I pull a brush through and wash my face and add a facial cream and I am ready to go. Easy as a pie.
 

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If your husband watches other women when you had no hair dye, would he pick out a colour he would prefer on you?

I've never had an interest in dying my hair as I'm perfectly happy with the hair God gave me, which is plain ol' brunette. lol I've seen younger ladies with grey hair and IMO, it makes them look "witchy". Like the old witches you see portrayed in movies and cartoons. Just not attractive. As for braiding, I braid mine everyday to keep it out of my face and not to make myself appear attractive to other men. I'm sure that's not a sin.
 
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Since I see a lot of hairart as a form of art and not as a form of seduction I do ask this question. I do understand that the bible says no braided hairs. Actually I am ok with braids too, but that is a different matter. Maybe that means no braids whatsoever, not even two straight braids. Todays world is different. "Proper" ladies nowadays too use haicolour and different hairdoes and braids and so does many christians and not so many use a bun on the top of their head and pins as was formerly religious fashion, besides that was braids too so that was probably also a sin in the book of books. So what do You do if You get tired of Your haircolour. Do You stick with it or Do You dye it, properly tamely or is artistic rose gold and purple red and turcoise blue also allowed? Or is that blasphemy? What about grey? Youngsters go grey nowadays. What You say? Not lightashblonde but oldagegrey. Well I did try wearing my own darkblonde for about 6 years thinking atleast my husband loved me, but then I realised my husband was watching other women much more frequently when I had no hairdye. So I went ahead one day and coloured it the way I wanted. I reasoned I can not dye or not dye my hair for His sake. He will not stay true to me no matter how faithful I would be, I would only be boring to Him without any colour. Today it is a proper blonde and I am ok with that. Well I am faithful in the sence of being faithful but I do colour my hair. But actually I do very little to my hair, it falls right every morning. I pull a brush through and wash my face and add a facial cream and I am ready to go. Easy as a pie.

The New Testament does not have rules regarding hair styles. The bible verse that you felt discouraged braids, it not saying you can not braid your hair, rather in context is stating that as a Christian and a Christian woman the focus should be on gentle submission and good works not wearing expensive jewellery, and spending excessive expense on your look. As is backed up by other scripture, that encourages good works.

1Pe 3:3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

1Ti 5:10 Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.

So the christian woman is free to do what ever she wishes with her hair or hair colour.
 
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There is no color that is good or bad to wear in your hair or otherwise, from a moral standpoint.

I'd even say that braiding is OK because I believe a woman can braid her hair, yet her beauty would come from her faith rather than her hair.
 
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What a bizarre question.
Not really Dave. In another thread from Eastern orthodox the OP was highly concerned about teens colouring and shaving their head and establishing that the colour and appearance of hair was a part of a lesbian movement their and that it was perverse. The youth are judged by how we have our hair. The youth identify themselves in subgroups by their hair and fashion, and so do older generations judge us by it.

Ive had my hair multi-coloured and often it was seen as anti-authoritarian..... and maybe they were right [at least in my case]
 
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Since I see a lot of hairart as a form of art and not as a form of seduction I do ask this question. I do understand that the bible says no braided hairs. Actually I am ok with braids too, but that is a different matter. Maybe that means no braids whatsoever, not even two straight braids. Todays world is different. "Proper" ladies nowadays too use haicolour and different hairdoes and braids and so does many christians and not so many use a bun on the top of their head and pins as was formerly religious fashion, besides that was braids too so that was probably also a sin in the book of books. So what do You do if You get tired of Your haircolour. Do You stick with it or Do You dye it, properly tamely or is artistic rose gold and purple red and turcoise blue also allowed? Or is that blasphemy? What about grey? Youngsters go grey nowadays. What You say? Not lightashblonde but oldagegrey. Well I did try wearing my own darkblonde for about 6 years thinking atleast my husband loved me, but then I realised my husband was watching other women much more frequently when I had no hairdye. So I went ahead one day and coloured it the way I wanted. I reasoned I can not dye or not dye my hair for His sake. He will not stay true to me no matter how faithful I would be, I would only be boring to Him without any colour. Today it is a proper blonde and I am ok with that. Well I am faithful in the sence of being faithful but I do colour my hair. But actually I do very little to my hair, it falls right every morning. I pull a brush through and wash my face and add a facial cream and I am ready to go. Easy as a pie.

I'm going to respond to a couple of different things... and you may find some of my answers useless, and if so, just ignore them. Get from my post, whatever you find valuable.....

I'm not sure what background you are asking this question from. Where I'm from, braiding hair is not a sin.

But I don't live with the people you do. You need to make choices that are appropriate for the group of people that you live with in your life. If you live in a community where hair coloring and braiding is considered bad... then I would not do it.

The reason I'm bringing this up, is because some people live in a Christian community that doesn't believe in "X" whatever X is. They then talk to someone from a different community, that has no problem with "X". Then they start doing X, and complain bitterly that they are looked down on by the community they live in.

Don't do this. If you live in a Christian community that does not believe in doing something, don't start doing it because someone on the internet said it was ok, because I don't live in your community. If I color my hair, it isn't going to affect me, because I don't live with the people you live with.

As Christians, we are supposed to submit ourselves to the Church we attend. So my initial advice is to follow the rules of the Christian community you are involved with.

Now... let us say that you have no such problems. That you are simply asking to find out for yourself, what is right and wrong.

As I said before the Christian community I am in, has no such problems with braiding of hair, or coloring hair.

We are a non-denominational Bible believing group. We don't see that the Bible calls coloring hair, or braiding of hair, to be sin or blasphemy.

Most of the people who think the Bible says that braiding hair is sin, always point to 1 Timothy 2:9. The problem is, they seem to ignore 1 Peter 3:3, and the reason why will become obvious.

1 Peter 3:3 says "Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—"

Do you see the problem? In this verse braiding of hair is placed in the exact same context as clothing. If the purpose was to ban the act of braiding hair..... then clothing is banned to, and every good Christian woman should be naked at all times..... .... and the sound of Christian men rejoicing arose from all nations of the Earth..... :)

See the problem? Obviously that wasn't the point. The point was, you should not make your looks the primary focus of your life, and rather that you should have a pure heart before G-d. That's the point.

The point wasn't that what you do with your hair is somehow inherently evil, but rather that your life shouldn't be about your hair, but what G-d has done for your soul. THAT... is the issue.

So in our Christian community, hair color, and braiding... not a big deal. Not a thing. No issues.

In general, all methods of making yourself more attractive, I don't have any problem.

We all do things, every single day, to be attractive to others. Why do you brush your teeth? So you don't have a massive hunk of good sticking out, looking disgusting. We want to be attractive. Why do you have your hair cut at all? To look attractive. Why do you comb your hair? To look attractive. Why do you buy new clothes? So that you look good and attractive.

So this idea that Christian women should avoid doing anything for the sake of looking good, is ridiculous to me.

We all do things to look good to other people, on a continuous basis.

Lastly, about the husband looking at other women.

There are two kinds of "looking", and every man knows this, and most but not all women know it.

One kind of looking, is looking at someone with lust and desire, and having thoughts in your head of getting with that other person. This is the obviously bad aspect of looking, that is sinful and wrong.

But there is another kind of looking. The looking that is normal for a man.

Men have something called testosterone. It drives us bonkers. It makes us look, when we see a female. This idea that men once they are married, become magically eunuchs who have no more sexual desire, and thus never notice females again until we die.... is insane.

I'm not suggesting you are thinking this way, but.... many women do. Many women think their husbands should now magically never notice a woman again for the rest of their life. Like somehow that ring cuts of the blood flow to their balls, and their testosterone level drops, and they are oblivious to women for life.

I don't know from your post, if your husband is leering at women, or if he is simply noticing them because he's a guy. If he's leering.... smack him. But if he's simply being a male... cut him some slack. Why?
Because he's a guy.
1. He has no control over that chemically induced drive.
2. It is the same drive that makes him notice other women, that at same time drives him to your curves.

If your husband lost his testosterone, he would stop noticing other women. That might sound good, but he would also have no interest in you at all.

That same chemical that makes him see others, is the same chemical that makes him want you.

Just think about it.
 
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I'm going to respond to a couple of different things... and you may find some of my answers useless, and if so, just ignore them. Get from my post, whatever you find valuable.....

I'm not sure what background you are asking this question from. Where I'm from, braiding hair is not a sin.

But I don't live with the people you do. You need to make choices that are appropriate for the group of people that you live with in your life. If you live in a community where hair coloring and braiding is considered bad... then I would not do it.

The reason I'm bringing this up, is because some people live in a Christian community that doesn't believe in "X" whatever X is. They then talk to someone from a different community, that has no problem with "X". Then they start doing X, and complain bitterly that they are looked down on by the community they live in.

Don't do this. If you live in a Christian community that does not believe in doing something, don't start doing it because someone on the internet said it was ok, because I don't live in your community. If I color my hair, it isn't going to affect me, because I don't live with the people you live with.

As Christians, we are supposed to submit ourselves to the Church we attend. So my initial advice is to follow the rules of the Christian community you are involved with.

Now... let us say that you have no such problems. That you are simply asking to find out for yourself, what is right and wrong.

As I said before the Christian community I am in, has no such problems with braiding of hair, or coloring hair.

We are a non-denominational Bible believing group. We don't see that the Bible calls coloring hair, or braiding of hair, to be sin or blasphemy.

Most of the people who think the Bible says that braiding hair is sin, always point to 1 Timothy 2:9. The problem is, they seem to ignore 1 Peter 3:3, and the reason why will become obvious.

1 Peter 3:3 says "Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—"

Do you see the problem? In this verse braiding of hair is placed in the exact same context as clothing. If the purpose was to ban the act of braiding hair..... then clothing is banned to, and every good Christian woman should be naked at all times..... .... and the sound of Christian men rejoicing arose from all nations of the Earth..... :)

See the problem? Obviously that wasn't the point. The point was, you should not make your looks the primary focus of your life, and rather that you should have a pure heart before G-d. That's the point.

The point wasn't that what you do with your hair is somehow inherently evil, but rather that your life shouldn't be about your hair, but what G-d has done for your soul. THAT... is the issue.

So in our Christian community, hair color, and braiding... not a big deal. Not a thing. No issues.

In general, all methods of making yourself more attractive, I don't have any problem.

We all do things, every single day, to be attractive to others. Why do you brush your teeth? So you don't have a massive hunk of good sticking out, looking disgusting. We want to be attractive. Why do you have your hair cut at all? To look attractive. Why do you comb your hair? To look attractive. Why do you buy new clothes? So that you look good and attractive.

So this idea that Christian women should avoid doing anything for the sake of looking good, is ridiculous to me.

We all do things to look good to other people, on a continuous basis.

Lastly, about the husband looking at other women.

There are two kinds of "looking", and every man knows this, and most but not all women know it.

One kind of looking, is looking at someone with lust and desire, and having thoughts in your head of getting with that other person. This is the obviously bad aspect of looking, that is sinful and wrong.

But there is another kind of looking. The looking that is normal for a man.

Men have something called testosterone. It drives us bonkers. It makes us look, when we see a female. This idea that men once they are married, become magically eunuchs who have no more sexual desire, and thus never notice females again until we die.... is insane.

I'm not suggesting you are thinking this way, but.... many women do. Many women think their husbands should now magically never notice a woman again for the rest of their life. Like somehow that ring cuts of the blood flow to their balls, and their testosterone level drops, and they are oblivious to women for life.

I don't know from your post, if your husband is leering at women, or if he is simply noticing them because he's a guy. If he's leering.... smack him. But if he's simply being a male... cut him some slack. Why?
Because he's a guy.
1. He has no control over that chemically induced drive.
2. It is the same drive that makes him notice other women, that at same time drives him to your curves.

If your husband lost his testosterone, he would stop noticing other women. That might sound good, but he would also have no interest in you at all.

That same chemical that makes him see others, is the same chemical that makes him want you.

Just think about it.

I thought I could go light on the man here but no. It was not merely noticing or flirting with other women irl, it was many hours of inappropriate content per day so He did no housechores but lied intead that He worked from home for His company. I was not ok with that. I thought, if I look so boring to Him now then He might think He has an excuse. Well He kept at it but I thought now He had no excuse. I also get compliments from left and right that I look beautyful even though I wear clothes properly and no make-up. So I say Thank You. I have warned my husband about the dangers of inappropriate content and it is up to Him to quit, I can not make Him quit no matter how pretty I would be I could not be 100 different looking women in a day. I simply gave Him up to God and said to God He is Yours to work on, I can only do my best to respect him. He also has no sexual life with me, no interest in me, no touching or compliments. It is more giving orders of housechores or complaints to a housekeeper. He can come to me if He wishes but He does not want to so I let it be at that. I do have trouble to understand why the outward things as haircolour is so condemned. My mom for instance condemn my hair no matter what colour it is and brags that my She never coloured Her hair. Well if She had her mum might have forbidden her to enter their house or fainted of shock. If I ever ask what She think about my husbands habit, then She wants to hear non of it and pretends He is an angel. I guess She can not understand or realise that it hurts. So I bring with me from my grandmother the strictest view of religion where not even pants are allowed on women, and break that rule often where I see fit, especially in winter and went to art and musicschool and no I am no punk or rocker, I've seen them and actually I like soul or classic better but I am more into art. I read some in the bible almost every day and I thought it was only refreshing to see so many different haircolourstyles out there, like why have a boring hair when it can look so nice, but evidently it often gets misunderstood. Many say I look great in bright cherry red but some authorities think I am a rebel so they get immediatedly real nasty. So no matter that I loved the colour it had to go. I think it is wrong to let the men run wild with their lusts and blame it all on testosterone. Men should use their testosterone not to chase more women than they have but for sports and for tending fields, forestwork and heavy lifting and for protecting the family. Use the testosterone for what it was created for. If You have none of those chores hit the gym or buy your own equipment or build an outdoorgym. When I was 20 I was not one bit impressed when 40-60 year old men tried to spill their surplus of testosterone over me by flirting, nor do I think their wives appreciated it. Leave the 20 year olds to guys of their same agegroup because they might just make fun of an older man behind His back or ask with big bright eyes, is He always like this?
 
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I think it is wrong to let the men run wild with their lusts and blame it all on testosterone.

I agree. Men should have control, respect and love their real wives, not some image on a screen.

Mat 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

I am not sure if in your position that I could remain living with a partner who used inappropriate content all the time and did not give any real love to me. I would be making an ultimatum give up the inappropriate content use, or I am leaving. Jesus did say in the word it is a form of adultery. But the stance you have chosen to stay is very noble, and I don't want to influence you one way or another. But I just don't think I could live with a partner who treated me that way.

Job 31:9-10 If my heart went after another man's wife, or if I was waiting secretly at my neighbour's door; Then let my wife give pleasure to another man and let others make use of her body.
 
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I'm going to respond to a couple of different things... and you may find some of my answers useless, and if so, just ignore them. Get from my post, whatever you find valuable.....

I'm not sure what background you are asking this question from. Where I'm from, braiding hair is not a sin.

But I don't live with the people you do. You need to make choices that are appropriate for the group of people that you live with in your life. If you live in a community where hair coloring and braiding is considered bad... then I would not do it.

The reason I'm bringing this up, is because some people live in a Christian community that doesn't believe in "X" whatever X is. They then talk to someone from a different community, that has no problem with "X". Then they start doing X, and complain bitterly that they are looked down on by the community they live in.

Don't do this. If you live in a Christian community that does not believe in doing something, don't start doing it because someone on the internet said it was ok, because I don't live in your community. If I color my hair, it isn't going to affect me, because I don't live with the people you live with.

As Christians, we are supposed to submit ourselves to the Church we attend. So my initial advice is to follow the rules of the Christian community you are involved with.

Now... let us say that you have no such problems. That you are simply asking to find out for yourself, what is right and wrong.

As I said before the Christian community I am in, has no such problems with braiding of hair, or coloring hair.

We are a non-denominational Bible believing group. We don't see that the Bible calls coloring hair, or braiding of hair, to be sin or blasphemy.

Most of the people who think the Bible says that braiding hair is sin, always point to 1 Timothy 2:9. The problem is, they seem to ignore 1 Peter 3:3, and the reason why will become obvious.



1 Peter 3:3 says "Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—"

Do you see the problem? In this verse braiding of hair is placed in the exact same context as clothing. If the purpose was to ban the act of braiding hair..... then clothing is banned to, and every good Christian woman should be naked at all times..... .... and the sound of Christian men rejoicing arose from all nations of the Earth..... :)

Yes we girls in youthgroup had that discussion too, thank you very much. I decided that I did not think that the christian men would be any more faithful to us christian women if we showed up for church naked being stupid enough to get arrested. I have still not heard anyone being faithful to a stripper. Most men want variation even in that world. So I think they would get bored of naked bodies too if they saw them often. Besides it would get very cold. I rather wear clothes. I would be rather terrified to go naked publically, with mixed genders i think. Maybe womens hormones tells them to try to be as sexy as they can sometimes but not all. I don't start to try to get a man to fall for me the first thing I do when I meet one. I try to think He has a wife for that and kids at home so I better keep some distance but I try to behave properly. Besides God knows our very thoughts and intentions and I do not want to hurt anyones wife or kids either. I know very well how it feels to be hurt that way and I do not wish it on other people. However when one never gets attention from ones spouse and one has to constantly say no, thanks, I can't, I am married, in order not to end up in another relationship or get attention from others on purpose while ones spouse constantly flirts with young women. I know one could make a parody of it, it is so silly. Maybe christian women are not so desperate because we trust in God when our husbands or our families or our worlds fall apart. Other women trust in their bodies or money or education.
 
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I agree. Men should have control, respect and love their real wives, not some image on a screen.

Mat 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

I am not sure if in your position that I could remain living with a partner who used inappropriate content all the time and did not give any real love to me. I would be making an ultimatum give up the inappropriate content use, or I am leaving. Jesus did say in the word it is a form of adultery. But the stance you have chosen to stay is very noble, and I don't want to influence you one way or another. But I just don't think I could live with a partner who treated me that way.

Job 31:9-10 If my heart went after another man's wife, or if I was waiting secretly at my neighbour's door; Then let my wife give pleasure to another man and let others make use of her body.

I have stayed mostly for the sake of my kids but it happens now and then that men ask if all is well in all wellmeaning. I can only say that I have a husband and leave it at that. A divorce is tough on the kids and I will not start having affairs although I am in this situation I would not want to be such a person. It is hurtful. I can only pray. Today my husband does more housechores. But as I said He is Gods work now and I should not judge. God will be the judge.
 
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I have stayed mostly for the sake of my kids but it happens now and then that men ask if all is well in all wellmeaning. I can only say that I have a husband and leave it at that. A divorce is tough on the kids and I will not start having affairs although I am in this situation I would not want to be such a person. It is hurtful. I can only pray. Today my husband does more housechores. But as I said He is Gods work now and I should not judge. God will be the judge.

Yeah like I said, "It is noble", that you choose to stay. Having kids I can see why it could be beneficial. I was just thinking from my own thoughts, what I would do if my wife suddenly stoped doing the deed, and was looking at naked men all the time.
 
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Not really Dave. In another thread from Eastern orthodox the OP was highly concerned about teens colouring and shaving their head and establishing that the colour and appearance of hair was a part of a lesbian movement their and that it was perverse. The youth are judged by how we have our hair. The youth identify themselves in subgroups by their hair and fashion, and so do older generations judge us by it.

Ive had my hair multi-coloured and often it was seen as anti-authoritarian..... and maybe they were right [at least in my case]
I am coming from somewhat of a Prima Scriptura view point so if it is not addressed in scripture, or a first century historical case could not be made, it is irrelevant.

That is why discussing the subject as a doctrinal issue seems bizzare.
 
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I thought I could go light on the man here but no. It was not merely noticing or flirting with other women irl, it was many hours of inappropriate content per day so He did no housechores but lied intead that He worked from home for His company. I was not ok with that. I thought, if I look so boring to Him now then He might think He has an excuse. Well He kept at it but I thought now He had no excuse. I also get compliments from left and right that I look beautyful even though I wear clothes properly and no make-up. So I say Thank You. I have warned my husband about the dangers of inappropriate content and it is up to Him to quit, I can not make Him quit no matter how pretty I would be I could not be 100 different looking women in a day. I simply gave Him up to God and said to God He is Yours to work on, I can only do my best to respect him. He also has no sexual life with me, no interest in me, no touching or compliments. It is more giving orders of housechores or complaints to a housekeeper. He can come to me if He wishes but He does not want to so I let it be at that. I do have trouble to understand why the outward things as haircolour is so condemned. My mom for instance condemn my hair no matter what colour it is and brags that my She never coloured Her hair. Well if She had her mum might have forbidden her to enter their house or fainted of shock. If I ever ask what She think about my husbands habit, then She wants to hear non of it and pretends He is an angel. I guess She can not understand or realise that it hurts. So I bring with me from my grandmother the strictest view of religion where not even pants are allowed on women, and break that rule often where I see fit, especially in winter and went to art and musicschool and no I am no punk or rocker, I've seen them and actually I like soul or classic better but I am more into art. I read some in the bible almost every day and I thought it was only refreshing to see so many different haircolourstyles out there, like why have a boring hair when it can look so nice, but evidently it often gets misunderstood. Many say I look great in bright cherry red but some authorities think I am a rebel so they get immediatedly real nasty. So no matter that I loved the colour it had to go. I think it is wrong to let the men run wild with their lusts and blame it all on testosterone. Men should use their testosterone not to chase more women than they have but for sports and for tending fields, forestwork and heavy lifting and for protecting the family. Use the testosterone for what it was created for. If You have none of those chores hit the gym or buy your own equipment or build an outdoorgym. When I was 20 I was not one bit impressed when 40-60 year old men tried to spill their surplus of testosterone over me by flirting, nor do I think their wives appreciated it. Leave the 20 year olds to guys of their same agegroup because they might just make fun of an older man behind His back or ask with big bright eyes, is He always like this?

This this is an entirely different problem.

You are in the middle a total and complete marriage breakdown.

You need to start taking action, like your entire life is on fire and burning to the ground... because it is. You just don't realize it.

None of what you said, can be fixed with hair color. Changing your hair color will not fix a inappropriate content addiction. Nor will it stop him from flirting with other women, while ignoring you.

If you doubt that, look at the women Trump was married to, and still went off after other women. Or Tiger Woods. Or Arnold Schwarzenegger.

All had beautiful wives, most were models, and yet they still ran off with other women.

You need to deal with this, with marriage counseling, or kicking this man out of the house until he shapes up. You can't win him over with a new hair color.

I do have trouble to understand why the outward things as haircolour is so condemned.

It isn't. Like I said, I don't know anyone who does.

I think it is wrong to let the men run wild with their lusts and blame it all on testosterone.

I never said that, and I don't know anyone who has. I never said that. Don't put words in my mouth, that I didn't say. I don't do that to you, so please don't do it to me.
 
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I am coming from somewhat of a Prima Scriptura view point so if it is not addressed in scripture, or a first century historical case could not be made, it is irrelevant.

That is why discussing the subject as a doctrinal issue seems bizzare.
I am aware of the thread in question. I don’t believe it is a doctrinal question in Eastern Orthodoxy as well. That said, if the intention is to draw attention to oneself in vanity, that is wrong. The act of coloring of hair in and of itself is not.

That said, back in the day that I was part of a Pentecostal Church, there were some churches in that group that would not allow hair coloring, make up, anything other than long skirts, etc. Teachings like that are not unheard of. Our main teaching with beauty is to avoid vanity (and when in church, avoid drawing attention to ourselves as opposed to focusing on God.)
 
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That said, back in the day that I was part of a Pentecostal Church, there were some churches in that group that would not allow hair coloring, make up, anything other than long skirts, etc. Teachings like that are not unheard of.
My dad was ordained in the Wesleyan Methodist denom. He left the ministry before I was born. I grew up in the Nazarene and Assembly of God traditions; the one thing that ties them together was Wesleyan Holiness doctrine. Some of the more radical elements of that stream are the United Pentecostals. (which I was NEVER a part of) I never heard they had anything against hair color. I know for a fact they allowed hair perms. In fact the only "legal" way for a woman to shorten her hair was to over-perm it and then break it off. (cutting hair was not allowed)

As to the other stuff: makeup, jewelry (including wedding bands) and even wrist watches; they were not allowed in any of the Holiness tradition congregations.
 
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My dad was ordained in the Wesleyan Methodist denom. He left the ministry before I was born. I grew up in the Nazarene and Assembly of God traditions; the one thing that ties them together was Wesleyan Holiness doctrine. Some of the more radical elements of that stream are the United Pentecostals. (which I was NEVER a part of) I never heard they had anything against hair color. I know for a fact they allowed hair perms. In fact the only "legal" way for a woman to shorten her hair was to over-perm it and then break it off. (cutting hair was not allowed)

As to the other stuff: makeup, jewelry (including wedding bands) and even wrist watches; they were not allowed in any of the Holiness tradition congregations.
That was my understanding from my boyfriend’s home church at the time. His was United Pentecostal. Perhaps I was mistaken - or perhaps they were more extreme than others. I was AoG, so we didn’t have that in our church. I was very glad that we weren’t part of the United Pentecostals ourselves. We actually didn’t have restrictions against jewelry or anything like that...just avoid vanity. That said, I always liked the Wesleyan Holiness tradition and still find some elements relate to my current Church’s beliefs, especially in regards to the teachings on sanctification, etc. That said, in some churches / denominations, it was taken to an extreme.
 
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I was AoG, so we didn’t have that in our church. I was very glad that we weren’t part of the United Pentecostals ourselves. We actually didn’t have restrictions against jewelry or anything like that...just avoid vanity.
Yeah, that is one of the problems with "autonomous congregations" like the AoG has; there can be a vast difference in practice from one congregation to another.
 
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While having any color hair is not a sin, it does seem to have a stigma that when other christians see you, they may judge and assume. Heck I sometimes have done that. I'll see a person with lets say neon pink hair and think "That person seems worldly and probably into bad things!". Its a stereotype and stigma.

There is no verse again hair color in the end. Or haircut for that matter. My wifes hair is a dark purplish color. I'd dye mine neon blue on day just for fun. Though again, so many stigmas since I am pushing 40 and coloring my hair, even once, may seem like I am loopy.
 
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