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I long felt like this. Various obstacles in my life have proven almost insurmountable for me at times; I have struggled to overcome them. I have been overwhelmed by the wretchedness of my self and the lack of confidence and worth that others around me seemed to possess.

But as life's path stretched out before me, I discovered my worth and I discovered my essence.

Context is an amazing leveller in this regard; hindsight is a wonderful thing. But looking back now, I can't believe how far I've come - though others may suppose I have very little, I'm now richer than I have ever been.

I can only offer you my sincerest wishes and prayers that you shall overcome this feeling and realise the sheer depth of your value and worth.

God bless.

Thank you so much, yours words are truly comforting. How long was it until you discovered your worth and realized God was all you needed?
 
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Take all your burdens and lay them at the foot of The Cross. When we come to the end of ourselves, that is where He begins. If He is to be our Lord, or Lord over our life, we have to turn(surrender) every thing(and I mean everything) over to Him. That is what I meant by laying it down. The Bibles says that all who call upon The Name of The Lord will be saved. Jesus also says "Behold, I stand at the door and knock, if any one hears my voice and opens the door, then I will enter in and sup with him." There is no need that you should continue to suffer. Please take these words under consideration and the next time you pray pour it all out to Him. He is there and He will hear you!
I feel like I have been praying and offering myself to God, but how much longer do I have to until I start to live life happily while still praising God? I have been a practicing Christian my entire life, so it cannot be that my faith is the problem and God certainly is not the problem. I just believe I myself am the problem like a defect, a mistake.
 
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Hey buddy! Sounds like you are having a pretty rough time... :( I see you are from London, i'm from Southampton :) I don't have the right words or answers to help you not feel like a waste of space and so low... it can be so hard, so many words of advice and encouragement, but yet the emotions are so real and so hard to process. My life has been absolutely transformed by a simple revelation i had a few months ago. James 4 v8 says about God "Draw close to me and i will draw close to you"... i have only recently realised that is a promise - when you step toward God, through talking to him, he steps back toward you... could almost be like a dance. My only advice... actually not advice... i beg you... please spend time with God, he knows you and your pain. He is the only one who will transform you! I'm always about if you need to chat. Praying for you!
 
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I am trying to become a better person and grow as a person and whenever I am feeling upset or useless I always turn to God. I have always felt since a very young age that I am not worthy of anything, I am not good at anything and I know the cliches that everyone is good at something, but I am not good at any particular thing and at best I am mediocre at things that people find normal and easy. It has been a rough few days and I feel as if the next few weeks are going to be rough, I am trying to maintain a positive attitude and read bible verses every night and sometimes throughout the day to make me feel better and strengthen my relationship with God. I just feel like Im a waste of space and I have nothing to offer to the world, but my question truly is, is why did God create me? Why did God create me when I have nothing to offer to the world, but depression and bad attitude. I want to be better and I want to grow as an individual, but I just cannot understand God's purpose for me when I feel as if I was just created to hurt those around me.
First I would like to say that God is more than likely happy you have nothing to offer the world because friends with the world is enmity with God.
Secondly, don’t ever beat your self up about it. What profits a man to gain the world and lose his soul.
In life there will always be better than you and if you humble yourself you will realise you are far better off than others.
I guess what I’m trying to say is this,
It doesn’t matter that you are mediocre. It could be worse, you could have a talent and for unseen reasons such as being crippled or something other and not been able to express your talent.
We know this world is falling down anyway so what I would suggest is that you dedicate your life to living like God wants and not stress about what you can and can’t do in this world.
If you can help somebody in need, have a joyful and peaceful heart and walk with God, you are a lot richer than those with bank accounts that topple the millions.
Never worry what your good at, rather be happy that what you do, you do for Gods glory.
Hope this helps
God bless
 
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Hey buddy! Sounds like you are having a pretty rough time... :( I see you are from London, i'm from Southampton :) I don't have the right words or answers to help you not feel like a waste of space and so low... it can be so hard, so many words of advice and encouragement, but yet the emotions are so real and so hard to process. My life has been absolutely transformed by a simple revelation i had a few months ago. James 4 v8 says about God "Draw close to me and i will draw close to you"... i have only recently realised that is a promise - when you step toward God, through talking to him, he steps back toward you... could almost be like a dance. My only advice... actually not advice... i beg you... please spend time with God, he knows you and your pain. He is the only one who will transform you! I'm always about if you need to chat. Praying for you!

I just study here! Im actually from the states but its nice to hear how close you are! How exactly can I get close to God, I feel as if my prayers don't reach him and haven't been reaching him for so long. What else can I possibly do to be heard other then prayer?
 
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Thank you so much, yours words are truly comforting. How long was it until you discovered your worth and realized God was all you needed?

Many years. I was not sure of my place every for a long time and began to hate my weaknesses. I've been blessed by gifts from God of late and can embrace those weaknesses and see them as lessons I needed to learn to appreciate what I have.
 
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Many years. I was not sure of my place every for a long time and began to hate my weaknesses. I've been blessed by gifts from God of late and can embrace those weaknesses and see them as lessons I needed to learn to appreciate what I have.
Its been years since I felt truly happy. 6 years I've been truly depressed. What is the point of my life when I've been unhappy for the majority of my youth.
 
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I just study here! Im actually from the states but its nice to hear how close you are! How exactly can I get close to God, I feel as if my prayers don't reach him and haven't been reaching him for so long. What else can I possibly do to be heard other then prayer?
Aww that is so cool! What are you studying? That's really hard, I believe God hears all our prayers, every single one and I believe he wants to speak. He also speaks often in so many ways. Have you tried simply asking if he is there and waiting? Take a walk outside? Journaling? Drawing? Reading the bible? God whisper to us to draw us in. I hope I'm being helpful... There are no right or wrong ways... Just know he loves you!
 
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I feel like I have been praying and offering myself to God, but how much longer do I have to until I start to live life happily while still praising God? I have been a practicing Christian my entire life, so it cannot be that my faith is the problem and God certainly is not the problem. I just believe I myself am the problem like a defect, a mistake.

It is not something that is practiced. It is something we become. A new creation in Christ Jesus.When we lay down our lives(surrender) that is when He enters in. He makes His abode with us. Also, when He enters in, anything else must exit, for He is Holy. Including the spirit of negativity and depression. That same voice making you think you are a mistake would also flee before Him.You are precious in His eyes, and He created you for a reason and a purpose. And that is not that you would suffer. He took all of our suffering upon Himself upon that Cross.
 
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Aww that is so cool! What are you studying? That's really hard, I believe God hears all our prayers, every single one and I believe he wants to speak. He also speaks often in so many ways. Have you tried simply asking if he is there and waiting? Take a walk outside? Journaling? Drawing? Reading the bible? God whisper to us to draw us in. I hope I'm being helpful... There are no right or wrong ways... Just know he loves you!
haha I study politics and I have decided to take up journaling as an outlet to for my mind because I have such a problem expressing my emotions out loud and to other people. You are definitely being helpful, you are so kind! Thank you!
 
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