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I was contacted on facebook by a guy I don't know. He sent me a friend request. We have mutual friends. When I asked him if I know him he said no just thought you were very pretty. My question is if you were contacted by someone on facebook in this manner what would you do? Would you talk to them? If they were interested in dating would you date them? Would it bother you how they contacted you if they are interested in dating?
 
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I was contacted on facebook by a guy I don't know. He sent me a friend request. We have mutual friends. When I asked him if I know him he said no just thought you were very pretty. My question is if you were contacted by someone on facebook in this manner what would you do? Would you talk to them? If they were interested in dating would you date them? Would it bother you how they contacted you if they are interested in dating?
I would not add them. I would rather know people who like me for a reason other than how I look.
 
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I would check out his facebook page to see what he puts on it.

Technically, this isn't just some random guy. He is a friend of a friend. Sometimes healthy connections are made through other acquaintances.

Do you like and trust your mutual friends? If yes, then do you trust their judgement in making friends with others? If not, then why are they your friends?

I'd at least give it a look over before making a decision. If you find you don't like the guy or he makes you uncomfortable after interacting on facebook, then block him.
 
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I would check out his facebook page to see what he puts on it.

Technically, this isn't just some random guy. He is a friend of a friend. Sometimes healthy connections are made through other acquaintances.

Do you like and trust your mutual friend? If yes, then do you trust their judgement in making friends with others? If not, then why are they your friend?

I'd at least give it a look over before making a decision. If you find you don't like the guy or he makes you uncomfortable after interacting on facebook, then block him.
I looked over his facebook profile and he seems ok. I am talking to him and so far he seems nice. We have mutual friends so I am not going to unfriend him and stop talking to him until he gives me a reason to do so.
 
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I looked over his facebook profile and he seems ok. I am talking to him and so far he seems nice. We have mutual friends so I am not going to unfriend him and stop talking to him until he gives me a reason to do so.

You do know that fake Facebook accounts can be made that can falsely show you having mutual friends. You are leaving the door open for someone to seriously manipulate or scam you. There are a lot of people online who are masterful in doing that.

Just don't be surprised if he talks to you for three or four weeks and then starts asking you for money for some type of life-or-death emergency.
 
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to me, it depends on how i use facebook. im getting to the point where i really only want to add people that i've had one on one encounters with (in person) but a few weeks ago, the Lord gave me favor in that over 50 people from all around the world were requesting to be friends with me. this went on for like a week (every day). i do ministry work so a lot of these individuals are workers in the church. so it was cool to see borders expanded for me and them both.
some were bogus but that comes along with the territory.

one thing you could always do is ask this person who would be the mutual people you and him both know, and then go inquire with his references. that should give you a better idea of who he is etc.
 
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sheesh.

All she has to do is find out if they really are mutual friends, which you can discover by seeing if they interact with their mutual friends on facebook. Or ask the mutual friends. Someone probably really knows this person in real life.

Or she can spend her life looking for monsters around every corner.
 
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sheesh.

All she has to do is find out if they really are mutual friends, which you can discover by seeing if they interact with their mutual friends on facebook. Or ask the mutual friends. Someone probably really knows this person in real life.

Or she can spend her life looking for monsters around every corner.

Oh lawd. This is like Internet 101 stuff. If someone contacts you randomly on a social media site like Facebook, 99.9% of the time they are not just looking to chat it up (if they are even a real person in the first place). But by all means, shirk off healthy caution.

I seriously doubt you have accepted every friend request you have received, so your "monsters around every corner" comment is so melodramatic my eyes are still rolling.
 
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Oh lawd. This is like Internet 101 stuff. If someone contacts you randomly on a social media site like Facebook, 99.9% of the time they are not just looking to chat it up (if they are even a real person in the first place). But by all means, shirk off healthy caution.

I seriously doubt you have accepted every friend request you have received, so your "monsters around every corner" comment is so melodramatic my eyes are still rolling.
you're already breaking one of the rules of engagement, paul.
 
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Oh lawd. This is like Internet 101 stuff. If someone contacts you randomly on a social media site like Facebook, 99.9% of the time they are not just looking to chat it up (if they are even a real person in the first place).

Where did you get that statistic from? All encompassing, or nearly all encompassing statements, aren't usually true.

I seriously doubt you have accepted every friend request you have received, so your "monsters around every corner" comment is so melodramatic my eyes are still rolling.

I have not accepted EVERY friend request, again, all encompassing. I have accepted every friend request of mutual friends, when I could see that they REALLY were mutual friends, which isn't hard to find out. It's facebook, not rocket science. I have sent friend requests to some people I did not know because we had a mutual friend. And guess what? They really were real people, and so am I, and now we are all real friends.

And who's being melodramatic? Control eyeball rolling before you accuse someone of being dramatic.
 
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I am giving him a chance only because we have mutual friends and I really have no reason to be rude and not talk to him. I have had messages from guys in the past that I did not know and we did not have mutual friends and they were clearly interested in only one thing. When I told them I wasn't interested there was no more contact between us.
I understand that you have to be careful on facebook about who you add. If he does or says something that I don't like I will unfriend him and not talk to him.
 
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Where did you get that statistic from? All encompassing, or nearly all encompassing statements, aren't usually true.

That would leave the above statement in question then, wouldn't it?

I have not accepted EVERY friend request, again, all encompassing. I have accepted every friend request of mutual friends, when I could see that they REALLY were mutual friends, which isn't hard to find out. It's facebook, not rocket science. I have sent friend requests to some people I did not know because we had a mutual friend. And guess what? They really were real people, and so am I, and now we are all real friends.

And who's being melodramatic? Control eyeball rolling before you accuse someone of being dramatic.

I'm saying don't come and make silly statements like that when you yourself haven't even accepted all friend requests. You have exercised caution in your social media interactions, so don't get on me because I suggested the same. Like I said, there is such a thing as fake Facebook accounts that show you having mutual friends, but I'm glad your approach has worked out for you so far. Let's hope it doesn't come back to bite you someday.
 
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I am giving him a chance only because we have mutual friends and I really have no reason to be rude and not talk to him. I have had messages from guys in the past that I did not know and we did not have mutual friends and they were clearly interested in only one thing. When I told them I wasn't interested there was no more contact between us.
I understand that you have to be careful on facebook about who you add. If he does or says something that I don't like I will unfriend him and not talk to him.

Just one thing. Choosing not to talk to someone who messages you is not rude behavior, especially when they are someone you do not know.
 
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You're kind of over the top today. What's going on?

I know it sounds ridiculous out of context. I was referring to something unnecessarily rude that Mr. Rules of Engagement posted in response to another user in the WOYM thread several days ago.
 
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