Unmerciful people are not following Christ.
You can simply forgive them, but you don't have to believe in whatever it is they have made up as their own thing to obey instead of Christ.
Also, I think it will aid us every time to learn more clearly what is sin and what is not. I mean we all have to learn those over time.
We need to confess for what we are doing, the actual wrong. Not other things mistakenly (see why below).
Lust is not always adultery. Lust is not always idolatry. Those individual sins need their own individual repentance, and it needs to be genuine, and so we need to know if we actually did them!
Adultery when there is lasting (not momentary) attraction that is indulged in (including in the heart)
and at least one of the people involved is married and the other person is not their spouse.
If neither person in the affair is married, it's not adultery. It can still be wrong, but it's then another sin, like lust and/or fornication.
Adultery is often these but it's always also something more (of serious significance) --
betrayal of a person's reliance on you from their heart!
Next, idolatry is when we make anything more important to ourselves than God. That can be a person.
Sometimes lust can be that way, but often is not.
So, lust is not adultery, unless one of the people is married. Lust is not idolatry unless you make it more important inside your focus and valuing than God.
Lust is a wrong too, in that it treats a person without love.
If there is love, and neither is married, and it's real love, then we call it 'desire' because there is love. Lust is like a negation of love, not a train car with love.
Also, the sin called 'sodomy' is an action -- anal sexual intercourse -- not a vague and mere temperament thing like 'being gay'.
Man/woman couples can do this same wrong!
Another sin -- many wrongly judge, judge without established fact, that 'gay' people must be all doing sodomy intercourse. That judging is a sin too, because it judges on mere appearances, thus wrongly (John 7:24).
So, as we can see, there are a lot of different distinct sins around all of this stuff. But you, my dear fellow, are not likely doing many of them!
We need to confess and repent our
actual sins, with actual remorse, and it helps to avoid confusion, because for one thing, you won't really feel true remorse for doing such a thing as "adultery", which is a profound betrayal of another person! unless you are actually doing it!
Remorse, guilt, helps us repent. We each need to feel the authentic remorse for our actual wrongs. We need to confess our real wrongs, each of us, directly to God, with real remorse, and turn from those wrongs, not wanting to continue them.
When we do confess to Him, with contrition, He forgives!
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)
Praise the Lord for this amazing Grace!
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How will you know if you are in a good church?
You should hear the Good News about Christ, and hear his words to us, and you should experience this:
34“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
35By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
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