Looking for a Devotional or Bible Study with my S/O.

RollingPreach

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Hey, I am new to this site and I am looking into the idea of doing either a devotional or bible study with my s/o. I'll go into a little detail about each of us and our relationship to try and help y'all help me! (sorry it got more lengthy than I thought!!)
About our spiritual paths: Both my girlfriend and myself were raised in southern, christian households and were raised heavily in the church. Each of our faiths have weakened in the past few years as we graduated high school and moved on to college. Her faith said stronger than mine, but neither of us are really involved in the church lately except for the occasional Sunday visit. With both of us being pre-law and being involved on campus we find it hard to fit church service into our weekly routine (please don't harp on this because it is not going to help us right now and we know we need to do a better job to carve that time out). We are both looking to continue and grow in our faiths.
Now our relationship: I met her fairly early in my first semester at college. We became close friends throughout the semester and began to date about halfway through. At the time, I was struggling with severe depression and it put a strain on our relationship. After a few months I decided that I needed to focus on myself before I could try to focus on a relationship and we split. After a short period of time, I withdrew from the university and began working. She and I connected during this time and began our relationship again. A year after we first met I made the decision to change universities and start my studies on the pre-law path. We made the decision to work at a semi-long distance relationship where we spend one to two weekends a month with each other and one of our families. We have now been been together for a little over a year and are coming to a stage in our relationship where we are discussing the future and what it might hold for us. I guess you could say we are in a pre-engagement stage where we are looking into what that would mean for us even though neither of us want to get married until after we graduate in a year and a half to two years at the earliest but neither of us want to rush it.
With all that being said, does anyone have any ideas for either bible studies or devotionals that we could complete together? I would like for us to have a daily study we do on our own and then either that day or maybe once a week discuss what we have been studying. I hope to find something that will bring us closer to the lord first, but also something that might help guide our relationship as we discuss our future together.
 

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Throwing an idea out there: pick a book/chapter/story from the Bible to read on your own and discuss what you learned once a week. Not sure why it has to be more complex than that tbh. You already kinda suggested it yourself.

If you're not sure what to pick, ask her what she'd like. If you can't decide together, I'd suggest reading the accounts of the death of Jesus in all four gospels in quick succession. (Full disclosure, reading that made me an atheist. That's my ulterior motive.)

Less devious suggestion: use some of the weekly discussion time to talk about your relationship. Celebrate what's working every week. Have it as a convenient time to bring up issues before they fester. Keep this part even if all that Bible reading turns you into atheists because at least it will make your relationship with each other stronger.
 
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Hey, I am new to this site and I am looking into the idea of doing either a devotional or bible study with my s/o. I'll go into a little detail about each of us and our relationship to try and help y'all help me! (sorry it got more lengthy than I thought!!)
About our spiritual paths: Both my girlfriend and myself were raised in southern, christian households and were raised heavily in the church. Each of our faiths have weakened in the past few years as we graduated high school and moved on to college. Her faith said stronger than mine, but neither of us are really involved in the church lately except for the occasional Sunday visit. With both of us being pre-law and being involved on campus we find it hard to fit church service into our weekly routine (please don't harp on this because it is not going to help us right now and we know we need to do a better job to carve that time out). We are both looking to continue and grow in our faiths.
Now our relationship: I met her fairly early in my first semester at college. We became close friends throughout the semester and began to date about halfway through. At the time, I was struggling with severe depression and it put a strain on our relationship. After a few months I decided that I needed to focus on myself before I could try to focus on a relationship and we split. After a short period of time, I withdrew from the university and began working. She and I connected during this time and began our relationship again. A year after we first met I made the decision to change universities and start my studies on the pre-law path. We made the decision to work at a semi-long distance relationship where we spend one to two weekends a month with each other and one of our families. We have now been been together for a little over a year and are coming to a stage in our relationship where we are discussing the future and what it might hold for us. I guess you could say we are in a pre-engagement stage where we are looking into what that would mean for us even though neither of us want to get married until after we graduate in a year and a half to two years at the earliest but neither of us want to rush it.
With all that being said, does anyone have any ideas for either bible studies or devotionals that we could complete together? I would like for us to have a daily study we do on our own and then either that day or maybe once a week discuss what we have been studying. I hope to find something that will bring us closer to the lord first, but also something that might help guide our relationship as we discuss our future together.

Did you ever find a devotional or bible study? Would you mind sharing it if you have, please? FWIW, the bible.com app allows you to pick a plan and do it together and you can each make notes under each day of the devotional and let the other read it and can comment on each others. It's been good, but not sure it's what you're after (or me).
Also, I actually think @shrinking_violet 's less devious idea is actually really good and will probably be giving it a try.
 
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My fiancé and I used the YouVersion app and did a Bible plan together called, The Sacred Search. It was sort of our "pre-engagement/ pre-marital" counseling. It brought up some really great conversations. I hope you enjoy it too!
 
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