Something interesting has popped up in my mind more so recently. The transition between non-married to married is quite astonishing when you sit down to think about it (as if there's a switch to be turned on or off).
Hypothetically before marriage, I'm suppose to be all happy about my bf apologising for accidentally kissing me a bit too passionately as it's a good sign that he wishes to respect boundaries and keeping pure by avoiding lust and fornication. Then after marriage I'm suppose to feel offended if my husband apologises for the same behaviour because our status has changed (and it's kind of weird to want to avoid sexual desire after getting married isn't it?) It's just interesting that our response or feelings as Christians toward the exact same action or circumstance will automatically change when we step into a different season. Has anyone experienced this sudden transition and did it feel confusing or was it very natural?
I can't seem to recall any other aspects of Christian life that requires such similar adjustment of attitude and feelings.
On a side note the stranger thing is that my bf keeps on apologising about these kind of things e.g kissing/hugging me a bit too much even though he knows I do like hugs whereas I secretly wish that he would actually apologise for things that hurt me more emotionally eg. neglect, being cold or just saying something that was hurtful
Hypothetically before marriage, I'm suppose to be all happy about my bf apologising for accidentally kissing me a bit too passionately as it's a good sign that he wishes to respect boundaries and keeping pure by avoiding lust and fornication. Then after marriage I'm suppose to feel offended if my husband apologises for the same behaviour because our status has changed (and it's kind of weird to want to avoid sexual desire after getting married isn't it?) It's just interesting that our response or feelings as Christians toward the exact same action or circumstance will automatically change when we step into a different season. Has anyone experienced this sudden transition and did it feel confusing or was it very natural?
I can't seem to recall any other aspects of Christian life that requires such similar adjustment of attitude and feelings.
On a side note the stranger thing is that my bf keeps on apologising about these kind of things e.g kissing/hugging me a bit too much even though he knows I do like hugs whereas I secretly wish that he would actually apologise for things that hurt me more emotionally eg. neglect, being cold or just saying something that was hurtful
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