Andrew77

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I can't seem to be into a man unless I know I have no chance with him, or he has rejected me. I can't get into a man who is interested in me, and he just gets on my nerves. Why?

Men getting on a woman's nerves? Welcome to being a normal woman. That's what we do darling. Men drive the women they love crazy. Sometimes crazy in love, and most of the time just flat out crazy.

It's what we're good at.

If you are not ready to be married, or if you simply haven't found someone that you can tolerate, don't worry about it. Just chill, and live life for the Lord, as best you know.

That's my advice. If you are happy to be the way you are now, then don't rush it.
 
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It only takes two people to make a match. You don't have to find a lot of great men who like you as well, but only one. Relax and wait. Pray about it. And try to find something good to do while you're single, don't expect a man to make you content about your life. That could really be the issue here.
 
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I can't seem to be into a man unless I know I have no chance with him, or he has rejected me. I can't get into a man who is interested in me, and he just gets on my nerves. Why?

Is there unforgiveness toward someone you be holding onto?
 
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I can't seem to be into a man unless I know I have no chance with him, or he has rejected me. I can't get into a man who is interested in me, and he just gets on my nerves. Why?
Because you think you can do better. Whether or not that's true will become known in due course.
 
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I can't seem to be into a man unless I know I have no chance with him, or he has rejected me. I can't get into a man who is interested in me, and he just gets on my nerves. Why?
I agree with Aino's post. Additionally, what you describe could be the result of past hurts, in which case psychological therapy might help. It could be something that won't get better without help, and finding the right man wouldn't make the problem go away. It would only transform into a different problem (e.g., painful marriage after a while).
 
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I can't seem to be into a man unless I know I have no chance with him, or he has rejected me. I can't get into a man who is interested in me, and he just gets on my nerves. Why?
Maybe because you love the challenge of fighting for someone you can´t have. Maybe love scares you. Maybe it´s just a competition for you. It seems like you want it complicated, maybe because you don´t want love at all. Sometimes it´s a matter of hurt in the past, sometimes we have been hurt so much that we don´t think we deserve anything good and it affects the way we see love. We need the excitement of all the bad guys treating us badly.We become masochists. When we are treated badly it feels good, this becomes a pleasure instead of pain, because we get used to it. It makes us want more, it drives us to go further, to fight harder, question is, does it really make us happy?? do we get anywhere?? This can be very excitting, but we need to be careful we don´t overstep our own boundaries. Sometimes we do that without even knowing, and sometimes this has already happened when we act like this, and then it becomes hard getting back to the real us. If you fight for something you can´t have then you automatically overstep lines that should not be crossed, because in the chase it´s normal to give so much that you lose a part of yourself.
 
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