Bored with ordinary conversations

Left said:

I need to be honest about something. I find myself getting tired of conversations with people. Not with friends, just with people I talk to but am not deep friends with. I feel no "challenge" anymore. When I started learning to debate, I met a couple of extreme prodigies who debated with me for a time. They were relentless and if you worded something wrong, they would say "Do you mean..." But from these people, I learned a lot. Because if I didn't read books to keep up, they would point out that I'm not making much sense to them. Then I try to debate with normal, ordinary people and I'm not saying I always win, but they don't challenge me to learn more. I guess my only real option is to study a lot and become a really, really good debater myself and be at the top of things. When you are at the top of your game, people arise who consider it a challenge to knock you off your perch. So by being a better debater in the future, I think I might just attract and find others who are good at it too and want to challenge me. Maybe even make some friendships from it, since I don't make a lot of friends on a regular basis these days.

I have a feeling that people will tell me "You should debate for God as a Christian, and not yourself." And I agree... but why not both?

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Left said:

I see what you mean about being a friend to have friends. But these days, I'd just like to make friends a bit more organically. Saying "Do you want to be my friend?" rarely works, you just have to find people with the same interests as you. And I have the interest of debating.

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Left said:

But basically, I think I could make more friends if my personality was a bit more "fluffy". I can't stand being fluffy though and am not naturally inclined to it, so I'd rather attract people who prefer a meaty conversation over a whole lot of fluffiness.

I do get a bit more fluffy as you get to know me, though.

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CallofChrist said:

Over the years it seems many of my friends have drifted away, though I try to be a good friend. I need more new friends, I guess,

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Left said:

I see what you mean about being a friend to have friends. But these days, I'd just like to make friends a bit more organically. Saying "Do you want to be my friend?" rarely works, you just have to find people with the same interests as you. And I have the interest of debating.

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