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Well, I wonder if it's an issue regarding you being too vanilla. Most women (and men) have varying degrees of masochistic needs in a relationship. Doesn't mean they want to be with abusers, but still they need a little rough love/romance to feel fulfilled. It's probable that you are too vanilla (nice) for this woman and perhaps a good majority of women's tastes.
Of course sadomasochism isn't always as extreme as it's portrayed in the media. Something as simple as playful teasing/flirting counts. Having a rough sense of humor, and not being afraid to show some of your unpleasant emotions also count.
As someone in that scene, we mysteriously don't have a problem with people complaining about good guys and bad guys, lol. Nor things like the friend-zone. Mainly because we know what we want, and keep open and clear communications about such desires. Honestly in the vanilla dating world and PUA tactics.. it seems to be mainly vanilla people grappling with unrealized sadomasochistic desires in their dating/romantic life.
I do agree with what another post said here.. be yourself. If you don't like even things like playful teasing that's cool. Although I think that will turn many women off. That's fine. There are certainly women who will share your worldview/sentiments.
Of course sadomasochism isn't always as extreme as it's portrayed in the media. Something as simple as playful teasing/flirting counts. Having a rough sense of humor, and not being afraid to show some of your unpleasant emotions also count.
As someone in that scene, we mysteriously don't have a problem with people complaining about good guys and bad guys, lol. Nor things like the friend-zone. Mainly because we know what we want, and keep open and clear communications about such desires. Honestly in the vanilla dating world and PUA tactics.. it seems to be mainly vanilla people grappling with unrealized sadomasochistic desires in their dating/romantic life.
I do agree with what another post said here.. be yourself. If you don't like even things like playful teasing that's cool. Although I think that will turn many women off. That's fine. There are certainly women who will share your worldview/sentiments.
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