Please help me

Lisa12383 · Jan 8, 2018

I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore.
I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

Jenniferdiana · Jan 8, 2018

Hi youre still very young and have your whole life ahead of you..anything could happen

Christie insb · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore.
I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

I wish I could help you but you tell us so little. Anyway you need irl help, someone to listen to you and help you figure out what you can change and what you can't.

brinny · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore.
I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

"Having someone" will not make you "happy".

~Anastasia~ · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore.
I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

Hello,

It sounds like you're having a difficult time, which we all do in different ways. Usually the best thing to do is to talk to someone. But know that your life is precious, to others and to God, and it is a gift to you. Whatever the problem(s) are, there are things we can do to help ourselves.

There are volunteers available on different kinds of crisis lines that you can call 24/7 to talk to someone. They are listed in this post below for convenience sake.

Kristen.NewCreation said:
Crisis Lines - Any Age

America:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273-TALK
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/Default.aspx

United Way 211 - 2-1-1.org

Suicide hotline for Military/ex-Military, Veterans etc (1-800-273-8255 press option 1)

Australia:

Lifeline - 13 11 14
http://www.lifeline.org.au/Find-Help/Find-Help/default.aspx

MensLine Australia - 1300 78 99 78
http://www.mensline.org.au
Norway:

Kirkens SOS: 815 33 300 (Norways Statechurch's crisis line)
(Lokale SOS senter: Lokale SOS-senter - Kirkens SOS) (Local SOS centers can be found through the link above)

United Kingdom:

Samaritans - 08457 90 90 90
ROI - 1850 60 90 90
http://www.samaritans.org/

CarelineUK Personal Alarm System
http://www.carelineuk.com/for_individuals

Emergency Phone - 999

(Muslim Women's Helpline) - Mobile phone - 0303 999 5786
- Landline - 0800 999 5786
Muslim Womens Helpline

Jewish Helpline - 0800 652 9249
http://www.jewishhelpline.co.uk/

SANE - http://www.sane.org.uk/what_we_do

If you are having particular problems, you can click on the arrow on the quote to go to the thread, which lists all kinds of help resources for particular problems.

We also have chaplains here on CF that you can speak with.

Chaplains Office

Have you spoken to your pastor, or sought advice from a trusted family member or friend? People who know and love us can sometimes have helpful insight into our situations.

I hope you will seek out help from some or all of these sources. There are people who really care about you, and God loves you. His desire is for you to have hope and life in Him.

God be with you, dear one. I am praying for you.

Emli · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore.
I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

Praying for you.

You are only 18. You haven't waited your whole life, because your life has barely yet begun. The worst years of your life, the teenage years, have almost passed. Then things will get better.

I've been where you're at, and I know how you feel, and here's the Truth:

You don't have no one. Even if you feel alone in the world, you still have God. You have in Christ a best friend who loves you, a Savior who died for you, a God who is Almighty and who has your best intentions in mind and great plans for your future, and who can and will turn things around for you if you only trust in Him. He loves you and cares for you. Turn to Him and you may find a lot more hope and happiness that you are feeling right now. So pray!

And if you want to talk, I'm right here. Just PM me.

In Christ,
Em

Apologetic_Warrior · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore. I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

I understand what you're going through, loneliness is brutal but the Lord can get a person through it, I waited for a long long time, 33 years of being alone, except I wasn't alone, most importantly Jesus was there, and in my case I have always had family. It's not the same, I know, but God can work loneliness and singleness for good. Use the time to learn and mature more as a Christian. Always keep in mind, there are others going through the same thing, while lonely, you are not alone. If I could give you a hug I would, and tell you that the feelings will pass, it will be alright, keep the faith.

-Luca · Jan 8, 2018

Hello Lisa, I am very sorry that you are going through all of this, it is truly very saddening.

Everyone loves you, friends, family and most of all God. Despite how bad life gets to us, he is always there behind the scenes trying to change our lives for the better; you are always in the palm of his hand. His gaze never wanders from you because to him you mean everything.

You are so beautiful, and there is nobody else like you in this world, your life is precious.

'God has a reason for allowing things to happen. We may never understand his wisdom, but we simply have to trust his will'.

dreadnought · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I just want to be happy.
I don't want to wait anymore.
I've waited my whole life, but nothing gets better. I'm truly tired of waiting and I think I've lost almost all hope for a happy life. I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of having no one. I don't want to be alive.

Sometimes people expect too much of themselves. Perhaps you should relax and try to enjoy life more. As for having no one, you can always talk to the Lord. I am single like you, and most happy. I am active in my church and get fellowship there.

Lisa12383 · Jan 8, 2018

Apologetic_Warrior said:
I understand what you're going through, loneliness is brutal but the Lord can get a person through it, I waited for a long long time, 33 years of being alone, except I wasn't alone, most importantly Jesus was there, and in my case I have always had family. It's not the same, I know, but God can work loneliness and singleness for good. Use the time to learn and mature more as a Christian. Always keep in mind, there are others going through the same thing, while lonely, you are not alone. If I could give you a hug I would, and tell you that the feelings will pass, it will be alright, keep the faith.

Thank you.

Lisa12383 · Jan 8, 2018

A_Fish_Called_Luca said:
Hello Lisa, I am very sorry that you are going through all of this, it is truly very saddening.

Everyone loves you, friends, family and most of all God. Despite how bad life gets to us, he is always there behind the scenes trying to change our lives for the better; you are always in the palm of his hand. His gaze never wanders from you because to him you mean everything.

You are so beautiful, and there is nobody else like you in this world, your life is precious.

'God has a reason for allowing things to happen. We may never understand his wisdom, but we simply have to trust his will'.

Thank you

Lisa12383 · Jan 8, 2018

brinny said:
"Having someone" will not make you "happy".

Having nobody is not a life worth living.

Apologetic_Warrior · Jan 8, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
Having nobody is not a life worth living.

If I had cut mine short, who knows who my wife would have ended up with, and our son would have never been born. Be patient, trust in Lord, He knows what is best for you in the here and now. Life is full of waiting and more waiting, it's like one long Dr. appointment to be honest. Working with my dad was the worst with regard to waiting, I used to have to wait on him all the time, and it nearly drove me stark raving mad. But as it turns out, it helped me for what was to come.

Kit Sigmon · Jan 9, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
Having nobody is not a life worth living.

I know married, separated /divorced people who could tell you a different story.

A relationship or marriage isn't a cure all...nor will it guarantee happiness.
We never know when our love interest or spouse will tire of us and move on
to someone else.

I believe it's best for a believer to continually maintain a close intimate relationship with the Lord, He is always with us and promises never to abandon/or leave us nor will He lie to us.

Far too many these days have gotten their ideals about relationships from movies,
friends or books that say/or imply that you ain't got a life or you can't be happy unless you have someone.

The Bible doesn't teach us to bemoan the time we're single/unmarried.
As believers our first job is to be an Ambassador for the Lord.
Single people have the opportunity to devote themselves more fully to kingdom work...my step children when they were your age, went and served on
the mission fields in China, Japan and Vietnam...then to college (they worked
their way through school etc).
Our daughter who is married with family they all are doing missionary work overseas...they even have our niece and her family going to serve with them for
a year.
One nephew and a friend did this when a spokesperson gave a talk on it at church several years ago: The World Race | Christian Mission Trip

There are people who are around us who actually don't have nobody to care for them...check around, you too will find there be people right where you live who have been forgotten, overlooked or flat out abandoned.

I found them right in my own neighborhood and here's a little gem for you, back
then I was working for an elderly woman who alone and due to her kindness she bought me a computer for a birthday present (this was my first computer that I got in 2001 and she then had me to purchase one for her home so I would have one there as well.
I joined an online christian dating site and in time met this wonderful christian man who I married and we are still together and serving the Lord.
It was while I was serving/caring for someone else that I was enabled to connect
with the christian man I married.
I was on that dating site for about a year before meeting him and it began as a long distance relationship that required lots of effort, forgiveness and a lot of prayer.

Lisa12383 · Jan 13, 2018

Kit Sigmon said:
I know married, separated /divorced people who could tell you a different story.

A relationship or marriage isn't a cure all...nor will it guarantee happiness.
We never know when our love interest or spouse will tire of us and move on
to someone else.

I believe it's best for a believer to continually maintain a close intimate relationship with the Lord, He is always with us and promises never to abandon/or leave us nor will He lie to us.

Far too many these days have gotten their ideals about relationships from movies,
friends or books that say/or imply that you ain't got a life or you can't be happy unless you have someone.

The Bible doesn't teach us to bemoan the time we're single/unmarried.
As believers our first job is to be an Ambassador for the Lord.
Single people have the opportunity to devote themselves more fully to kingdom work...my step children when they were your age, went and served on
the mission fields in China, Japan and Vietnam...then to college (they worked
their way through school etc).
Our daughter who is married with family they all are doing missionary work overseas...they even have our niece and her family going to serve with them for
a year.
One nephew and a friend did this when a spokesperson gave a talk on it at church several years ago: The World Race | Christian Mission Trip

There are people who are around us who actually don't have nobody to care for them...check around, you too will find there be people right where you live who have been forgotten, overlooked or flat out abandoned.

I found them right in my own neighborhood and here's a little gem for you, back
then I was working for an elderly woman who alone and due to her kindness she bought me a computer for a birthday present (this was my first computer that I got in 2001 and she then had me to purchase one for her home so I would have one there as well.
I joined an online christian dating site and in time met this wonderful christian man who I married and we are still together and serving the Lord.
It was while I was serving/caring for someone else that I was enabled to connect
with the christian man I married.
I was on that dating site for about a year before meeting him and it began as a long distance relationship that required lots of effort, forgiveness and a lot of prayer.

Thanks for sharing. I know what you're trying to say. Please understand that when I said "having nobody," I wasn't simply referring to the single life. I meant it quite literally. Feeling insignificant and abandoned by everybody is how life has always seemed to be - nothing changing, not knowing at all how to be content with lonliness and wanting to be killed because I'm too scared to kill myself, losing more and more hope day after day.

I can only try to do better and be a better person, but I can't pretend that I think things will finally take a turn for the better for me. I know that to God, I'm just a selfish, sinful failure that doesn't deserve anything but misery anyways.

Christie insb · Jan 13, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I know that to God, I'm just a selfish, sinful failure that doesn't deserve anything but misery anyways.

We all are selfish, sinful failures. I am so grateful that God doesn't give me what I deserve.

Doing something to help others can help with these feelings. There are numerous 12-step groups which I feel can help with this. Even just sitting in a meeting and hearing others' stories can help us realize the problems we have are shared by others.

Dave-W · Jan 16, 2018

Lisa12383 said:
I know that to God, I'm just a selfish, sinful failure that doesn't deserve anything but misery anyways.

To Him you are a "selfish, sinful failure" that He loved enough to die for.

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