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You all be teaching one another what the other person can do to you
and they will keep on doing it.

Section 8 is for low income people... you pay a certain percentage of the
rent, I believe it's like 30% and Section 8 pays the rest.
If you low income, your credit is "questionable" and it's already pegged...you have student loan right? Student loans have to be repaid by us regular people
who get them.



Georgia....Section 8 waiting list: Georgia Section 8 Waiting Lists Open Now

Is this just for you or is this for family(parents, you, and sibling)???
because if you ain't mastered the art of saying no and no longer give
money to your parents who choose not to be responsible adults ...
there's no point in moving out and they show up begging/pressing you
to help them pay bills so they don't lose their home, have their electricity
cut off etc.

The bad habit of supporting people who are either idle, wasteful, irresponsible etc
needs to stop...their plenty of resources available that they can learn to be productive members of society, learn to manage their money/budgeting etc.
I got books from the library years ago and learned about that...now this stuff is
available online...not to mention support groups, counseling and the like that are
available as well.
 
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I don't agree with your parents' decisions, but hatred is not from God.

1 John 4 NIV
7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

If your parents treat you poorly, you shouldn't live with them. But neither should you hate them.
 
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I don't agree with your parents' decisions, but hatred is not from God.

1 John 4 NIV
7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

If your parents treat you poorly, you shouldn't live with them. But neither should you hate them.
There is nothing wrong with hate when it is justified. Hate simply means intense dislike or aversion or hostility towards something. Malice is usually what people mean when they say "hate is wrong" in these contexts. Malice is the desire to see harm come to someone because you want to see them suffer. Spite would a closely related word.

The Bible lists many evil things God hates, and tells us to hate what is evil. If her parents are being manipulative and taking advantage over her then she should hate them. Christians should hate evil people and not want to be around them. How can you claim you love God and love what is good if being around evil doesn't bother you?
 
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How old are you? If you are at least 18, can't you find another relative or friend to live with... just until you get roommates and your own place?

I know you are upset about mom asking for your money to help pay bills. But giving birth is not a lifetime debt. She does not owe you free room and board forever. If you are grown.. Act like it

After you get out on your own it will be easier for you not to be so hard on your parents. Leaving may actually save your relationship with them.
 
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How old are you? If you are at least 18, can't you find another relative or friend to live with... just until you get roommates and your own place?

I know you are upset about mom asking for your money to help pay bills. But giving birth is not a lifetime debt. She does not owe you free room and board forever. If you are grown.. Act like it

After you get out on your own it will be easier for you not to be so hard on your parents. Leaving may actually save your relationship with them.
I agree giving birth isnt a life time of debt but I didnt ask to be here nor am I awking them to fund a lavish life style...all I'm asking is just let me get myself together...I always help my parents
 
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Parents shouldnt anger their children.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
 
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There is nothing wrong with hate when it is justified. Hate simply means intense dislike or aversion or hostility towards something. Malice is usually what people mean when they say "hate is wrong" in these contexts. Malice is the desire to see harm come to someone because you want to see them suffer. Spite would a closely related word.

The Bible lists many evil things God hates, and tells us to hate what is evil. If her parents are being manipulative and taking advantage over her then she should hate them. Christians should hate evil people and not want to be around them. How can you claim you love God and love what is good if being around evil doesn't bother you?

Being around evil bothers me, hating other imperfect beings is evil, too. I remove myself from toxic people who can't be won over by love.
 
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No, dont ever think we can repay what our parents have given to us.

She needs to respect parents no matter what happens, just because she has given some money doesnt mean she can justify herself and put a bad name on her parents, thats very ungrateful.
Her parents know that she has her own bills to pay. They are using money that she needs to meet her own obligations -school, car insurance for things that they should be paying for. They have not made a clear agreement as to what she should owe them each month for the ability to live there in peace. How would you like it, if you work very hard and then all of a sudden when your check comes-they have a way to devour it for their needs - gas for the mom's car even? It now ruins your ability to save back any money and puts you behind on your bills.
I was shocked by the words that came from you in your post. I don't know if it has been reported by the OP, but you have a short time and I certainly will. I could not believe that the remark even came from you! Had to look again to be sure. Please apologize and change that post.
 
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Being around evil bothers me, hating other imperfect beings is evil, too. I remove myself from toxic people who can't be won over by love.
I don't really hate my parents. I was just frustrated.
 
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I'm glad to hear that. Please learn to be careful with your words. I'm very, very sorry about your situation.
Yeah .... I love my parents....what they do sometimes frustrates me.
 
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