You forget, Sky, my brother (68 years old now) is gay, and i've met most of his boyfriends at some time or another. Not a single one has homosexuality in the family background.
And based on what you have just disclosed, I have to ask, were either of your parents gay? If you went through setting up a date, preparing for it, and then going on a date with a guy, YOU are a repressed homosexual. I don't care how many times you've been intimate with women, or how many children you have, you are still a repressed gay.
I went on an outing many times over a few months having a very good time
with a man who later became an active homosexual. I was not physically
attracted to this man, but like many men in theater circles, he was great
fun to spend time with. At the time, we both were interested in women.
I continue in that direction.
He, like every male gay man I've known, had one or more homosexual parents.
The only exceptions to this rule are where the father left the marriage early
and their social status was unknown.
I appreciate your story. What I notice is that your sample is not
statistically random. You didn't notice that your brother screened all
his friends becasue he is attracted to people who are just like himself.
That is natural. My sample is from Theater were I worked stage crew.
Your stated sample is from the screened friends of one person who is
already has your same background. It's
not your fault, but it's
confirmation bias by your brother screening out people not like you.
Plus....few people your parents age
ever came out of the closet.
If they divorced...they stayed "single." This is usually no clear
record of gay people in that entire generation.