- Nov 26, 2017
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Hi, I am new here. My son actually recommended this site. I am having a lot of difficulty understanding some problems that my son is going through involving his faith. My son was baptized a year ago in July. We have been actively attending church for the last 3 months. He has been extremely passionate about learning all he can about Jesus and the Bible. Our lives has changed for the better, we are listening to only christian music, watching christian movies, reading christian books and he even stopped playing violent video games. (his choice, good) All of these changes are insisted upon by my son, which I was happy with. Now in the last month he has been having doubts about his faith. Such as: Am I really saved? Can I be unsaved? Am I wandering astray? Have I submitted to Jesus as Lord and Savior? Do I really believe in Jesus? (The Resurrection of Jesus) Is this Gluttony? Is this a sin? Having Horrible thoughts. He started reading the Bible 24/7 and not eating the way a normal kid would eat to me almost starving himself. (not what he thinks) He talks about these issues with me and I try to understand his doubts and feelings. We always end up arguing and we get very upset with each other. I get upset because I can't understand what he is going through. The final straw for me was when he wasn't eating right, feeling like he could not eat his Halloween candy which we still have, and he did not get that much this year. I told him that he was obsessing over things he should not obsess over. We got in a huge argument both crying, both yelling, and in the end at that time I did not know if the Bible was good for him and if church was good for him. I suggested he take a break from reading the bible 24/7. Currently he is reading his Bible occasionally because I could not, in good conscience take it away. He is eating normally again. Which is a blessing. I understand that everyone has doubts and they must work it out with God. What is the best way to guide my son? Do I refer him to him a Pastor at our church, because I don't always know what to say. I feel helpless and do not know how to help him. He is struggling on a daily basis and it is hard for me to see him like this.
My son and I are posting this together and he has some things he would like to say.
Hi, yes I have been having all of the issues listed above and I would like to explain my "side"(I don't want you to think like this is a big fight)
I was reading the Bible a lot for a while which I think is good. After I did my homework and everything I HAD to do. I would have breakfast in the morning and sometimes I would think I would eat to much. I would then eat very little for lunch at school. (a piece of pizza) That night I would have little to no food at all. During the "final straw" my mom said I should stop preaching at school because it is against the rules at school. I am confused because the Bible says to make disciples of all nations, baptizing in the name of the Father, The Son, (Jesus) and The Holy Ghost. My mom says that I can do these things when I am older. Lately I have been reading my Bible less and less and I feel like I am wandering astray from where I was. I had a habit of reading my Bible a lot, but now I don't want to read it as much. When we talk I do not like to get angry or yell so sometimes I don't talk. On my account on this site (LTank7) I have talked to a chaplain before and they said I might have OCD because I am having HORRIBLE THOUGHTS. I do not want to repeat them but if you need me to I will. I want to get better in my walk with Christ and I want to have intimacy with my Father. Hope you can help!
God Bless!
My son and I are posting this together and he has some things he would like to say.
Hi, yes I have been having all of the issues listed above and I would like to explain my "side"(I don't want you to think like this is a big fight)
I was reading the Bible a lot for a while which I think is good. After I did my homework and everything I HAD to do. I would have breakfast in the morning and sometimes I would think I would eat to much. I would then eat very little for lunch at school. (a piece of pizza) That night I would have little to no food at all. During the "final straw" my mom said I should stop preaching at school because it is against the rules at school. I am confused because the Bible says to make disciples of all nations, baptizing in the name of the Father, The Son, (Jesus) and The Holy Ghost. My mom says that I can do these things when I am older. Lately I have been reading my Bible less and less and I feel like I am wandering astray from where I was. I had a habit of reading my Bible a lot, but now I don't want to read it as much. When we talk I do not like to get angry or yell so sometimes I don't talk. On my account on this site (LTank7) I have talked to a chaplain before and they said I might have OCD because I am having HORRIBLE THOUGHTS. I do not want to repeat them but if you need me to I will. I want to get better in my walk with Christ and I want to have intimacy with my Father. Hope you can help!
God Bless!