Engaged Yesterday

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

I became engaged yesterday. I am very happy. I love Caleb very much. We had spoke about having the wedding next Autumn. I already am looking at pictures of autumn weddings. I am nervous but excited to be a wife. Its what I wanted my whole life. I know I am a wounded person but I know Caleb's love will help me heal, as well as God's love.

PloverWing · Dec 10, 2017

Congratulations!

Far Side Of the Moon · Dec 10, 2017

Hooray. I'm so happy for you

Ancient of Days · Dec 10, 2017

"Its what I wanted my whole life." Be careful with that one, its an expectation that will eventually disappoint you. Expectations are pre meditated resentments.

" I know I am a wounded person" Have you resolved those issues first? Going into a marriage with excessive baggage will eventually tear it apart.

"Caleb's love will help me heal" Healing is an inside job, it doesn't come from the outside. Again, that sounds like an expectation that when it goes unfulfilled will only lead to disappointment. I would suggest pre marriage counseling and lay it all out on the table before each other. You probably already know what you two agree on but do you know what you don't agree on? I have seen many marriages fail because of hidden assumptions that weren't addressed before the marriage.

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

PloverWing said:
Congratulations!

Thank you so much

Sarah G · Dec 10, 2017

Brilliant! Congratulations to you both! An Autumn wedding would be so nice for clothes, colours, flowers, styling. I am really happy for you, Luin

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

Far Side Of the Moon said:
Hooray. I'm so happy for you

Aww

Thank you so much

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

Ancient of Days said:
"Its what I wanted my whole life." Be careful with that one, its an expectation that will eventually disappoint you. Expectations are pre meditated resentments.

" I know I am a wounded person" Have you resolved those issues first? Going into a marriage with excessive baggage will eventually tear it apart.

"Caleb's love will help me heal" Healing is an inside job, it doesn't come from the outside. Again, that sounds like an expectation that when it goes unfulfilled will only lead to disappointment. I would suggest pre marriage counseling and lay it all out on the table before each other. You probably already know what you two agree on but do you know what you don't agree on? I have seen many marriages fail because of hidden assumptions that weren't addressed before the marriage.

Thank you for your words. I agree that I need to be careful of my expectations. I know I have a bad past. I have a history of being kidnapped. He is aware of that and I am in counseling for it. I agree that pre marriage counseling will be very good for us. That is something I will look into soon. God bless you.

Tom 1 · Dec 10, 2017

Luin said:
I became engaged yesterday. I am very happy. I love Caleb very much. We had spoke about having the wedding next Autumn. I already am looking at pictures of autumn weddings. I am nervous but excited to be a wife. Its what I wanted my whole life. I know I am a wounded person but I know Caleb's love will help me heal, as well as God's love.

Congrats!

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

Sarah G said:
Brilliant! Congratulations to you both! An Autumn wedding would be so nice for clothes, colours, flowers, styling. I am really happy for you, Luin

Thank you so much Sarah

Your words made me smile

I agree an autumn wedding would be very nice for the clothes, colors, flowers and styling. Those are things I am thinking about now

I am looking at pictures and getting ideas

Ancient of Days · Dec 10, 2017

God bless you sister, makes my heart happy that you are willing to address those concerns first! The healthier a person is before they go into a marriage, the better the chance the marriage has to succeed!

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

Tom Farebrother said:
Congrats!

Thank you so much

Bluerose31 · Dec 10, 2017

Ancient of Days said:
God bless you sister, makes my heart happy that you are willing to address those concerns first! The healthier a person is before they go into a marriage, the better the chance the marriage has to succeed!

Thank you so much for your words. I will pray to the Lord that he helps me be a good wife and that our marriage is a Godly one.

Willing-heart · Dec 11, 2017

Ancient of Days said:
"Its what I wanted my whole life." Be careful with that one, its an expectation that will eventually disappoint you. Expectations are pre meditated resentments.

" I know I am a wounded person" Have you resolved those issues first? Going into a marriage with excessive baggage will eventually tear it apart.

"Caleb's love will help me heal" Healing is an inside job, it doesn't come from the outside. Again, that sounds like an expectation that when it goes unfulfilled will only lead to disappointment. I would suggest pre marriage counseling and lay it all out on the table before each other. You probably already know what you two agree on but do you know what you don't agree on? I have seen many marriages fail because of hidden assumptions that weren't addressed before the marriage.

I couldn’t agree more with you. Please listen to this advise full of wisdom. God bless

Radagast · Dec 11, 2017

Congratulations and may God bless you both!

Bluerose31 · Dec 11, 2017

Femi Williams said:
I couldn’t agree more with you. Please listen to this advise full of wisdom. God bless

Thank you

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