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Hey @MotherFirefly , you still planning on dethroning me?


Hey, I would be happy just to see that this post drew the dear lass out of hiding wherever she has been, regardless of whether she truly is planning to dethrone you or not in whatever game this is that you two play. ^_^
 
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This is brilliant if I do say so myself...

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If it makes you feel better, I didn't get my drivers license until I was 22 (I think....may have been 21 or 23). It's never too late to do that. I've heard of women who got their license when they were in their 40's or 50's. Don't compare yourself to others or what they have done. If you want to get your license, go to college, or get a job then do it. Don't beat yourself up, it's a journey and a process.:hug:
Agreed. I think I was around that age as well when I got my license.

There are lots of students in college who are a little older. It’s really not that uncommon or weird.
 
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And well, growing up I had the typical plans when I got older: learn to drive, go to college, get a job...but then anxiety struck when I was a teenager and messed up my life for several years. Now I haven't gotten any of that accomplished, and sometimes it really gets me down.

If it makes you feel better I'm going to be 26 in a couple months and I still don't have a driver's license or been to college and I work at a recycling depot which is filthy and not really respected.

My father and ex girlfriend pressured me to get a driver's license when I was younger. I knew I couldn't because I'm a maladaptive daydreamer meaning that while driving my attention will be somewhere else. I really didn't want to risk any accidents just to impress a bunch of people I no longer respect. Plus, my town was small enough to walk everywhere and we now have a transit system which I now take full advantage of. What is your motivation in getting a license? Do you have places to be or are you just trying to live up to your culture's expectations? In some Asian countries, it's more practical to use bicycles as transportation instead of cars.

I never went to college either because of a traumatizing twelve years at school thanks to my Asperger's. School for me was pure heck and so I developed a fear of education and, to some extent, learning itself as a result. However, it's been seven and a half years since I graduated and my mental condition regarding the trauma has improved and I'm hoping my newfound therapy will take it further. I can now go as a mature student without worrying about high school marks. I also saved up over $20,000 from my jobs since 2010 so now I have tuition. If things go according to plan, I plan to go learn graphic design in Fall of 2018. You are never too old to get an education and can go when you feel you are ready. College isn't for everyone and some may have to go later than others after sorting out a number of personal issues in their life. There's no rush.

When it comes to jobs, I am definitely way ahead of you there. I worked as a dishwasher at a cafe at 14, worked in back of a thrift store at 16, and in the back of the recycling depot at 20 because I knew my Asperger's prevented me from being an ideal worker at the front and dealing with customers with a superiority complex. We just got to make due with what we have. If you're worried about getting a low paying job because of all the stigma attached to it, just hear me out. I work at a recycling depot and have done so since 2012. I had complete strangers give me flak for working there saying I should learn a trade, work at the oil fields, or join the military because my town is stupid that way. The oil industry then crashed and suddenly my job (which was apparently a deadly sin to work at) now had 50+ resumes from people who used to make $40/hour pumping oil. Suddenly, my job didn't seem all that undesirable since our economy's bread and butter was no longer profitable. There's no shame in an honest day's work. Back in the Biblical days you could have a career in picking grapes in a vine yard. Being able to read and write was basically the equivalent of an Ivy League university degree in those times. You just got to make with that you have.

As Travelers.Soul said, comparing is not something any of us should do. It only gives us two feelings: Pride or Depression. Take my word for it. God says that neither of them are desirable in His eyes and only expects us to do what we are capable of doing. One day, God is going to tell many Christians, "To Heck with your culture, what did you do to advance mine?" God doesn't care about your place in life, He only cares what you are willing to do for Him out of love.

Just try to do what you are capable of for what God says is right and don't allow others to beat you down in the name of what they think is right.
 
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If it makes you feel better I'm going to be 26 in a couple months and I still don't have a driver's license or been to college and I work at a recycling depot which is filthy and not really respected.

My father and ex girlfriend pressured me to get a driver's license when I was younger. I knew I couldn't because I'm a maladaptive daydreamer meaning that while driving my attention will be somewhere else. I really didn't want to risk any accidents just to impress a bunch of people I no longer respect. Plus, my town was small enough to walk everywhere and we now have a transit system which I now take full advantage of. What is your motivation in getting a license? Do you have places to be or are you just trying to live up to your culture's expectations? In some Asian countries, it's more practical to use bicycles as transportation instead of cars.

I never went to college either because of a traumatizing twelve years at school thanks to my Asperger's. School for me was pure heck and so I developed a fear of education and, to some extent, learning itself as a result. However, it's been seven and a half years since I graduated and my mental condition regarding the trauma has improved and I'm hoping my newfound therapy will take it further. I can now go as a mature student without worrying about high school marks. I also saved up over $20,000 from my jobs since 2010 so now I have tuition. If things go according to plan, I plan to go learn graphic design in Fall of 2018. You are never too old to get an education and can go when you feel you are ready. College isn't for everyone and some may have to go later than others after sorting out a number of personal issues in their life. There's no rush.

When it comes to jobs, I am definitely way ahead of you there. I worked as a dishwasher at a cafe at 14, worked in back of a thrift store at 16, and in the back of the recycling depot at 20 because I knew my Asperger's prevented me from being an ideal worker at the front and dealing with customers with a superiority complex. We just got to make due with what we have. If you're worried about getting a low paying job because of all the stigma attached to it, just hear me out. I work at a recycling depot and have done so since 2012. I had complete strangers give me flak for working there saying I should learn a trade, work at the oil fields, or join the military because my town is stupid that way. The oil industry then crashed and suddenly my job (which was apparently a deadly sin to work at) now had 50+ resumes from people who used to make $40/hour pumping oil. Suddenly, my job didn't seem all that undesirable since our economy's bread and butter was no longer profitable. There's no shame in an honest day's work. Back in the Biblical days you could have a career in picking grapes in a vine yard. Being able to read and write was basically the equivalent of an Ivy League university degree in those times. You just got to make with that you have.

As Travelers.Soul said, comparing is not something any of us should do. It only gives us two feelings: Pride or Depression. Take my word for it. God says that neither of them are desirable in His eyes and only expects us to do what we are capable of doing. One day, God is going to tell many Christians, "To Heck with your culture, what did you do to advance mine?" God doesn't care about your place in life, He only cares what you are willing to do for Him out of love.

Just try to do what you are capable of for what God says is right and don't allow others to beat you down in the name of what they think is right.

You don't even hold a learner's permit?
 
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This is brilliant if I do say so myself...

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I don’t think this would work with me....

I’d probably guess some place I don’t like or more likely a joke.
I’m indecisive so if someone made a habit of doing this I’d either be indecisive about it knowing what the real motive was... or just reply with a joke.

But it might not backfire. I think it’s usually better if other people pick, because while I may be picky... I’m not very concerned about food. I eat because it is a nesessity to survive....

I’d probably try to pick something I think they’d want to eat. Even if it’s something I don’t like. ^_^
 
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I don’t think this would work with me....

I’d probably guess some place I don’t like or more likely a joke.
I’m indecisive so if someone made a habit of doing this I’d either be indecisive about it knowing what the real motive was... or just reply with a joke.

But it might not backfire. I think it’s usually better if other people pick, because while I may be picky... I’m not very concerned about food. I eat because it is a nesessity to survive....

I’d probably try to pick something I think they’d want to eat. Even if it’s something I don’t like. ^_^
Dang it. Ill try harder lol
 
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To everybody, I apologize for all my complaining yesterday. I didn't mean to make anybody feel bad or anything, I just needed to vent.

The good news is, I began feeling better last night, so hopefully I'll be able to continue cheering up, counting my blessings, and trying to enjoy Christmastime.

Finished sewing (at least for now), next project: write a short Christmas story. :satisfied:


It does look awesome! I'm sure you'll enjoy seeing it! :D
 
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To everybody, I apologize for all my complaining yesterday. I didn't mean to make anybody feel bad or anything, I just needed to vent.

The good news is, I began feeling better last night, so hopefully I'll be able to continue cheering up, counting my blessings, and trying to enjoy Christmastime.

Finished sewing (at least for now), next project: write a short Christmas story. :satisfied:



It does look awesome! I'm sure you'll enjoy seeing it! :D
Sometimes it's good to just vent, lol.
Thanks, MultiStories. :) Oh, what did you end up sewing? What's the new story going to be about?
 
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