I have some questions about Sexuality

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I have always found myself a bit unconformable around the topic but i just need to find out the truth. I have been a beliver for a long time. I was always tought that same sex attractaction was veey sinful and an abomination. I have never thought much about it but as i moved through grade levels when i was younger i started developing some sex attractactions. And i am NOT blamming god and im not saying it is HIS fault. I have an attraction for both women anf men but i prefer men at times. I never had many friends growing up. And when i did have one i would end up developing an attraction for that One person (guy). My dad always told me that being gay was wrong. I prayed repeatedly but something new happened a year ago. I was gay at first but then became Bi Sexual after praying to god for a straight attraction lots of times. I still have a feeling i am still in the wrong even though i have a choice between 2 genders. I have never told my parents because they condemn anything gay related. I had grown very depressed and thinking a bit suicidal. I have been around people who laughed at gays and i pretended to be straight for years still hoping that i could change and trick my body. My father told me Gay people are possed by inner demons abd are being controlled by evil. I want to know the truth?? I just feel like im losing hope as lobger as i wait. I dont know if Bi Sexual is still a sin or not. I always get very sensitive talking about this because i just feel hopeless and lost. I am constantly paranoid while im sleeping that whenever i hear a sound or some sound heavenly like i get scared and look out the window thinking that i am being left behind from gods angels. I had my mom tell me that she had a dream that a i was about to get shot but then a dove came in and took the bullet for me. I am convinced that god is
trying giving me a message but i just dont know. I know its alot to take in but i am just so lost. Please respond nicely as i am very senistive.
 

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I have always found myself a bit unconformable around the topic but i just need to find out the truth. I have been a beliver for a long time. I was always tought that same sex attractaction was veey sinful and an abomination. I have never thought much about it but as i moved through grade levels when i was younger i started developing some sex attractactions. And i am NOT blamming god and im not saying it is HIS fault. I have an attraction for both women anf men but i prefer men at times. I never had many friends growing up. And when i did have one i would end up developing an attraction for that One person (guy). My dad always told me that being gay was wrong. I prayed repeatedly but something new happened a year ago. I was gay at first but then became Bi Sexual after praying to god for a straight attraction lots of times. I still have a feeling i am still in the wrong even though i have a choice between 2 genders. I have never told my parents because they condemn anything gay related. I had grown very depressed and thinking a bit suicidal. I have been around people who laughed at gays and i pretended to be straight for years still hoping that i could change and trick my body. My father told me Gay people are possed by inner demons abd are being controlled by evil. I want to know the truth?? I just feel like im losing hope as lobger as i wait. I dont know if Bi Sexual is still a sin or not. I always get very sensitive talking about this because i just feel hopeless and lost. I am constantly paranoid while im sleeping that whenever i hear a sound or some sound heavenly like i get scared and look out the window thinking that i am being left behind from gods angels. I had my mom tell me that she had a dream that a i was about to get shot but then a dove came in and took the bullet for me. I am convinced that god is
trying giving me a message but i just dont know. I know its alot to take in but i am just so lost. Please respond nicely as i am very senistive.
Sin is the great deceiver. God has revealed the greatest Truth in Jesus. We follow Him, or we stray into being deceived. I think you need to confess Jesus as Savior, then follow Him. Romans 10:8-13.
 
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Perhaps the best counsel is from someone else who has walked in your shoes having similar experiences. Have you ever heard of Rosaria Butterfield? She used to be a tenured professor of English at Syracuse University. She was gay and a staunch supporter and leading advocate of LBGT rights until her life completely changed when she became a Christian. She is an excellent speaker and videos of her can be found on youtube as she has a remarkable testimony. She has also written a couple of books on the subject. She has a website and I encourage to further investigate for yourself as it may help to answer your questions. Her website Home
Please know that God loves you and wants the best for your life. May God bless you!
 
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I think what you really need to find out is can you be with a woman and marry her and live a normal heterosexual lifestyle in spite of your desires for the same sex? If you can then whether or not you have same sex attraction isn't an issue. If you don't think you can be with a woman and marry her then that is problematic. I think some people are able to marry and abstain from satisfying their same sex attraction and I think some aren't able. So there is hope for you.
 
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Everybody has to examine themselves against the word of God for it is
by the word of God that we can know what is sin and what is not.
Everybody has to choose between life and death.
If you desire to live forever in a new Earth that will be recreated for us
and to go on into the eternities with God and the angels then you need
to work out what you are willing to forgo and give up that will prevent this
from happening.
Eternal life is the greatest prize available to us mortals.
But it requires us to desire it and to submit to the will of God and to walk
in the Spirit. The Holy Spirit is given so that we can deny ourselves and so
that we can overcome our carnal nature.

45 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:
46 Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had,
and bought it.
Matthew 13:
In this allegory the pearl of great price is salvation of one's soul and selling all that
one has is giving up worldly sins in order to possess the real treasure.

24 Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself,
and take up his cross, and follow me.
25 For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake
shall find it.

26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
Matthew 16:
 
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I don't think that demons are necessarily a part of it, it's a lust of the flesh.

It's important to differentiate between being tempted to sin and actually sinning. You say that you are attracted to women and attracted to men. If you were to entertain lust for men or choose a relationship or a casual encounter with a man, those would be sinful. If you were to have inappropriate fantasies about a woman, or a casual encounter with a woman, or pursue a relationship with a woman who is not Biblically available, those would be sinful. Either way, you have to choose the path of life and obedience. You can choose obedience, the problem most people have is choosing it consistently. When you say you are bisexual, what you are really saying is that there are more ways in which you are tempted than straight people. It doesn't mean you have to pursue any of the above sins with men any more than it would mean that you or I have to pursue any of the above sins with women. Since you are bisexual, that still means you are attracted to women, and it would make sense for you to pursue a God-honoring relationship with an available woman, and when you are ready to commit to marriage, marry an available woman. Both of these are major decisions which should never be forced.
 
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Thanks for the advise. I do feel that i can be with a women and love her as well. Although i do know there will be some temptations i know i can do my best to try to overcome them. I actually thank god after all my prayers that have gave me an opportunity to choose over 2 genders instead of just being attracted to one. Even though some times do feel dark god provided a opportunity for me that i am more that grateful to have. Thanks alot and love you all.
 
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I have always found myself a bit unconformable around the topic but i just need to find out the truth. I have been a beliver for a long time. I was always tought that same sex attractaction was veey sinful and an abomination. I have never thought much about it but as i moved through grade levels when i was younger i started developing some sex attractactions. And i am NOT blamming god and im not saying it is HIS fault. I have an attraction for both women anf men but i prefer men at times. I never had many friends growing up. And when i did have one i would end up developing an attraction for that One person (guy). My dad always told me that being gay was wrong. I prayed repeatedly but something new happened a year ago. I was gay at first but then became Bi Sexual after praying to god for a straight attraction lots of times. I still have a feeling i am still in the wrong even though i have a choice between 2 genders. I have never told my parents because they condemn anything gay related. I had grown very depressed and thinking a bit suicidal. I have been around people who laughed at gays and i pretended to be straight for years still hoping that i could change and trick my body. My father told me Gay people are possed by inner demons abd are being controlled by evil. I want to know the truth?? I just feel like im losing hope as lobger as i wait. I dont know if Bi Sexual is still a sin or not. I always get very sensitive talking about this because i just feel hopeless and lost. I am constantly paranoid while im sleeping that whenever i hear a sound or some sound heavenly like i get scared and look out the window thinking that i am being left behind from gods angels. I had my mom tell me that she had a dream that a i was about to get shot but then a dove came in and took the bullet for me. I am convinced that god is
trying giving me a message but i just dont know. I know its alot to take in but i am just so lost. Please respond nicely as i am very senistive.

Some verses in the Bible on the subject:
Leviticus 18:22
Romans 1:26-27
1 Corinthians 6:9-20

As a person who identifies as being a believer, you're to focus on following
Jesus and uphold God's Word.
We all struggle with sin, if you do sin, repent of it and get right back to
following Jesus and abiding in Him.

When you get up each morning, clothe yourself in Christ the Lord...train yourself to seek the Lord each morning and to renew your mind often on God's Word.

The Bible also says..."The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray." Proverbs 12:26
 
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I have always found myself a bit unconformable around the topic but i just need to find out the truth. I have been a beliver for a long time. I was always tought that same sex attractaction was veey sinful and an abomination. I have never thought much about it but as i moved through grade levels when i was younger i started developing some sex attractactions. And i am NOT blamming god and im not saying it is HIS fault. I have an attraction for both women anf men but i prefer men at times. I never had many friends growing up. And when i did have one i would end up developing an attraction for that One person (guy). My dad always told me that being gay was wrong. I prayed repeatedly but something new happened a year ago. I was gay at first but then became Bi Sexual after praying to god for a straight attraction lots of times. I still have a feeling i am still in the wrong even though i have a choice between 2 genders. I have never told my parents because they condemn anything gay related. I had grown very depressed and thinking a bit suicidal. I have been around people who laughed at gays and i pretended to be straight for years still hoping that i could change and trick my body. My father told me Gay people are possed by inner demons abd are being controlled by evil. I want to know the truth?? I just feel like im losing hope as lobger as i wait. I dont know if Bi Sexual is still a sin or not. I always get very sensitive talking about this because i just feel hopeless and lost. I am constantly paranoid while im sleeping that whenever i hear a sound or some sound heavenly like i get scared and look out the window thinking that i am being left behind from gods angels. I had my mom tell me that she had a dream that a i was about to get shot but then a dove came in and took the bullet for me. I am convinced that god is
trying giving me a message but i just dont know. I know its alot to take in but i am just so lost. Please respond nicely as i am very senistive.

Some people struggle with alcohol, others with inappropriate content, or some other addiction. All of those drives, for drink, inappropriate content, or addictions, are used by the devil to draw people into destructive life styles. Homosexuality is no different, it is a confusing, and unnatural desire, given to us by Satan. As a Christian we need to trust that God's word is the best for us, and for our families. God's word draws us away from addiction, and sin, homosexuality is a sin, and it is a desire that we must push away from our selves. The bible says "Resist the devil and he will flee from us", the desires you feel may come from time to time, even for the rest of your life, but you must trust that God's way is better. Live God's way, force the devil out.
 
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I have always found myself a bit unconformable around the topic but i just need to find out the truth. I have been a beliver for a long time. I was always tought that same sex attractaction was veey sinful and an abomination. I have never thought much about it but as i moved through grade levels when i was younger i started developing some sex attractactions. And i am NOT blamming god and im not saying it is HIS fault. I have an attraction for both women anf men but i prefer men at times. I never had many friends growing up. And when i did have one i would end up developing an attraction for that One person (guy). My dad always told me that being gay was wrong. I prayed repeatedly but something new happened a year ago. I was gay at first but then became Bi Sexual after praying to god for a straight attraction lots of times. I still have a feeling i am still in the wrong even though i have a choice between 2 genders. I have never told my parents because they condemn anything gay related. I had grown very depressed and thinking a bit suicidal. I have been around people who laughed at gays and i pretended to be straight for years still hoping that i could change and trick my body. My father told me Gay people are possed by inner demons abd are being controlled by evil. I want to know the truth?? I just feel like im losing hope as lobger as i wait. I dont know if Bi Sexual is still a sin or not. I always get very sensitive talking about this because i just feel hopeless and lost. I am constantly paranoid while im sleeping that whenever i hear a sound or some sound heavenly like i get scared and look out the window thinking that i am being left behind from gods angels. I had my mom tell me that she had a dream that a i was about to get shot but then a dove came in and took the bullet for me. I am convinced that god is
trying giving me a message but i just dont know. I know its alot to take in but i am just so lost. Please respond nicely as i am very senistive.


Hi

You already know the truth.

Gods perspective on bi sexual, same sex marriage attraction, and all other forms of sexual immorality is very clear in the bible, they were put to death.

This was done as an example consequence and deterrent to warn and prevent Gods people from committing unacceptable forms of sexual immorality that the gentiles and pagans practiced.

The inhabitants of Sodom and Gomorrah were blinded and their city wiped out by God as they partly practiced sexual immorality.

There is no compromise or facilitation for any sexual immorality.

We either obey Gods teachings and follow his Word or we disobey Gods teachings and give in to our own cravings and desires.

God is not mocked.

We all reap what we sow.

The enemy, the world, people and our flesh will always tell us what we want to hear.

But it is only Gods truth that will confront challenge dispute and answer our questions from Gods perspective and give us our guidelines boundaries and his teachings to follow.

We all have different problems, issues and concerns that challenge us.

But God has already provided his body with wisdom and oversight to care comfort and help us overcome these struggles.

Talk to your oversight when your ready, and get some advice guidance and assistance.

Jesus will provide you with the answers and solution that you seek.

It just takes time and is a process.

I admire your honesty to share your personal concerns with us.

Take care.

Peace
 
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I don't think the Bible talks about same sex attraction being wrong, only acting on it. It might help to try and determine the cause, if you can. The reasons for same sex attraction are various. One Christian guy I know who was bisexual seemed to have very low self esteem and had an almost worship of his own gender, as if he looked up to other men because he didn't feel equal to them.
It's my personal opinion that some people can have these feelings when they start putting others of the same gender on a type of pedastal. That would be one example of what might cause it. But not necessarily how it is in your case. And again, just my opinion.
Hope you find peace soon
God bless
 
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I have always found myself a bit unconformable around the topic but i just need to find out the truth. I have been a beliver for a long time. I was always tought that same sex attractaction was veey sinful and an abomination. I have never thought much about it but as i moved through grade levels when i was younger i started developing some sex attractactions. And i am NOT blamming god and im not saying it is HIS fault. I have an attraction for both women anf men but i prefer men at times. I never had many friends growing up. And when i did have one i would end up developing an attraction for that One person (guy). My dad always told me that being gay was wrong. I prayed repeatedly but something new happened a year ago. I was gay at first but then became Bi Sexual after praying to god for a straight attraction lots of times. I still have a feeling i am still in the wrong even though i have a choice between 2 genders. I have never told my parents because they condemn anything gay related. I had grown very depressed and thinking a bit suicidal. I have been around people who laughed at gays and i pretended to be straight for years still hoping that i could change and trick my body. My father told me Gay people are possed by inner demons abd are being controlled by evil. I want to know the truth?? I just feel like im losing hope as lobger as i wait. I dont know if Bi Sexual is still a sin or not. I always get very sensitive talking about this because i just feel hopeless and lost. I am constantly paranoid while im sleeping that whenever i hear a sound or some sound heavenly like i get scared and look out the window thinking that i am being left behind from gods angels. I had my mom tell me that she had a dream that a i was about to get shot but then a dove came in and took the bullet for me. I am convinced that god is
trying giving me a message but i just dont know. I know its alot to take in but i am just so lost. Please respond nicely as i am very senistive.

I once identified as a bi-sexual for two years up to a few months this year. I have never told my parents, never felt I had to, because didn't see it as crucial to announce, although the culture of the home is kinda like yours. Now if I was to give a label to where my attractions lie, probably still be that because I'm still dealing with this flesh, and the attractions comes from time to time. But I give a piece of my background to tell you this, and this is where I notice alot of people start to feel all messed up:

We are living in a very self-obsessed and self-controlling world where people have to be so aware of everything, that its almost becoming thought policing. We became so conscious and sensitive that we've become foolish. We take feelings and we make it as truths, as identity. We have so many labels now, and we obsess over it until it consumes us, we neglect just trusting God, just being thankful for life, just letting God do His thing, trusting and being obedient, and we instead focus on how we can be gods of our own life, what we think will bring happiness, what will and won't work, and it goes on.

So what happens when we're not really trusting what God say, nor understand His will, and we come up with pressing feelings or struggles? We feel frazzled, confused, lost, and we bypass the Truth and promises and try to DIY it. Societies respond to sin is that because you have it, it must have already been with you, its a part of you, own it, and live your life. Instead of actually finding the root, and letting God deal with it, instead its mask with label and society drives the narrative of now the new false image. Because I have certain feelings, i must be a bi-sexual and I must now play the part or else im lying to myself. Or because I have them, I am damned because my label is bi-sexual and I can't seem to get these thoughts out of my mind.

This is why Matthew 16:24 was so powerful for me. I asked God, can I be a bi-sexual christian? How can I be blessed and an abomination at the same time? Jesus said, if you want to be my disciple, if you want to walk in Truth, if you desire the fruits of the spirit and eternal life, you first have to deny yourself.

This is your first and I would argue MOST CRUCIAL step. Now that you are honest with yourself,you have to drop the label of "bi-sexual". Do not make your attractions an identity. Your are beyond sexuality. Its pitiful that even among christians that somehow the most important thing to our existence is being heterosexual.It is not. The most important thing is to be image bearers, this only happens if you drop whatever image of yourself you have, and take on God's image. As long as you attract your circumstance to a false image of who you are, you will get stuck there. Unless a man is born-again, they cannot enter the kingdom of God.

Then you'll know how to pick up your cross daily and follow God. Get to know your identity in Christ, your responsibilities and His will for you. Does it guarantee that now you'll automatically never have attraction for guys ever again, you'll only like girls? No. It guarantees that as long as your strength is in God, when they do arise like any other sin, you can overcome them. God will heal you, and you might discover along the way the things you haven't noticed that had influenced you, and bit by bit it gets removed. It could mean self-esteem starts to be better, or places you use to go you lose interest, sin is a messy web, the bi-sexuality is just a by-product of so many different influences seen and unseen.

So yes, by definition you may be a bi-sexual like me, or by definition a liar, a fornicator. By definition we are all sinners. But thanks be to God, that He saves us from such sentence, and through His blood and salvation we can drop those labels and have rights to be called the children of God. Don't sabotage your freedom nor limit God because of these guilt-tripping labels and be encouraged.
 
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I don't think the Bible talks about same sex attraction being wrong, only acting on it. It might help to try and determine the cause, if you can. The reasons for same sex attraction are various. One Christian guy I know who was bisexual seemed to have very low self esteem and had an almost worship of his own gender, as if he looked up to other men because he didn't feel equal to them.
It's my personal opinion that some people can have these feelings when they start putting others of the same gender on a type of pedastal. That would be one example of what might cause it. But not necessarily how it is in your case. And again, just my opinion.
Hope you find peace soon
God bless

Ive noticed that with my friend who just recently told me that he was gay and no longer christian (so double whammy there lol). That is what I've noticed as well, he was a guy who use to be a kinda big guy and active in church, but then he lost the weight and started to become depressed and lonely and low-self esteem to the point where people had to force him to eat, all while having issues in the church. So now seeing his demeanor now as not religious and gay, ive noticed that he have an obsession with the body, going to the gym, clubbing, and social media.

I kinda mourn because it felt like he died and I didn't know this person anymore.

Idk reading your response kinda made me realized that it is low self-esteem and the worship of his own gender. He say that he's great and better than before, but with the evils of this world, I can never buy into that, and I'm just really scared for him. One thing to struggle with that, but worst to be in an environment that's a pandora box. Not every situation is like that but it seems to be very common factors among non-heterosexual men.
 
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