Need prayer and advice for my temptation

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My name is Zack, I am 18 and struggling with masturbation and inappropriate contentography. I have been struggling with it for a couple of years but no matter how hard I try my physical urge overwhelms my resistance to it. I used to feel something inside me telling me not to do it, but that feeling has been gone for a long time. I WANT to have that feeling of resistance again and I want to sin no more!

I have been a believer in the heavenly father for almost a decade and I have no doubt that he is real, but in order for me to serve him with my full capacity I need to be free of this filth. It seems no matter how hard I pray I cannot curb my sexual urges. I have faith in the father but something is missing so I need help finding that missing piece.

Thanks for your prayers ahead of time, God bless!
 

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Sorry to read of this struggle, Zack. It's probably not uncommon for men. It's really one of those things that we have to quit outright. Initially, this will be painful, but with time, it will become easier. In quitting, try to direct time and energy into other activities that will consume energy and attention. God bless.
 
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You should know that you are not alone in your struggle. Some Older men still struggle with this. But definately strive to overcome it.
I struggled with these and amazingly overcame them this year. I'm 19 now. It took being in a really religious enviroment. I got sick of the double life I was living, being a catholic, but secrectly pursuing lust. before I never dreamed I could do this, but I summoned up the courage to go to confession, and the healing began there.

Getting back up after falling was a challenge, because it was so embarassing. I had to let go of my shame and embrace God's forviness again.

It was easier to overcome my addiction to inappropriate contentography. A good tip is to avoided aimless browsing on the internet, Only use the computer if you need to for specific reasons, don't go off course. for masturbation It took about 4 months of trying really hard before I got control of myself.

Gain a firm understanding of what you believe about sex, and why chastity is better. It's harder to think when your aroused, but you need to be able to convince yourself during those moments, "this is just a temporary feeling, I won't be happy If I do this, and I will be so much happier If I don't.

Don't put so much focus on resisting the desire, focus on accomodating it, in a sense. relax a little bit, but in the right way.
if your in a "safe space" to touch, your thoughts could go like this: "should I? I will resist it! whats wrong with me, the desire's only increasing! I'll never overcome it, I give up."

Accomodate your arousal by staying out of those enviroments. For example if you are tempted to touch in the bathroom, pray before you go in, do your business, and get out immediately after.

Instead of focusing on what you don't want to do, focus on what you are and want to be.

When you are tempted to give into lust, remind yourself of your dignity as a son of God. how God designed your body for a loving purpose, it isn't for selfishness. You find happiness in fullfilling your real purpose.

emotions can play a huge role. you can use sex as a comfort object to distract yourself from emotional pain, loneliness, and frustration. I actually struggled with primarily homosexual attractions, gay sexual fantasies were a temporary escape from my longings for male connection. Homosexual desires are a whole n'other topic though. So you need to recognise and dig into your feelings, so they don't go off course into sexual desire.

Another nice thing to know. we get all this energy, and we need to release it, which we think means we need sex, but it doesn't. you can burn out your energy in other ways, being creative, getting to know people.

After you abstain for like a month, it gets so much easier, because your habbits change. the first two/three weeks are the hardest to get by. anyway, your habbits(in risky enviroments) will change, from masturbation by default, to not masturbation by default.

Now my temptation is like this. I could touch, but I would have to think about it to do it. I would have to stop myself from exiting the enviroment before anything can happen, because thats what I'm use to doing. It can still be a temptation sometimes, but my habbit has my back now! when it tempts me, I relax, stop thinking about what I might do, and just let habbit take over.

I will pray for you, at least tonight. It's hard for me to remember prayer intentions though.

Since its an addiction your brain will play some tricks on you, which you have to ingnore. the withdrawal can cause temporary depression, while your brain is rewiring, because its used to getting pleasure from these things, and suddenly its not, so it has to look elsewhere.

Joe
 
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Dear God help Him get free from this problem, build in Him Your nature place in Him Your spirit and take out all rotten memory of inappropriate content, remind Him to read His bible every day and create new fresh memories to hold on to. Be blessed in Jesus name
I beg your pardon if I sound too harsh here but some do not know, If You already know it is fine, if You dont maybe it can help You to attain Your goals, I wish You all the best and please do not give up on Yourself if You stumble, shut off the computer and take a prayerwalk instead if You catch yourself surfing on the wrong sites. One thing to concider is that all women involved in inappropriate content are not 100% always voluntarily doing it. They might be threathened, hijacked, drugged or sometimes their life has gone terribly wrong and they don't seem to be able to fix it themselves. Often, In many ways they are victims although they do not say so, some are not able to talk or run because someone has forced some drugs in them. Some are underaged, horrified and traumatized for life and wish they never ended up in front of a camera like that. Not all are that way but there are some. We do not want to contribute to a rawer violent world by getting people hijacked do we? Some are never found. I have learned that if people start watching inappropriate content they start crawing rawer and more brutal forms along inappropriate contentaddictroad. Their girlfriend or wife usually are easy to lie to but sooner or later it will be discovered. It is truly better to be 100% honest even to the spouse or spouse to be because this is such a common problem. It is also no fun for the wife that has an oogling masturbating man but she never get any sex from Him or anyone else either because in the christian world a married woman is to be as pure as possible while the man sometimes tries to be as unpure as He can. That leads to disharmony. She probably also suspect that the husband watch inappropriate content since statistics say more than 90% of christian men struggle with it. If You ever plan on marrying You should at least stop the inappropriate contentwatching, try exchange it to something else. Keep it like that for at least some year. Life is so much nicer with Your spouse or spouse to be then many say. Some say that unhealthy food leads to the wish to want to touch more. Try eating more healthy fats like almonds, avokado, etc and skip the pizzas and fries and sugary sodas if that is a problem. It does actually puzzle me, why 90% of men in churches are married but still so unsatisfied with their wives that they turn to inappropriate content. Then I wonder who made up inappropriate content and I do not think it was God. I think it is something satanic twisted behind it. You can not have a wife and inappropriate content and God and have peace inside and your wife will not be happy either. I think inappropriate content is Satans way of gaining control to the hearts of the christianity today by idolatry and worship on the male part and on the female unforgiveness, bitterness, hatered and revenge toward her man and in their strife they focus on each other forgetting Gods command that the man ought to love His wife and the wife ought to respect her man but how is that possible when inappropriate content is involved. One has to kick out the inappropriate content first.
 
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I pray that God will deliver you from the desire to look at inappropriate contentography! Try to remember that it is a sin and that it is no good, no matter how good it seems. The Devil will try to make sin seem like it is good, but it never is. I pray that God will speak to you and encourage you to stop looking. Lots of people struggle with this, so you are not alone.
 
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