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My husband works evening to late night hours. His lunch break usually happens around 7:00 PM. This works well for me because I've always been a bit of a night owl myself. Evening is usually when I'm the most functional.
BUT it can cause a problem too.
It's almost a guarantee his calls will come right when I'm busiest. Honestly, I can be goofing off, and the phone doesn't ring. I start transferring the laundry from the washer to the dryer, or I've just turned on the vacuum cleaner, or I've started concentrating on a project, and that's when the phone WILL ring. Every single time. Of course he has no idea what I'm doing when he calls. It just works out that way. And it breaks up my concentration, and I have to get psychologically back in that place all over again.
I think it's nice that he calls on his lunch hour to say hi and check on things. I don't want to change that. Does he also need to call at two or three other random times during every shift? If I were the one calling him at work so often, his employers would think I'm clingy and emotionally dependent.
Say anything, even one word, and he'll get the idea that I don't want him calling me, ever.
Those of you in marriages where one stays home and the other has an outside job, how many times per shift does the working spouse call home to check on things? Would you say once should be enough?
BUT it can cause a problem too.
It's almost a guarantee his calls will come right when I'm busiest. Honestly, I can be goofing off, and the phone doesn't ring. I start transferring the laundry from the washer to the dryer, or I've just turned on the vacuum cleaner, or I've started concentrating on a project, and that's when the phone WILL ring. Every single time. Of course he has no idea what I'm doing when he calls. It just works out that way. And it breaks up my concentration, and I have to get psychologically back in that place all over again.
I think it's nice that he calls on his lunch hour to say hi and check on things. I don't want to change that. Does he also need to call at two or three other random times during every shift? If I were the one calling him at work so often, his employers would think I'm clingy and emotionally dependent.
Say anything, even one word, and he'll get the idea that I don't want him calling me, ever.
Those of you in marriages where one stays home and the other has an outside job, how many times per shift does the working spouse call home to check on things? Would you say once should be enough?