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Many of you have noted that many of my threads about my husband have a similar theme. Communication issues.
Well, we just spent a week with his mother. I'd met her before, but she lives two states away. The first time I met her was at our wedding, and I'd never spent longer than a day or two with her. That's only once every couple of years. So I really didn't know her all that well. After spending a week with her, I've noticed so many of the same communication hiccups.
No, I never said a word of criticism, either to her or to my husband.
But wow, now I get it. Apparently it's just a family quirk. And it's not even a Mars/Venus thing, because this is his mother. They both have the same way of processing words and ideas. I just have to learn to work around it.
OK.
Well, we just spent a week with his mother. I'd met her before, but she lives two states away. The first time I met her was at our wedding, and I'd never spent longer than a day or two with her. That's only once every couple of years. So I really didn't know her all that well. After spending a week with her, I've noticed so many of the same communication hiccups.
- You say XYZ, and she'll respond as if you said YZX. Almost, but not *quite* the same thing. And there is no way you're ever going to get XYZ communicated. As far as she's concerned, you said YZX, and we've already covered that ground.
- You can say something, and she'll acknowledge it. Then five or ten minutes later she'll say the same thing as if it's her own discovery, and you didn't say a word before.
- The conversation can be on a different topic now, and she'll try to connect it with an earlier topic, wondering what one has to do with the other. It doesn't.
- She'll sometimes cut into the middle of your sentence to answer what she thinks you're about to say, when you were actually going to say something else.
No, I never said a word of criticism, either to her or to my husband.
But wow, now I get it. Apparently it's just a family quirk. And it's not even a Mars/Venus thing, because this is his mother. They both have the same way of processing words and ideas. I just have to learn to work around it.
OK.