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Im honestly tired of society and people. Im 22 and a female. I get treated like im nothing! Ppl always tell me im the nicest person theyve ever met. Im kind, compassionate, loving etc but people always ignore me. I have no friends. People never invite me places. And when i invite others places, they always make some exscuse and hang out with their other friends instead. Im a nobody to ppl in this world. I no longer believe compliments anymore. Everytime i text someone, they give me one word replies or dont reply at all. But then i see them hanging out with other people. What is wrong? Why doesnt anyone like me? I try my best in ever relationship im in. Every friend or bestfriend ive had, has always abadoned me for no reason! Even when ive been there for them. I hate people now. Im still a very nice person thats never going to change. But i feel rotten and depressed these days. Boys only want me for one thing. And they ignore me too. I honestly feel like ill be alone forever. All my friendships literally last for like a couple of weeks and then they act like i dont exist! Im soo tired of this! Its confusing and i feel confused and cursed. Why cant God just take me to heaven with him? Im useless to people here anyway.
 

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Hello there!

First of all, you are not useless! Please, try to think this way, you have not found yet the true friends, they are very rare in this world.It's not your fault, do not blame yourself, this is the world we live in, sadly.I would say that you are lucky of not being in the company of these so called friends.When you will find someone that stay by your side even in difficult times, then you would know that you have found a true friend.Forget and forgive the ones that treat you like that, you deserve more, I hope you can see my point.

God has a plan for you, He has a plan for each one of us, I know, there are moments when we feel like there is no reason to go on, but even in these darkest moments, God is still there, by our side, He is the one true friend we will have till the end of our days.I know your pain, I am also in a similar situation, 22 too, but I have made peace with myself, all thanks to God.

My humble advice, seek first the friendship of God, in its total fullness, then, you will have God's peace that it will guide you to find true friends. :)
 
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I honestly feel like ill be alone forever... Im useless to people here anyway.

Don't despair so soon !
Whenever you got any problem, don't despair, go to ask God and the Blessed Virgin Mary for help, instantly. You should not try to solve such type of problems by yourself.
 
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Im honestly tired of society and people. Im 22 and a female. I get treated like im nothing! Ppl always tell me im the nicest person theyve ever met. Im kind, compassionate, loving etc but people always ignore me. I have no friends. People never invite me places. And when i invite others places, they always make some exscuse and hang out with their other friends instead. Im a nobody to ppl in this world. I no longer believe compliments anymore. Everytime i text someone, they give me one word replies or dont reply at all. But then i see them hanging out with other people. What is wrong? Why doesnt anyone like me? I try my best in ever relationship im in. Every friend or bestfriend ive had, has always abadoned me for no reason! Even when ive been there for them. I hate people now. Im still a very nice person thats never going to change. But i feel rotten and depressed these days. Boys only want me for one thing. And they ignore me too. I honestly feel like ill be alone forever. All my friendships literally last for like a couple of weeks and then they act like i dont exist! Im soo tired of this! Its confusing and i feel confused and cursed. Why cant God just take me to heaven with him? Im useless to people here anyway.
One place to make friends would be to get involved with the many social groups at various churches. They may only be your friend there at the church but still that is better then nothing at all.
 
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You are not useless no matter how many friends you have, or don't have. If you are a believer, you are are an ambassador of The Kingdom of God on this earth. You are God's Light in this horrifically dark world (Matthew 5: 14) and much needed. He will use His light shining through you to draw lost souls to Himself and save them from an eternity of hell and separation from everything good. Just you being around enables people to see truth through the darkness whether they acknowledge it or not! You are that important, if you are a believer.

Maybe during this season when friends seem few, you could develop a closer friendship with The Friend-- the One Who never leaves you, the One Who never uses you, the One Who never ignores you, the One you can always trust. I've done that, and can testify that friendship with Him has fulfilled me in ways that no human relationship could. I'm not saying that human friendship isn't good, but when I put His friendship first, other relationships tend to fall into place in time.

"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Romans 15:13 NASB
 
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You are not useless no matter how many friends you have, or don't have. If you are a believer, you are are an ambassador of The Kingdom of God on this earth. You are God's Light in this horrifically dark world (Matthew 5: 14) and much needed. He will use His light shining through you to draw lost souls to Himself and save them from an eternity of hell and separation from everything good. Just you being around enables people to see truth through the darkness whether they acknowledge it or not! You are that important, if you are a believer.

Maybe during this season when friends seem few, you could develop a closer friendship with The Friend-- the One Who never leaves you, the One Who never uses you, the One Who never ignores you, the One you can always trust. I've done that, and can testify that friendship with Him has fulfilled me in ways that no human relationship could. I'm not saying that human friendship isn't good, but when I put His friendship first, other relationships tend to fall into place in time.

"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Romans 15:13 NASB
Thank you. Its hard for me to feel Gods presence alot because im constantly feeling lonely. I see ppl in relationships and i feel broken everytime.
 
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I don't really know what else to say, instead I've been going through similar to what you have been going through. It has been going on for years with me. I don't really have any true friends; surely they don't dislike me, but they make no effort to hang out or spend more time with me.
I know that it is not up to them to initiate conversations all the time, but it should not be me either. There should be a balance. I thought that would all end when high school was over with, but I'm 21 and in college, and stuff like this still, sadly happens.
Maybe I just set my expectations too high for friends, I'm just not interesting enough, or I'm just not looking for true friends in the right places.
I gave this issue to God and I'll have faith in him that he sends me people in my path. I also wish I had more genuine christian friends to talk to, to help encourage me and for me to help them in their walk as well. I know you may have heard this phrase a million times over, but you are not alone.
 
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I don't really know what else to say, instead I've been going through similar to what you have been going through. It has been going on for years with me. I don't really have any true friends; surely they don't dislike me, but they make no effort to hang out or spend more time with me.
I know that it is not up to them to initiate conversations all the time, but it should not be me either. There should be a balance. I thought that would all end when high school was over with, but I'm 21 and in college, and stuff like this still, sadly happens.
Maybe I just set my expectations too high for friends, I'm just not interesting enough, or I'm just not looking for true friends in the right places.
I gave this issue to God and I'll have faith in him that he sends me people in my path. I also wish I had more genuine christian friends to talk to, to help encourage me and for me to help them in their walk as well. I know you may have heard this phrase a million times over, but you are not alone.
Im honestly soo sorry you go through this. It hurts and its confusing. Ive been going through this my whole life as well and it hurts when you see other ppl hanging out together and your never invited so it makes you feel like your a nobody. I dont know how to get ovet this feeling. It sucks. I guess its nice to know im not alone tho.
 
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I don't believe I have ever truly gotten over it. As a matter of fact, the way I used to deal with it was to distance myself and not try to make friends or open up to them because I know they don't truly care. Sure, I would talk to them and get along well, but nothing further. I am working on trying to handle things in a better way, but it's so hard not to act cold towards people when you have been treated so badly.
 
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Im honestly soo sorry you go through this. It hurts and its confusing. Ive been going through this my whole life as well and it hurts when you see other ppl hanging out together and your never invited so it makes you feel like your a nobody. I dont know how to get ovet this feeling. It sucks. I guess its nice to know im not alone tho.
I don't believe I have ever truly gotten over it. As a matter of fact, the way I used to deal with it was to distance myself and not try to make friends or open up to them because I know they don't truly care. Sure, I would talk to them and get along well, but nothing further. I am working on trying to handle things in a better way, but it's so hard not to act cold towards people when you have beentreated so badly. It's so tempting, but I know it's not the right thing to do.
 
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I don't believe I have ever truly gotten over it. As a matter of fact, the way I used to deal with it was to distance myself and not try to make friends or open up to them because I know they don't truly care. Sure, I would talk to them and get along well, but nothing further. I am working on trying to handle things in a better way, but it's so hard not to act cold towards people when you have beentreated so badly. It's so tempting, but I know it's not the right thing to do.
Exactly this is what i do too! Im scared to get close to people because its always the same pattern of dissapointment. I get along with everyone at my work and they all like me but me becoming close to people is never an option for me anymore. They all leave anyway..
 
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Exactly this is what i do too! Im scared to get close to people because its always the same pattern of dissapointment. I get along with everyone at my work and they all like me but me becoming close to people is never an option for me anymore. They all leave anyway..
I've just learned not to set my expectations too high with people anymore. Hurts much less that way. I would like to be your friend if you wanted to. I'm always free to chat.
 
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I am so sad to read this. I think we are all prisoners of an idealistic vision of youth, where someone must have thousand of friends to have value. But this would never be true. We are valuable in God's eyes, and that is the most important. I know it is quite easy to say, but no matter what may happen or how you could be perceived, you are likeable and valuable. No matter how theses social dictates of the cool young adult always hanging out may hurt, or make you feel different, God loves you and created you for a reason. You are not alone. I know you must have heard it a million times, but we always need to remember it...
I hope with all my heart that people will realize everything you have to offer.
I send you all my best wishes.
 
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I am so sad to read this. I think we are all prisoners of an idealistic vision of youth, where someone must have thousand of friends to have value. But this would never be true. We are valuable in God's eyes, and that is the most important. I know it is quite easy to say, but no matter what may happen or how you could be perceived, you are likeable and valuable. No matter how theses social dictates of the cool young adult always hanging out may hurt, or make you feel different, God loves you and created you for a reason. You are not alone. I know you must have heard it a million times, but we always need to remember it...
I hope with all my heart that people will realize everything you have to offer.
I send you all my best wishes.
this is very sweet. thank you very much. i definelty try to remeber this in times i dont feel the greatest.
 
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Only in hindsight do we see how our youth only lasts so briefly. I know others that I've grown up with who told me after graduation that they didn't get along with anyone at their school, and had to wait until they were old enough to leave to find anyone that they could make trudgen's connections with. This is the worst case scenario I believe, but with how people are connecting online, I think as a young person it can be easier to find others who see true value in you. I had to travel the world to see how different it is, I hope you understand that your input does have value to someone, sometimes you can't tell until you are older.
 
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