GF revealed to me she's not Christian... how to proceed?

Pools said:

Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist.

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

I remained quiet and accepting

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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Pools said:

Hey mates, thanks for all the replies. I appreciate you trying to help me and guide me on how to proceed about the matter. I'd like to tell you a few more things about this.

Well, you see... I personally found it quite disappointing to hear when she said she is atheist. But what worried me more is that by dating here up to now, I could have sinned quite a lot just by having a relationship with a non-christian. Is that true? I frankly haven't studied the scriptures enough to know. I didn't have premarital sex with her, and I watched out in many occassions. I havent tried to convince her to convert or something, I dont really like to change people, I'm not that kind of guy... I just want her to live the way she wants to. I can recommend, etc. but I dont want to force it. I can suggest but nothing more. Other than that, I dont know yet whether I should end the relationship or not. In fact, the relationship between me and her is currently still going strong... I didn't even tell her about what I think about the whole thing yet. She has got the impression that I am totally fine with her being atheist and all. If I go ahead and tell her that it won't work out between us... how will I get over the relationship and find a new gf? It will be difficult and frustrating. On the other hand, the relationship I have with her now might end up frustrating and difficult as well, because of our religious differences. Do you think maintaining a relationship with these differences can still work out?

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Pools said:

Hey everyone, sorry for the unexpected thread. There's a very important and stressful situation I have been going through lately that I wanted to share with you.

Well, you see... there's a gf I have been dating for a long time now. It has been over 2 months since our relationship started, and I felt very happy about it. We've never discussed religion related topics, and I never really took the time to ask her about her beliefs, etc. In fact from the moment our relationship started, I thought she was totally christian herself. But, recently we've had a long conversation in one of our last dates. It became deep and we started talking about many personal issues, and, eventually, about religion too. Surprised as hell, she told me she is atheist and although coming from a Catholic background, she said she doesn't care "at all" about the scriptures and doesn't want to study bible or anything of that nature. She also had expressed her dislike for belief in any deity, and she thinks no deities exist. I was in shock, but I didn't want to ruin anything so I remained quiet and accepting. Now, a few days later, I'm wondering what to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure it'd be a sin to form a bond with a woman who is not believing in God. Not only that, but she has strong criticism for religion in generally. So, what can I do? I really didn't want this relationship to end, but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as I do either. I know I should have asked her about it a lot earlier, but I didn't think it'd be such a big problem. So, like, how to proceed now? I love her so much...

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