Help wanted from Christian born-again aspergers men please

Praying that you would find someone to mentor him. I am not on that spectrum, but if I can help let me know.

Vitari said:

Hi
I'm an NT married to an aspergers man. I've been a Christian for about 50 years but my husband only gave his heart to the Lord a couple of months ago.
We are struggling - I'm suffering from post concussion syndrome and very depressed, and our communication is not very good at the best of times.
I'll be frank I don't understand my husband and he doesn't understand me. He is floundering in his new found Christian life as he has no idea how to move forward, and thinks I should be giving him step by step information. We have started going to a small local church, but although that's good, there is no interest or understanding that a new Christian needs mentoring in some way.
I asked my husband, if I put out a call for help on these forums, whether he would be willing to enter into email correspondence with another aspergers man, so he could discuss the way forward in following Jesus. He said yes.
So, anyone out there willing to have a private email correspondence with him please?

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Praying for you that you will find the right person to help you and your husband. God bless you.

I'd love to help. I'm no pastor or preacher. I've only become a Christian 4 years ago but if he'd like someone to talk to or discuss our faith I'd be happy to. What denomination are you? I'm non denominational. I just study my bible. My church is also nondenominational. We don't worry about being classified as any certain group. We just study our bible and have fellowship together. I would rather chat here than give out my email if that's ok.

What church do you belong to? I haven't read Baker's commentary, but from what I know, it looks like a generic evangelical commentary. I'm assuming the authors accept inerrancy. It would thus be inappropriate for someone in a church like the United Church of Canada. It might also not be best for a Presbyterian or Reformed.

Also, I had 7th grade student with autism a few years ago. He was unable to tell that Matthew 5:29-30 didn't really mean we should cut off parts of our body. If you have that kind of problem, you may need a more detailed commentary. A one-volume commentary will normally assume you can make those kinds of judgements, and will concentrate on filling in historical or theological background. If you have trouble knowing what's meant figuratively, you may need something more detailed.

(That student is now a high school English teacher. I hope he's learned something about non-literal writing.)

I cannot be an ongoing source of support. However, I am on the spectrum (mild end), and I can give you some insight.

People with ASD are very rules-oriented, and they want specific instructions on HOW and WHY things are to be done a certain way. We sometimes believe others know what we think about something, whether we have said it out loud or not, or "believing others are in our back pockets." We are very habitual with some things, and each person on the autism spectrum has different sensory needs and ways in which we can get overloaded easily.

I, for example, need to avoid crowds and loud noises, because they can overload me. I also need to avoid extremely bright environments because it bothers me after awhile. I cannot stand someone yelling at me, for any reason, even if they are right. For each person on the spectrum, that will be different.

It sounds like the both of you might benefit from going to a therapist that specializes in the autism spectrum. "Autism resources in ___" should be a helpful search.

Vitari said:

Hi
I'm an NT married to an aspergers man. I've been a Christian for about 50 years but my husband only gave his heart to the Lord a couple of months ago.
We are struggling - I'm suffering from post concussion syndrome and very depressed, and our communication is not very good at the best of times.
I'll be frank I don't understand my husband and he doesn't understand me. He is floundering in his new found Christian life as he has no idea how to move forward, and thinks I should be giving him step by step information. We have started going to a small local church, but although that's good, there is no interest or understanding that a new Christian needs mentoring in some way.
I asked my husband, if I put out a call for help on these forums, whether he would be willing to enter into email correspondence with another aspergers man, so he could discuss the way forward in following Jesus. He said yes.
So, anyone out there willing to have a private email correspondence with him please?

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Hi I have Aspergers and I believe in Jesus. Let me know in pm if you are interested because I would not mind to correspond? Not sure if I can mentor him but maybe we can mentor each other.

Here is a free pdf ebook about Aspergers that can help understand a little about it

http://ems-publishing.com/ebooks/atil_09_2017.pdf

Essentially the more intense neurology of Aspergers often produces an apparent insensitivity, obstinacy, ingratitude, and even reticence that greatly hinders social connectedness. This can be taxing on a marriage.

It is possible to develop coping skills and management techniques to improve things. Unfortunately many organized church systems fall short in areas of practical living.

I haven't been on the forum in a while and don't know if I can still get PMs, but you can try to PM me and I would be happy to share what little I have learned.

It may be that you have found the help you need, but if not, I'm a 62 year-old retired Episcopal/Anglican Priest with a ministry of spiritual guidance /online pastoral care. I am on the autistic spectrum, as is my wife of 30+ years. I'll be pleased to help if I can: please pm me if you want to talk.

I, too, am willing to answer PMs as time permits, but it may be all that God needs.
Born-again, 1977. Diagnosed, 2007.

Hi, I just registered for this forum and am a Christian Aspie myself looking for other Aspies to relate to and to hopefully share some helpful information and experience.

Thanks

Hi and welcome, from sunny France (well it would be if it wasn't dark...!).
Chris

Hi, my name is Andrew. I became a Christian on the 11th. I was diagnosed with Aspergers last year. I don't know how much help I can be as I'm sort of in the same position.

I will help in any way I can. Unless you've got all the help you need by now which is fine.

I'm a 24 year old male