I am Struggling with Sexual Immorality

norak said:

I am in my late 20s now and struggle with sexual immorality or fornication. In the past I lived a lifestyle that involved visits to brothels and casual sex. One day I started to worry that maybe my sinful lifestyle would result in me being HIV positive. I immediately practiced abstinence and went to the doctor to get a full STD test. Thankfully I am negative for everything and am perfectly clean. I have asked for forgiveness and have vowed never to visit a brothel again or to have sex before marriage.

But I still struggle. When I take the train home from work, the train station where I get off is situated next to four brothels all within walking distance, and the temptation for me to simply walk to one of them--especially after a stressful day at work--is so great.

I still touch and look at inappropriate contentography regularly. I feel like I need to touch to curb my sexual desires and prevent me from having actual sex with a prostitute. I find that it is difficult for me to climax without looking at inappropriate contentography, and right after I touch I feel lonely and embarrassed at myself.

What do you think I should do going forward? Should I continue to touch to prevent myself from going to brothels? Should I try to get married as soon as possible?

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I see that masturbation is a release from future temptation..lust comes along from being overly aroused from tension being built up. We are indeed human, we can't overcome some of these controversial issues such as touching yourself, for its not the act within itself, its the natural phenomena of release we need to extract..we are biologically formed to reproduce

norak said:

I am in my late 20s now and struggle with sexual immorality or fornication. In the past I lived a lifestyle that involved visits to brothels and casual sex. One day I started to worry that maybe my sinful lifestyle would result in me being HIV positive. I immediately practiced abstinence and went to the doctor to get a full STD test. Thankfully I am negative for everything and am perfectly clean. I have asked for forgiveness and have vowed never to visit a brothel again or to have sex before marriage.

But I still struggle. When I take the train home from work, the train station where I get off is situated next to four brothels all within walking distance, and the temptation for me to simply walk to one of them--especially after a stressful day at work--is so great.

I still touch and look at inappropriate contentography regularly. I feel like I need to touch to curb my sexual desires and prevent me from having actual sex with a prostitute. I find that it is difficult for me to climax without looking at inappropriate contentography, and right after I touch I feel lonely and embarrassed at myself.

What do you think I should do going forward? Should I continue to touch to prevent myself from going to brothels? Should I try to get married as soon as possible?

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The key here is to submit yourself to God, then from this position you will be able to resist the devil.

James 4:7 NIV
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

“A man without Self-Control is like a city broken into and left without walls” – Proverbs 25:28

If you have a couple minutes to spare, read through my blogpost on defeating addiction (link below). There is power in the blood of Christ Jesus. God bless. Defeating Addiction

Norak, I feel your struggle because I too was in your position. I was a slave to inappropriate contentography and went to massage parlors and strip clubs. The momentary gratification we get during the act can not help us grow closer to God, yet it pushes us further and further from him. I had a aha moment with God after getting a massage, he grabbed me and shook me and said YOU'RE GOING TO HELL IF YOU CONTINUE DOWN THIS ROAD. And that scared the life out of me. I freaked out because for 1. I was married and living a life of sin and 2. the thought in burning in hell for eternity is the scariest thought imaginable. Everyone is going to tell you you have to quit and stop doing those things, but that's easier said then done. You need a genuine "come to Jesus" moment when you fall flat on your face crying out to God and have him meet you in the middle. You want to seek God so hard that everything else doesn't matter. When you recommit your life to God and dedicate everything you do to him, those urges go away! Your sitting there probably thinking im crazy, how can sexual urges go away, were guys! But I assure you they do! This is coming from the person who went through the same situation as you! The thought of living 60-80 years on earth and living a life of personal gratification in exchange for eternity in hell, well that wasnt worth it to me. God loves us so much that he uses our struggles and weaknesses to build us into the person he called us to be. God loves you bro, and understands your struggles and urges and desires. He wants you to seek his face, not the internet or brothels. Matthew 6:33 says: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. It's when you desperately seek God, when you cry out to him and every ounce of your being is dedicated to him, then you truly will have true deliverance from your transgression. You won't be a victim to yourself anymore, because you will be so engulfed in his word, music that glorifies him, and surrounded by other Christian brothers and sisters that are there for you. Trust me there will be battles in your mind, but when you have God on your side, losing isnt a option. Look at Elisha and his stories. God will use you to do great things my friend, seek his face and call out to him, seek him and he will be your strength during your struggle.