Hello. We've been together for 28 years and are in our mid/late forties. I've watched my wife struggle (kind of) with her weight the whole time. 5'1" and about 150 when we met and now about 260. I've been very supportive. I do most of the cooking, shopping, child running around, etc. Support her taking time to exercise. But I've never been pushy or critical about her weight.
When she hit 225 she angrily said I should have told her she was gaining weight. To be truthful, I never said "I think you are gaining' weight". I did say "let's eat better", "we need to make some better eating choices", " how bout I cook X for dinner". A few times I brought up the topic of caloric deficit and they resulted in knock down drag outs. So, I stopped.
Now she has trouble walking, back pain, high cholesterol, snoring, swollen joints and everything else that goes with long term obesity. ANd the future looks as bleak.
Problem is - she thinks she has the problem under control, but all the metrics say otherwise. her weight is still going up (albeit more slowly) and the health issues are getting worse.
My question is this - What do you say? What do you say when her clothes look 3 sizes too small but they are already 3x so telling her she need a larger size will brign on a breakdown? Or when you cook a garlic roasted chicken with veggies for dinner but she goes in the fridge and pulls out a 16 oz rib eye and eats the whole thing - then has the chicken an hour later? or when you say that feeling hungry an hour after eating a 500 -1000 calories is either (a) not really hunger or (b) some metabolic imbalance but are roundly put down.
What isthe christian, loving response here?
When she hit 225 she angrily said I should have told her she was gaining weight. To be truthful, I never said "I think you are gaining' weight". I did say "let's eat better", "we need to make some better eating choices", " how bout I cook X for dinner". A few times I brought up the topic of caloric deficit and they resulted in knock down drag outs. So, I stopped.
Now she has trouble walking, back pain, high cholesterol, snoring, swollen joints and everything else that goes with long term obesity. ANd the future looks as bleak.
Problem is - she thinks she has the problem under control, but all the metrics say otherwise. her weight is still going up (albeit more slowly) and the health issues are getting worse.
My question is this - What do you say? What do you say when her clothes look 3 sizes too small but they are already 3x so telling her she need a larger size will brign on a breakdown? Or when you cook a garlic roasted chicken with veggies for dinner but she goes in the fridge and pulls out a 16 oz rib eye and eats the whole thing - then has the chicken an hour later? or when you say that feeling hungry an hour after eating a 500 -1000 calories is either (a) not really hunger or (b) some metabolic imbalance but are roundly put down.
What isthe christian, loving response here?