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I see it a lot, especially in very conservative congregations or families. Sometimes all of the other parents really do say yes, and only the very small minority says no. I understand the logic in the "I'm not everybody else's parent" and "what if your friends jumped off a bridge" arguments, but can this philosophy go too far? Where is the balance between not being conformed to the world, and being so sheltered you basically become irrelevant to society?
Let's call him Billy. He goes to a public school. At home, his access to music, television, movies, the internet, and other technology is severely limited. He is not allowed to listen to or watch what his classmates are listening to, watching, and talking about. When the other kids make some pop culture reference, and Billy has no idea what it even means, he cannot join in on their conversation. He dares not ask what it means, or who that person is that they just mentioned. He knows it will only get him laughed at and reviled as stupid for not knowing. He is socially ostracized.
Let's call her Sally. Also a public school student, she has numerous restrictions on what she is allowed to do with her appearance. She dresses in dark, somber, solid colors. In PE class, she may wear shorts, but only if she wears a skirt over them, at least knee-length. She is not allowed to do basic grooming such as shaving her legs and underarms, or tweezing where her eyebrows meet in the middle. Other girls in her class have pink or purple stripes in their hair, but Sally can forget that. The only thing she is permitted to do with her hair is brush it and put it in a simple pony tail or bun. Of course, makeup, jewelry, and perfume are all strictly forbidden. Think she'll ever find a date?
Billy and Sally's parents don't care that their children are far out of step with classmates. They say you're not supposed to conform to the world anyway, that Christians are called to be a peculiar people, and furthermore, if Sally looked any better, she'd only be leading the boys into lust.
What is the healthy application of verses such as Romans 12:2 and 1 Peter 2:9? If we make ourselves such oddballs that the world just writes us off as crazy and won't listen to a word we say, isn't that actually doing damage to the gospel?
Let's call him Billy. He goes to a public school. At home, his access to music, television, movies, the internet, and other technology is severely limited. He is not allowed to listen to or watch what his classmates are listening to, watching, and talking about. When the other kids make some pop culture reference, and Billy has no idea what it even means, he cannot join in on their conversation. He dares not ask what it means, or who that person is that they just mentioned. He knows it will only get him laughed at and reviled as stupid for not knowing. He is socially ostracized.
Let's call her Sally. Also a public school student, she has numerous restrictions on what she is allowed to do with her appearance. She dresses in dark, somber, solid colors. In PE class, she may wear shorts, but only if she wears a skirt over them, at least knee-length. She is not allowed to do basic grooming such as shaving her legs and underarms, or tweezing where her eyebrows meet in the middle. Other girls in her class have pink or purple stripes in their hair, but Sally can forget that. The only thing she is permitted to do with her hair is brush it and put it in a simple pony tail or bun. Of course, makeup, jewelry, and perfume are all strictly forbidden. Think she'll ever find a date?
Billy and Sally's parents don't care that their children are far out of step with classmates. They say you're not supposed to conform to the world anyway, that Christians are called to be a peculiar people, and furthermore, if Sally looked any better, she'd only be leading the boys into lust.
What is the healthy application of verses such as Romans 12:2 and 1 Peter 2:9? If we make ourselves such oddballs that the world just writes us off as crazy and won't listen to a word we say, isn't that actually doing damage to the gospel?