went to church today
there was this woman on stage sharing her testimony which reflects the ignorance and cruelty on full display at this particular brothel of a place
this woman just went on and on how challenging different seasons of her life was, starting from the day her husband was offered a residency in surgery in another city (yes, it is a real drag to know you and your family are going to have a great future, a real drag indeed, i have no idea how those who are facing of crippling medical condition, financial ruins complaining about?)
then this woman started to dispense wisdom on what to do when you are lonely even though you are surrounded by others Christians
yes, just walk up to your worship leader on Sunday after service and say " hey, where are you guys all hanging out after the service, i want to be part of it" (paraphrasing here, as I could not remember her exacts words) and everything would magically work out for you as it did for her, because she immediately made plenty of friends after that
after that, she continued with her trash coming of her mouth. she went to tell everybody that in the few years while she and her husband were overseas, she was lonely (not because she did not have friends, but because she was away from families and friends she has already made here) again, does she is somehow delusional enough to think this particular experience makes her a real expert on loneliness people are going through?
all the while the pastor is echoing her so called trash of a testimony by saying "if you want to be friends, you HAVE to be FRIENDLY!" just follow this woman's advice and walk up to your worship leader after the sermon and ask if you could hang out with ALL of THEM, problem solved.
then she finished off by reminding everybody it is not what she CAN get from the church, but rather what SHE can offer.
it is not about her wanting friends , but whose friends can she be.
here is the thing, this woman and this pastor seem to think making friends is as easy as taking the initiatives to approach others and ask to hang out, so why are there so many lonely people in the world, maybe it is because they are all cowards who are not willing to take initiatives to just ask to crash the party? maybe it is because they are just parasites who want to take and take?
here the thing, this woman need to realize that the reason she is able to make friends everywhere she go is not simply because she is a friendly person (according to her, even though she talks like a prostitute) it is not because she fancy herself as a gusty person that she is able to walk up to complete strangers and ask to join them (though i do think it is ONE of the important skills we all need to learn if we wants friends, however, it is only ONE of the skills, not EVERYTHING, anyone with a genuine experience of struggles know this, even a person with IQ of 30 should know this)
the reason she is able to do this is because she is incredibly fortunate (though this airhead appears to be fortunate enough or smart not to realize this) that the life experience she had allows her to acquire the social confidence and skills for her to be able to make those situation works. neither does she seem to be smart enough to realize that not everybody is as fortunate as she is, and if have not acquire those confidence and skills, it takes years to just build them up, even then you will need a mentor, which clearly this woman and this pastor are not interested in offering, they just want to give you their verbal garbage and then place blame on you and the proceed to legitimize their bullying and basically teach others to follow their suit)
as far as giving back is concerned, this woman does not seem to realize the reason she is able to give back is because she already have plenty of gas in her ugly tank so to speak, that is either blessing from God or God allows it, not all of us have that luxury. so if any one of us are struggling in that, we are essentially wusses and parasites? because making friends is really easy as ABC, so it must be our fault alone that we don't have friends and we should be stoned?
but never mind, she and the pastor as well as others on the ministry team has all the power as they have all the voice, they CAN and WILL decide the narratives and hence reality within that church and many others will simply follow suit.
i just to let all of you who are struggling with loneliness knows that this is what you need to do
you need to go to God, ASK HIM to help you and to give you the motivation and all the graces to improve yourself in ALL AREAS of your life, so you will be a fun person to be around, so you don't have beg for friends, so you can hopefully make something of yourself so you don't have to throw yourself at the mercy at the foot of this woman and pastor such as those.
Be like Jacob, be willing to wrestle with God on this issue until He helps you.
as far as that woman is concerned, she should remember that God may have given her and her husband plenty of blessings, but God is not a God that will allow her to get away with rubbing salt in people's wound
as for that pastor, well, he's fat (i don't have problem with fat people as i myself have struggled with mine own weight throughout mine life, i do have problems, however, with arrogant jerks who seems to ignore their own struggles and then rub salt in others wound in areas them themselves is lucky enough to be cruising) it is quite clear he probably does not take initiatives when it comes to his health. I wonder how he would feel if he is given the same prep talk by his doctors " it is like, hey King Solomon, don't be such lazy disgusting pig. Just stopping eating cheese straight out of the packets and starts exercising, or at least learn to walk to your dad's place who just so happened to be living next door to you instead of taking the car!
anyway, what i have expressed here is mine own perception and opinion only, God bless you all.
there was this woman on stage sharing her testimony which reflects the ignorance and cruelty on full display at this particular brothel of a place
this woman just went on and on how challenging different seasons of her life was, starting from the day her husband was offered a residency in surgery in another city (yes, it is a real drag to know you and your family are going to have a great future, a real drag indeed, i have no idea how those who are facing of crippling medical condition, financial ruins complaining about?)
then this woman started to dispense wisdom on what to do when you are lonely even though you are surrounded by others Christians
yes, just walk up to your worship leader on Sunday after service and say " hey, where are you guys all hanging out after the service, i want to be part of it" (paraphrasing here, as I could not remember her exacts words) and everything would magically work out for you as it did for her, because she immediately made plenty of friends after that
after that, she continued with her trash coming of her mouth. she went to tell everybody that in the few years while she and her husband were overseas, she was lonely (not because she did not have friends, but because she was away from families and friends she has already made here) again, does she is somehow delusional enough to think this particular experience makes her a real expert on loneliness people are going through?
all the while the pastor is echoing her so called trash of a testimony by saying "if you want to be friends, you HAVE to be FRIENDLY!" just follow this woman's advice and walk up to your worship leader after the sermon and ask if you could hang out with ALL of THEM, problem solved.
then she finished off by reminding everybody it is not what she CAN get from the church, but rather what SHE can offer.
it is not about her wanting friends , but whose friends can she be.
here is the thing, this woman and this pastor seem to think making friends is as easy as taking the initiatives to approach others and ask to hang out, so why are there so many lonely people in the world, maybe it is because they are all cowards who are not willing to take initiatives to just ask to crash the party? maybe it is because they are just parasites who want to take and take?
here the thing, this woman need to realize that the reason she is able to make friends everywhere she go is not simply because she is a friendly person (according to her, even though she talks like a prostitute) it is not because she fancy herself as a gusty person that she is able to walk up to complete strangers and ask to join them (though i do think it is ONE of the important skills we all need to learn if we wants friends, however, it is only ONE of the skills, not EVERYTHING, anyone with a genuine experience of struggles know this, even a person with IQ of 30 should know this)
the reason she is able to do this is because she is incredibly fortunate (though this airhead appears to be fortunate enough or smart not to realize this) that the life experience she had allows her to acquire the social confidence and skills for her to be able to make those situation works. neither does she seem to be smart enough to realize that not everybody is as fortunate as she is, and if have not acquire those confidence and skills, it takes years to just build them up, even then you will need a mentor, which clearly this woman and this pastor are not interested in offering, they just want to give you their verbal garbage and then place blame on you and the proceed to legitimize their bullying and basically teach others to follow their suit)
as far as giving back is concerned, this woman does not seem to realize the reason she is able to give back is because she already have plenty of gas in her ugly tank so to speak, that is either blessing from God or God allows it, not all of us have that luxury. so if any one of us are struggling in that, we are essentially wusses and parasites? because making friends is really easy as ABC, so it must be our fault alone that we don't have friends and we should be stoned?
but never mind, she and the pastor as well as others on the ministry team has all the power as they have all the voice, they CAN and WILL decide the narratives and hence reality within that church and many others will simply follow suit.
i just to let all of you who are struggling with loneliness knows that this is what you need to do
you need to go to God, ASK HIM to help you and to give you the motivation and all the graces to improve yourself in ALL AREAS of your life, so you will be a fun person to be around, so you don't have beg for friends, so you can hopefully make something of yourself so you don't have to throw yourself at the mercy at the foot of this woman and pastor such as those.
Be like Jacob, be willing to wrestle with God on this issue until He helps you.
as far as that woman is concerned, she should remember that God may have given her and her husband plenty of blessings, but God is not a God that will allow her to get away with rubbing salt in people's wound
as for that pastor, well, he's fat (i don't have problem with fat people as i myself have struggled with mine own weight throughout mine life, i do have problems, however, with arrogant jerks who seems to ignore their own struggles and then rub salt in others wound in areas them themselves is lucky enough to be cruising) it is quite clear he probably does not take initiatives when it comes to his health. I wonder how he would feel if he is given the same prep talk by his doctors " it is like, hey King Solomon, don't be such lazy disgusting pig. Just stopping eating cheese straight out of the packets and starts exercising, or at least learn to walk to your dad's place who just so happened to be living next door to you instead of taking the car!
anyway, what i have expressed here is mine own perception and opinion only, God bless you all.
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