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I think that the OP also has to do due diligence in contacting his brother and making sure he is being ignored if that is what he will hold against his brother. By this I mean a follow-up phone call or finding his brother in person, because judgement should not be made on an isolated incident.

ToBeLoved, I completely agree with you....judgment should not be made on an isolated incident.

UPDATE - It was a complete misunderstanding.

My brother was out with friends and did not see my text message until he got home late at night.

My cousins, my brother and I will be having dinner together in August.
 
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ToBeLoved, I completely agree with you....judgment should not be made on an isolated incident.

UPDATE - It was a complete misunderstanding.

My brother was out with friends and did not see my text message until he got home late at night.

My cousins, my brother and I will be having dinner together in August.
Awesome to hear!
 
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Awesome to hear!

Thank you!!
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  1. Gets babied – Parents tend to baby the youngest child knowing that there won’t be any more babies coming along. There’s no pressure to get them off the bottle, out of the crib and potty trained to make way for another baby. Some parents may want to prolong the baby stage as long as possible.
  2. Less discipline – Youngest children usually get less discipline than their older siblings who often refer to them as getting away with murder. Minor transgressions don’t seem to get punished as severely if at all. The older kids are resentful while the youngest thinks he’s got it made.
  3. Center of attention – The babies of the family quickly get used to being the center of attention. They have their parents and older brothers and sisters there to attend to their every need. Even friends and relatives tend to give the youngest child extra attention.
  4. Very social – Since the youngest is used to being the center of attention, they tend to be much more social. They like being around other people which makes them gregarious and extroverted. This helps them to make friends and become popular with their piers.
  5. Indulged – The youngest child will get indulged more than the older children. A pout or the slightest whimper will often result in getting whatever they want. Why do something yourself when you can get someone else to do it for you?
  6. 10 Reasons the Youngest Child in the Family Has it Made
10 Reasons the Youngest Child in the Family Has it Made



While there are a few truisms in this, and in some respects it is advantageous to be a youngest child but it is only half the picture, and ignores the positive qualities of the youngest child. In fact it really says more about the parents. But why shouldn't the youngest given say a age difference of 7 years get cut a little slack, why should an older child not be treated according to their greater maturity?

Older siblings often benefit from having a younger brother who'll will do things like wash their car, and run to the shops for them.

This article seems incorrect, and generalising.

I find some people when they learn I am a youngest child, make A LOT of false assumptions about me neither knowing me or my life. In my own family its more often than not me that takes responsibility for many things and has been the case from my teens.

I am not very social in fact I suffer from social anxiety and isolation, which MEANS I spend most time alone. Its not that I prefer my own company, but I find it hard to find friends. So I don't have it made in that way either.

I was always during my teens running messages for older siblings, often helping them in difficulties.

I am at a deficit in many ways, losing my father young, whereas my brothers and sister who are a good deal older had the benefit of a father until they reached adulthood. I have always supported my mum financially, and with help about the house, even when on low pay, I basically was giving her a quarter of my earnings.

So I think the linked article while it contains some truth also tends to be one sided, even where it it true, and needs to recognise the exception.
 
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I don't think thats always the case, in fact I know its not, and I find people assume a lot because I am the youngest, yet in my own family its more often than not me that takes responsibility for many things and has been the case from my teens. I have always supported my mum financially, and with help about the house, even when on low pay, I basically was giving her a quarter of my earnings.

dms1972, I apologize. I stand corrected.

I wish you were my brother (because you are a responsible person)
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dms1972, I apologize. I stand corrected.

I wish you were my brother (because you are a responsible person)ly at times
:):)

You don't need to apologise :), i was taking issue with an article posted in the thread 10 reasons...

Has your younger brother not helped you in the past?

I admit we youngest may at times be a bit difficult - I once melted my older brother's walkman (not sure how it happened, I must have left it plugged into the amp)
 
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i have to say i am surprised and not so surprised at the same time to read that the OP has received unhelpful and hurtful comments

i am just disgusted to see how this type of thing could be going on in house of the Lord, instead building each other up, we viciously tear each other down.

disgraceful if you ask me, especially if those comments are being posted by prominent members on this forum!
that would be me you are aiming these comments at.
I know KA well from the time he was on CF a few months ago. I felt he would be able to take "straight talk" now that he and I are familiar. Apparently not. I was extremely sensitive to his complaints in the past and the first to defend anyone who challenged his behaviour/attitude. I felt it was time to take a different approach.
 
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Brother, always keep in mind this Scripture: The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger. It is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

Aleksandros, thank you my brother. I will keep Proverbs 19:11 in mind.

May our Lord Jesus Christ always be with you
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You don't need to apologise :), i was taking issue with an article posted in the thread 10 reasons...
Has your younger brother not helped you in the past?
I admit we youngest may at times be a bit difficult - I once melted my older brother's walkman (not sure how it happened, I must have left it plugged into the amp)

My brother almost never helps me, and he almost never helps my parents....

When my parents and I ask my brother for help, he sighs a sigh of exasperation and rolls his eyes.

My brother gets annoyed/irritated very easily
 
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that would be me you are aiming these comments at.
I know KA well from the time he was on CF a few months ago. I felt he would be able to take "straight talk" now that he and I are familiar. Apparently not. I was extremely sensitive to his complaints in the past and the first to defend anyone who challenged his behaviour/attitude. I felt it was time to take a different approach.

i was not thinking of you when i said it

though if you feel or know you are not being helpful to him, or you are getting irritated with what he has to say, then i think it would be in the best interests for you both if you just stop posting in his thread and leave him be.

otherwise you are just tearing him down and invite discipline on yourself from the Lord.
 
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