Tips/suggestions to attract the opposite gender

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Lol. I get annoyed by most of your posts on this topic, but I'm almost sure you aren't serious in most threads. I think you just like to live dangerously and troll the female members a little. Just some caution: this might backfire very badly lol
 
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That's incredibly deceptive and deceitful. You're suggesting initiating a relationship with someone on the premise of your secret agenda to change them to how you want them.

If you're going to be that specific about a person's BMI, at least be open and upfront about it so they know exactly who they're dealing with, because chances are they'd rather be insulted at that point than find out months in to the relationship that the person they have exposed themselves to emotionally, probably fallen in love with... actually started dating them because they thought they could get them to lose weight. Like, no.

Imagine how hurt they would be when they found out. What if they don't lose weight? Going to cut it off and presumably still not have the stones to be open about it and leave them recovering for months wondering what they did wrong?

If a persons looks are really that important, okay, agree to disagree on what's important, but at least be open about it even if it will most likely be grossly and unnecessarily offensive to someone. Don't start dating them to try and manipulate them in to fitting in to the shape you've made for them in your mind.

As far as I'm concerned that's tantamount to abuse.

Get a grip.

You are assuming I would leave this person if they don't lose weight. Thats not the case at all. You make it like a situation where I'm playing games with an overweight women and going to crush her heart when I find out she doesn't want to lose weight. That however is not the case at all or what I was saying. I was simply saying if someone fits what I'm looking for just has a few extra pounds I don't see the problem in pursuing that relationship and see if we can work this weight issue out later if not then we can go from there. Not an immediate well you won't lose weight so cya type of thing going on here at all.
 
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Lol. I get annoyed by most of your posts on this topic, but I'm almost sure you aren't serious in most threads. I think you just like to live dangerously and troll the female members a little. Just some caution: this might backfire very badly lol

But I :heart::heart::heart: you:( You liked most of my other posts I'm hoping we can agree here as well :)
 
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But I :heart::heart::heart: you:( You liked most of my other posts I'm hoping we can agree here as well :)
I'm feeling very chill and happy since I'm relaxing at the cottage. I'll give you a second chance:p Stop trolling the ladies with these threads and I'll call a truce
 
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I'm feeling very chill and happy since I'm relaxing at the cottage. I'll give you a second chance:p Stop trolling the ladies with these threads and I'll call a truce

Deal!
 
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> Tips/suggestions to attract the opposite gender

IMO it's best not to try at all. Just be yourself, the way you are every day, and let the rest fall into place on its own. If something positive happens, then you'll know the other person fell for the authentic you. Deep, deep down, where your heart beats, nothing beats that. You feel your chest get all warm, squishy, calm, happy, and at total peace. I've been there and I know.
 
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Am I attractive yet?

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Perhaps this has been done before, if it has not, it should have been.
So, am starting this thread looking for real suggestions and tips to help attract the opposite gender for all of us. This would especially apply to a Bible believing Christian opposite gender.

Am looking more serious, meaningful replies that may help all of us.

As a guy, here are some of mine to the gals-

1. show that you take care of yourself but, not overdue it.
Expensive clothes are great for special occasions but, can turn off men as you may look too "expensive" or what others call "high maintence"
2 Make eye contact with someone you have interest in. Of course, it has to be appropriate, do not stare.
3. When you go to church, carry a real Bible with you
4. Look your best. I know, the majority of women are not Barbie dolls. Most women seem to hate and despise women that are thinner than they are. If you are overweight, why not loose some weight? You will be healthier, feel better about yourself and be more attractive to men. Most women I see can easily loose 5-10 pounds and look nicer and it probably cost nothing to do.
5. Don't drees like a tramp. that is unless that is the type of man you wish to attract. do not show too much skin in the wrong places. It gives the impression of being promiscuous.

Again, this thread is thought to make suggestions from Bible believers to the opposite gender in a effort to help us all. Not to attack or unsult anyone..
Am hoping to hear a lot from the women here in this adult section.
blessings.

Just keep (regularly) advising every woman you know based on your 5 points of wisdom above.

Before long you'll be fighting the women off - trust me.
OB
 
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How is that for a name?
Perhaps this has been done before, if it has not, it should have been.
So, am starting this thread looking for real suggestions and tips to help attract the opposite gender for all of us. This would especially apply to a Bible believing Christian opposite gender.

Am looking more serious, meaningful replies that may help all of us.

As a guy, here are some of mine to the gals-

1. show that you take care of yourself but, not overdue it.
Expensive clothes are great for special occasions but, can turn off men as you may look too "expensive" or what others call "high maintence"
2 Make eye contact with someone you have interest in. Of course, it has to be appropriate, do not stare.
3. When you go to church, carry a real Bible with you
4. Look your best. I know, the majority of women are not Barbie dolls. Most women seem to hate and despise women that are thinner than they are. If you are overweight, why not loose some weight? You will be healthier, feel better about yourself and be more attractive to men. Most women I see can easily loose 5-10 pounds and look nicer and it probably cost nothing to do.
5. Don't drees like a tramp. that is unless that is the type of man you wish to attract. do not show too much skin in the wrong places. It gives the impression of being promiscuous.

Again, this thread is thought to make suggestions from Bible believers to the opposite gender in a effort to help us all. Not to attack or unsult anyone..
Am hoping to hear a lot from the women here in this adult section.
blessings.


Proverbs 24:26-27 New King James Version (NKJV)

26 He who gives a right answer kisses the lips.

27 Prepare your outside work,
Make it fit for yourself in the field;
And afterward build your house.

Men, the number one thing a woman wants from a man is security. Both financial and protective.

Get your education, work at your career and your character, save some money for a down-payment on a home, then you won't have any trouble filling it.

And if you are a Christian, date only within your denomination and be equally yoked.
 
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This thread is like watching a train wreck......
It's horrific on so many levels yet you can't look away.

As to women losing weight, you are assuming she doesn't have a health issue that has caused the weight gain or makes it difficult for her to lose it. If a woman has thyroid issues or hormonal issues it makes it very difficult, even if she works out and eats right, to lose weight. I am all for people taking care of themselves but don't just assume stuff.

Guys shouldn't be told to bulk up anymore than a woman should be told to slim down. These are their decisions. If you don't like that a man isn't built like a tank, fine. If you don't like a woman who has some weight to lose, fine. Don't tear them down though.
 
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Guys shouldn't be told to bulk up anymore than a woman should be told to slim down. These are their decisions. If you don't like that a man isn't built like a tank, fine. If you don't like a woman who has some weight to lose, fine. Don't tear them down though.

Amen sista!
 
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This thread is like watching a train wreck......
It's horrific on so many levels yet you can't look away.

As to women losing weight, you are assuming she doesn't have a health issue that has caused the weight gain or makes it difficult for her to lose it. If a woman has thyroid issues or hormonal issues it makes it very difficult, even if she works out and eats right, to lose weight. I am all for people taking care of themselves but don't just assume stuff.

Guys shouldn't be told to bulk up anymore than a woman should be told to slim down. These are their decisions. If you don't like that a man isn't built like a tank, fine. If you don't like a woman who has some weight to lose, fine. Don't tear them down though.

This. This right here is EVERYTHING to me. Do you want to know why? I will tell you why.

I have sixty pounds to lose. Not a big deal, right? Ordinarily, it wouldn't be...but I have two thyroid diseases that are not curable and are part of the reason why I have difficulty in losing weight. I also have PCOS which has a huge contribution in my difficulty to lose weight. I do not have the luxury of having the money or car to attend a gym and have to be creative in order to meet my fitness goals, along with keeping my calories in the range I need them to be in order to lose at least half a pound each week. I have also experienced three times - not one but three times of a man, a Christian man, treating me in the most unfair and unGodly manner all because of my weight. I do not know you, @ImAllLikeOkWaitWhat, and I will not judge you or any man that has taken part of this thread, no matter how horrified or hurt I am by some of these responses and remarks. I like to think you have good intentions behind this and you are a good person, and have strong faith in the Lord. I am not here to argue. I am not here to start anything. In fact, I had told myself I wouldn't read this thread for my own sake but I am here anyway, and...yes. I am not quite sure what to say. I guess I just wanted to give insight into my own life and experiences. Never judge anyone by their weight and never break up with someone or make a 'compromise' with them, all because of their weight. That is all I have to say.
 
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