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I want you to try something for me. I have a food intolerance and one of the symptoms I have is anxiety and depression. Try a food elimination diet for a few days and see if it helps. Just google it and you'll find plenty of information on what to do. It made a huge difference for me but no doctor had ever mentioned it as a possibility to me. When you do it try to cut down or eliminate perfumes and chemical cleaners for a few days as well. They are full of toxins, neuro (brain)-toxins, carcinogenicity, hormone inhibitors, etc. It is also genetic and passes through the family.
 
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If E = mc2 then we can divide and conclude that...

Mass (m) = Energy (E/c2)

And there are three varieties...

Natural E/c2 - All mass is basically cooled plasma
Mental E/c2 - Mentally, A mathematical formula, but this has chemical and spiritual properties as well.
Spiritual E/c2 - E (motivation, warmth, love) / c2 (faith, hope, charity, joy)

The spiritual energy and light are very much different from the other two. Therefore it cannot be purchased or taught. It is something that happens. Johnny Cash and June Carter wrote a song that started...

We got married in a fever, hotter than a pepper sprout,
We've been talkin' 'bout Jackson, ever since the fire went out.

Somehow the fire died out of what once was a hot relationship. This can happen, leaving us humans to wonder what brought light unto us and how it dissipated away. I believe hearing from God is a seven step process...

1. The Outer Court - Justification - Faith to enter in.
2. The Altar - Salvation by acknowledging and believing on Jesus
3. The Laver - The clean effects of sanctification.
4. Table of Showbread – Partaking of the Word of God.
5. Light at the Lightstand - Faith, hope, charity, joy, grace, spiritual fruit, etc.
6. The Golden Incense Altar - Prayer and Praise meetings.
7. The Holy of Holies - The Shekinah Glory and Baptism of the Holy Ghost.

And there should be some kind of spiritual light and warmth that is good for the heart experienced along the way. We will keep you in our prayers

 
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Go for it my dear, pour your heart out, cry get it out of your system

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u2spicy - thank you for doing what you have done here. You have intervened in a very practical way and you have helped. You know what you are doing, and you are right.

Others of us see, and we feel the hurt, but we don't know what to do, and we're afraid to say anything because we don't want to make things worse out of ignorance.

So thank you for being the type of person who is armed with the knowledge of what to do, and then for stepping in to do it. The world needs more of you.
 
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@Vicomte13 , thank you for your kindness and support, but look at what you just wrote! That is wonderful. Look in the mirror. You are good enough and loving and saved enough and spirit filled enough to help.

Keep reading and studying and you will grow more in wisdom about these issues.

Me too.

I need to grow more on how to help, especially using more of g-ds word of grace and love and mercy.

I'm not too good at memorizing scripture that helps, but I need to be!

Just call me spice
 
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i dont mean to make my step dad an idol , i have moved his pic and letter i wrote him am saying good bye and the only pic of him in view is a family one
my husband says i talk a lot about missing him i never had therapy for my grief didnt get anyone to talk to about him being gone i bottle it up and later take it out on myself mostly either by selfinjury including eating disorder and actually cutting myself or hurting myself in some way ...My mental health has always been bad but its had gotten so bad that i cant go anywhere on my own now as my husband is scared i might end up at the train station and jump the tracks i have been getting help with my pastor but he has been off sick with an ear problems that was affecting his hearing and walking was also problems as he fell over trying to get ready in the morning he back now but isnt 100 % yet
we have had two appointments so far and so its going slowly

i love God with all my heart and soul mind and strength i just kinda scared of opening my heart soul mind and strength with everything i have i need Jesus in my life and am going to focus on him


If you can get to a community support group for grief, there are many people who would love to meet you and help you there, plus they give hugs too.

Can you or do you want to meet others who are grieving? they also would have a lot of ideas on coping.

another idea given to me is to make a memory box
 
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(((((( u2spicy ))))) thank you so much for what you wrote to me i feel better and more focused on God listening to positive christian music

Awesome!!

sometimes the only way out, is to go right through it

and G-od can make a way for you to get there by providing tools

one of them is Music!

Hey, any tunes help you more than others?

(((HUGS)))
 
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Go to klove.com and become a free member. You can join in a community and ask for prayer as well as request a pastor to call you. Also, you can refer to their play list to find your favorite songs, YAY!
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Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

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Sorry to start another post am struggling badly at the moment thoughts of self injury and suicide want to do something soon my husband knows am deeply depressed i have asked drs for help but they say its nothing to do with my medication this time of year is a bad time for me my step dad birthday he died 6 years ago by suicide and i miss him so much
they drs says i maybe ok after my step dad birthday its just this time of year getting to me
i am on medication but they will not sort it my regular dr is now on holiday my psych also says the same and has no appointment until August i feel i cant hold on until then i cant keep going with no help i dont have a therapist i see my pastor every few days but he has been off ill and he just came back from being ill i dont want to lay it all out while he still not 100 %
my husband tries to be supportive but he keeps saying i need to handle things better and that medication cant do everything i have to try and deal with it like an adult

its 6am my husband is sleeping am sitting up on my own on here alone i cant sleep and his plan for me not sleeping is tomorrow he going to turn the internet off between 4am and 7am so i dont get up so early

i need help and no one is helping me am meant to be going out to a group later on today my husband will be with me as i cant go out on my own its karaokie sometimes i sing but i dont feel up to it at all , just want to hide

am close to doing something stupid

I lost my Mother to cancer in 2000. My Father left me when I was very young. My Mother was my whole world. She worked herself to death, to feed, clothed us, and to put a roof over our heads. When she passed, I was so devastated, I didn't know what to do. I cried for months. What really crushed my soul, was witnessing my siblings fighting over her estate, like animals. To the point that they don't talk to each other. I know for a fact if my Mother witness this, she would be livid.

I feel alone, even though I have a family. I love them with all my heart. But nothing can replace my Mother. Oh, how I wish I could see her face again. To hear voice again. To feel her warm hugs filled with love. Oh, I wish! I reminiscent a lot about the times I spent with my Mother. How she sacrificed for us, always putting herself last. I always looked up to her. She is my role model. She is my strength. I wanted to make her proud of me. So I promised her, that I would be the best Father I could be. Though it was tough because I am introverted, and have a tough time expressly my feelings. I don't why?

I miss her so much, that I want to scream, how live is so unfair. I want her back so bad. But I know that is not going to happen. My hope and drive is that one day I will see her again. And I can wait for that day. But until that day, I will make her proud of the Son she raised. I know I am going to fall and fail many times over. Put I am going to get up and fight, like she taught me.

God works in mystery ways, dear friend. I know you do not know what I mean. But God has saved my from my misery. By sending His ONLY Son to save us. People are cruel and mean; even Family members. We must pray and love them with all our heart. Hoping that they will hear & believe in God's word and His Son to came to save the ungodly from their sins. It will be very hard to deal with people who are cruel & mean. But remember they need our help to share with them God's Merciful Gospel. I hope dear friend that you understand my words, because I understand your pain, loneliness, inside, I do.

If you need help with medication, google centers around you that can help. I know Pharmacy's will give partial refills, when the Doctor is not available. Do not give up sister, do not give in, fight. Find something to hold on too! A picture of your step Dad, reminiscent about the good time you had with him and fight. Make him proud, and live your life with love, joy, hope, happiness. Tell you husband how you feel, and if He doesn't get it. Have your Pastor come over to talk to him.
 
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I lost my Mother to cancer in 2000. My Father left me when I was very young. My Mother was my whole world. She worked herself to death, to feed, clothed us, and to put a roof over our heads. When she passed, I was so devastated, I didn't know what to do. I cried for months. What really crushed my soul, was witnessing my siblings fighting over her estate, like animals. To the point that they don't talk to each other. I know for a fact if my Mother witness this, she would be livid.

I feel alone, even though I have a family. I love them with all my heart. But nothing can replace my Mother. Oh, how I wish I could see her face again. To hear voice again. To feel her warm hugs filled with love. Oh, I wish! I reminiscent a lot about the times I spent with my Mother. How she sacrificed for us, always putting herself last. I always looked up to her. She is my role model. She is my strength. I wanted to make her proud of me. So I promised her, that I would be the best Father I could be. Though it was tough because I am introverted, and have a tough time expressly my feelings. I don't why?

I miss her so much, that I want to scream, how live is so unfair. I want her back so bad. But I know that is not going to happen. My hope and drive is that one day I will see her again. And I can wait for that day. But until that day, I will make her proud of the Son she raised. I know I am going to fall and fail many times over. Put I am going to get up and fight, like she taught me.

God works in mystery ways, dear friend. I know you do not know what I mean. But God has saved my from my misery. By sending His ONLY Son to save us. People are cruel and mean; even Family members. We must pray and love them with all our heart. Hoping that they will hear & believe in God's word and His Son to came to save the ungodly from their sins. It will be very hard to deal with people who are cruel & mean. But remember they need our help to share with them God's Merciful Gospel. I hope dear friend that you understand my words, because I understand your pain, loneliness, inside, I do.

If you need help with medication, google centers around you that can help. I know Pharmacy's will give partial refills, when the Doctor is not available. Do not give up sister, do not give in, fight. Find something to hold on too! A picture of your step Dad, reminiscent about the good time you had with him and fight. Make him proud, and live your life with love, joy, hope, happiness. Tell you husband how you feel, and if He doesn't get it. Have your Pastor come over to talk to him.
thank you so much for replying and posting to me am sorry to hear of about your mothers
i am going to talk to my husband about this he tries to understand he does try he has lost both of his grandfather and grandmother to cancer a few years ago he never talks about them much but he grieves in his own way ...i tend to hold on to everything i have to try and get over the past as well and look forward to my own future my life has been in pause for a long time thank you all for you posts
 
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Sorry to start another post am struggling badly at the moment thoughts of self injury and suicide want to do something soon my husband knows am deeply depressed i have asked drs for help but they say its nothing to do with my medication this time of year is a bad time for me my step dad birthday he died 6 years ago by suicide and i miss him so much
they drs says i maybe ok after my step dad birthday its just this time of year getting to me
i am on medication but they will not sort it my regular dr is now on holiday my psych also says the same and has no appointment until August i feel i cant hold on until then i cant keep going with no help i dont have a therapist i see my pastor every few days but he has been off ill and he just came back from being ill i dont want to lay it all out while he still not 100 %
my husband tries to be supportive but he keeps saying i need to handle things better and that medication cant do everything i have to try and deal with it like an adult

its 6am my husband is sleeping am sitting up on my own on here alone i cant sleep and his plan for me not sleeping is tomorrow he going to turn the internet off between 4am and 7am so i dont get up so early

i need help and no one is helping me am meant to be going out to a group later on today my husband will be with me as i cant go out on my own its karaokie sometimes i sing but i dont feel up to it at all , just want to hide

am close to doing something stupid
Sometimes a night can be so bleak and dark to us but remember the dawn is only below the horizon which is turning to break the light of day to us. Seasons are just longer manifestations of the same thing. Some winters are never ending but we know that is not true for the spring and new life are on their way and flocks will soon be singing their life-song. We need to hang in, cll upon the Lord and wait for Him trusting in the knowledge that He is there in our distress though obscured by our circumstance. Someday our faith will be our sight but while our eyes have trouble focusing know God has you and is telling you not to be afraid. The pain of loss can be searing. We miss loved ones and Jesus knew this, which is why He wept for Mary, though He knew He would raise Lazarus. Focus on the compassion and the mercy of the Lord and not on yourself. You can feed yourself on His fountain or your own so drink from His life giving cisterns. He loved the lepers, the broken, the desperate and all those who yearn for God. Is there any doubt He loves you just as much? Hold on! He is holding on to you!
 
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Sorry to bump this , i hope its ok for me to bump this
My niece just had another little girl she has a 2 year old called Ava and the little one is called Charlotte she is a small baby and i have yet to meet her , My OCD sometimes makes me have thoughts about hurting people normally i dont let the thoughts get to me but am so distressed by the thougghs am having at the moment ...my niece lives on the top floor of an 6 in a block of flats am worried ill do something to harm the little one i was like this also when ava was born but i was fine just kinda nervous about meeting her

am sure ill be fine going on thurdsday to see the 3 of them
 
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thank you feeling a bit better
Am getting ready for church at the moment i always live church praising Jesus makes me feel happy i have a good mood all day after i feel very happy today despite what my thoughts are and that what they are just thoughts and not actions dont mean ill turn thoses thoughts into actions plus i have Jesus at my side always
 
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